The truth about momming
What momming is all about
Hey mom, tired and worn out but still staying awake till 11 o’clock just to get some me-time, I see you. I am one of them right now. Its 10:22pm right now, I’m sniffing, my head is spinning, my eyes are barely open, but I had to write this down for my sanity. It’s the only time I have. My hair is a mess too.
Being alone in the bathroom is an absolute no-no. When I close the bathroom door, I commit a crime. Nathaniel my son, immediately comes banging on the door. He gives me this certain look when I open the door. I cannot take a shower and use the bathroom alone anymore. He sometimes wants to breastfeed when I am busy in the bathroom.
There is no sick-day. As a mommy you can’t take off sick. There’s always too much momming to do. Here I am nursing a flu and a mad headache, but my son needs me. He has flu and cough. That makes him a bit clingy. So sick day for mom moves to the side.
You are a feeding machine as a mom. There are days when he is not well and constantly wants to breastfeed for comfort. This makes me literally sore sometimes.
Momming does not have lazy days. There’s no sleep-ins days for me. Even when I sleep past 11 at night, we wake up at 9am everyday for a new day. When I try to sleep in, he gets bored and starts to cry.
Momming means you get random hugs. And always be ready to be touched.
Momming means other people will judge you. Iv had many people tell me to
- put a hat on my son
- carry an umbrella it’s too hot
- don’t let him do that
- You are doing this and that wrongly
- Worse off if he cries in public, I look like a bad parent
That one day you didn’t carry extra clothes for him, is the day he will have a blow over and you got nothing to change him.
I have also had people ask me if I am his nanny. Because my son is a mixed race, but he looks more Indian. I get stares everywhere I go when I am with him. And unsolicited advice from people who think they know better. One Indian aunty told me I was carrying my son the wrong way.
Being a mother means you think out of the box. You come up with the strangest things just to keep your little one going and surprisingly it works.
Momming means you are a maid, always cleaning up after them.
Momming means all the gross little things are not gross anymore like poop, throw up and pee. You constantly must deal with these things.
Momming means you can a sudden reflex that you never had. This reflex kicks in when your baby is at the brink of falling or making a mistake and mom is there to catch him. I was a very bad sleeper. I would move to the side of the bed and sleep in any position and a deep sleeper before I became a mom. I was afraid to squash my baby or not hear my baby when I sleep. All that went down the drain. I now sleep as light as a feather and can hear everything concerning my child.
Momming means you forget silly things except anything concerning your child. Pregnancy and Mom brain are real.
Momming means you gain a wisdom called mommy instinct that helps you take care of your child. Moms know best. You will be able to foretell the future, lol.
Momming gives you the strength to go forward even on very little energy.
Motherhood means you become an extra superhero when there is an emergency concerning your child. I remember my mom speeding to the doctor, with my little brother on her lap, almost unconscious, because he had fits from a high temperature. Up to this day I have no idea how we arrived at the hospital safely.
You pick up lots of new skills that you never thought you would have as a mom. I hated cooking. I now enjoy it as a mother. I have also picked up photography, I began my blog when I became a mother. I quit my job and became a SAHM.
You automatically put your child needs first as a mother.
There’s no such a thing as being tired as a mother. Your child simply won’t understand that part. You are a hardworking machine.
Once a mother always a mother. You understand and feel for other moms when you see them struggling in public.
It’s hard to go shopping alone. Yet alone buy something for you as a mother. Mom guilt is real.
You have a heart for only your kids. Many women mature when they become a mother.
You are constantly second guessing yourself as a mother to see if you are doing the right thing. Most times I feel incompetent. But many people have told me I am doing a good job. My mother has pointed out to me many times that motherhood looks good on me. I guess if Nathaniel is growing well and still alive that’s a good thing.
In conclusion and most of all motherhood is life changing, challenging, single most wonderful thing in the world. No one really understands what motherhood entails till they become one. How much love I feel for my son foregoes every woe of being a mother. Plus being a mother is a blessing. I am grateful for it.
Cheers to motherhood! Let’s drink to that.
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