Stay At Home Mom SAHM

Self-care as a SAHM

When I became a mom, especially as a Stay At Home Mom, I quickly learned that I have no time for myself. Self-care as a SAHM did not exist. Its either I was too busy taking care of baby, cleaning the house, cooking or taking care of my husband that self was pushed to the back door.

Self care as a SAHM

Self-care became a far-fetched dream that I once had before kids, marriage and SAHM life. I had an enlightening moment, I wrote about it in this post and I decided to write this concurring post. Above all else, self-care as a SAHM should be very important on your list.

“Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.”

Katie Reed

What is self?

According to the online dictionary: “Self is a person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others…”

What is self-care?

Self-care is the practice of taking deliberate action in order to preserve and improve our mental, emotional, physical health, well-being and happiness. Self-care should be practiced as often as possible.

Why is self-care important?

“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”.

Andre Lorde

Self-care is important because it improves our general well-being. It enhances our productivity, self-esteem, outlook to life and helps to build our immune system. Self-care is like ‘coffee in the morning’ that gives a boost, a wake-up call and encouraging a positive outlook to overcome each day’s challenges.

Why is self care as a SAHM important

What does self-care mean to me?

For me, it’s in the small things as a mom. Self-care involves taking a lovely hot shower alone without disturbances, soaking in essential oil baths especially in lavender essential oil, drinking hot chocolate, watching a movie, getting a massage from my husband, writing in my blog.

I also enjoy drinking a cold glass of fruit juice, googling nonsense, getting my hair and nails done, shopping once in a while, indulging in chocolate cake (I love chocolate cake), receiving flowers from my husband (especially red roses), taking walks around the complex or at the mall, looking at beautiful sunsets, taking pictures of nature and beautiful sunsets and laying in the grass in the backyard at home etc.

“Clutter is not just physical stuff. Its old ideas, toxic relationships, and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self.” .

Eleanor Brownn

Why should you be practicing self-care as a SAHM?

The answer to this question is simple to be a less stressful, happier, more present mother, you need to practice self-care. Children especially young children sense and portray moms’ mood. In other words: if you are happier your child and your home will be a much happier place to live in.

You will stress less that will boost your immune system because stress has lots of unpleasant effects on the body. Most importantly you will be you and loving and celebrating who you are. When you practice self-care as a SAHM your perspective changes, your world is better, happier, self-rewarding and much stronger.

“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”

Eleanor Brownn

Elements of Self and ideas on practicing self-care as a SAHM:

Elements of self

When we look at self. Each element of self should be taken care of. Remember self-care works best by doing something you love to do when you enjoy doing it and not force or beat yourself down. Therefore, we look at the different aspects of self and things to do to practice self-care which are:

  • Emotional: Anti-stress adult coloring, forgiveness, kindness, practicing talking and communication rather than yelling, anger management classes (can also be found online), cry-it-out method and comedy.

“If you can find a reason to laugh every day, you’ll find that your mood will improve, your relationships with others will seem more meaningful and effortless, and life’s hurdles won’t seem so daunting.”

Dr. Cynthia Thaik
Self-care elements:
  • Environmental: organization, natural healthy living, repurposing, recycling, diffusing essential oils, using essential oils for cleaning (laundry, dishes), deep house cleaning, relaxing in nature (like a park) and decluttering.
  • Financial: saving, opening a home-based online business, buying in groceries bulk, buying yourself one expensive thing from time to time and couponing.  
  • Personal: practicing hobbies and creativity (crafting, photography, swimming, dancing, phone games, writing, blogging, sewing, pottery, knitting, gardening, scrapbooking, art, journaling, baking, beading, gratitude and or bullet journaling), Mom quiet me-time, saying no when necessary, shopping alone, getting nails, make-up and hair done, enjoying a facial and or a massage, having a glass of relaxing drink, tea, coffee, personal grooming, watching TV series and a long hot relaxing essential oil bath with lit candles and soft music in the background.
Other elements of self include:
  • Physical: detoxing the body, eating healthy, drinking water, exercise, resting, taking a brisk or relaxing walk, yoga sessions, diffusing and purifying the air, switching off and taking a breather outside the house.
  • Professional (Work): planning, online home-based business, general business, working or studying part-time, taking an online course on Udemy and learning something new.
As well as these elements:
  • Psychological: reading, tuning out and cutting those bad voices, friends and negative people in your life, cutting yourself some slack, listening to music, practice self-positive affirmations, getting a cleaner for your home, part-time childcare, stop comparing yourself to others, ask for help from husband, family and friends, self-forgiveness, going for rehabilitation and stopping or cutting down on a bad habit.
  • Social: going out with friends, going to the movies, eating out, visiting friends and family and social phone calls.
  • Spiritual: attending religious meetings, reading religious books, investing in spiritual ornaments, practicing meditation, joining spiritual groups and prayer.
“Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.” Cecilia Tran.

In conclusion: Self-care as a SAHM means that you don’t forget to feed you, cloth you, heal you, clean you, build you, save you, find a point of release. That is to say that you are making yourself a better person, change you, cultivate, learn, mature you and fight for you.

Other people are simply a helping hand to your existence, but you do you. As a result of practicing self-care as a SAHM your perspective changes, your world is better, happier, self-rewarding and much stronger.

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Good read: I’m not a bad mom for wanting some me-time.

Cheers MrsChettyLife.


June 18, 2019 at 6:06 pm

Excellent points! I’m a SAHM myself, and it is so difficult to carve out time for me. It feels guilty or selfish but I’m trying to overcome that. I know it is for my own good. And I love your simple ideas! Great article!

June 18, 2019 at 6:30 pm

Such a good reminder of how self care is important!

June 18, 2019 at 8:36 pm

Great post! Starting a blog was the best thing I’ve ever done as a SAHM! That and investing in a hobby. Thanks for these wonderful ideas.

June 18, 2019 at 11:31 pm

Self care is so so so important, I love how you broke it down into so many elements. There’s a lot there. No excuses, no way to skip self care with this list to check!

June 19, 2019 at 3:47 am

Wonderful tips and breakdown of the different types of self care. We moms need to support eachother and recognize these things more!

June 19, 2019 at 4:00 am

I’ve always stressed with my friends before that self-care is really important no matter what your passion in life is. Moms, especially stay at home moms, should really find time for self-care as they give so much of themselves to their family. This post is very helpful to start self-care routine even if its just a couple of hours or a full day.

June 19, 2019 at 12:45 pm

Mom self-care is so important. I had to learn this the hard way. After having my first daughter, I really lost myself in motherhood + being a wife. After my second daughter, I got a little better at this. After my third, I feel like a pro.

It is so important to take care of yourself as a mom first so that you are not depleted + are available to take care of those who depend on you. It is the exact same thing as when the flight attendant tells you to put your oxygen mask on first before helping a small child put on theirs. If mom isn’t breathing, nobody is breathing 🙂

Take care of yourselves, Mamas!

June 19, 2019 at 3:41 pm

Yes! I love this. Self care is so important for SAHMs and everyone!

June 19, 2019 at 7:30 pm

I love it when my husband tells me I’m looking run down. My usual answer to that is, “I don’t have time for self-care.” He looks confused. It’s just something that he does naturally. Without any thought to it!

Great points on all. And like you, I like to have a leisurely shower without distractions. It’s a miracle when it happens for longer than three minutes!

June 20, 2019 at 6:05 pm

Yes self-care is essential for everyone. It isn’t selfish. Actually it can be thought of more on the selfless side because by taking care of ourselves we are more equipped to take care of those who depend on us. Great list!

June 22, 2019 at 10:21 pm

Girl, yes to all of this! Self-care is a necessity. We had to take care of ourselves to be anything for other. One of favorite quotes states, “self care is not me first; self care is me too.” Love this!

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