When I became a mom, especially as a Stay At Home Mom, I quickly learned that I have no time for myself. Self-care as a SAHM did not exist. Its either I was too busy taking care of baby, cleaning the house, cooking or taking care of my husband that self was pushed to the back door.
Self-care became a far-fetched dream that I once had before kids, marriage and SAHM life. I had an enlightening moment, I wrote about it in this post and I decided to write this concurring post. Above all else, self-care as a SAHM should be very important on your list.
“Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.”Katie Reed
What is self?
According to the online dictionary: “Self is a person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others…”
What is self-care?
Self-care is the practice of taking deliberate action in order to preserve and improve our mental, emotional, physical health, well-being and happiness. Self-care should be practiced as often as possible.
Why is self-care important?
“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”.Andre Lorde
Self-care is important because it improves our general well-being. It enhances our productivity, self-esteem, outlook to life and helps to build our immune system. Self-care is like ‘coffee in the morning’ that gives a boost, a wake-up call and encouraging a positive outlook to overcome each day’s challenges.
What does self-care mean to me?
For me, it’s in the small things as a mom. Self-care involves taking a lovely hot shower alone without disturbances, soaking in essential oil baths especially in lavender essential oil, drinking hot chocolate, watching a movie, getting a massage from my husband, writing in my blog.
I also enjoy drinking a cold glass of fruit juice, googling nonsense, getting my hair and nails done, shopping once in a while, indulging in chocolate cake (I love chocolate cake), receiving flowers from my husband (especially red roses), taking walks around the complex or at the mall, looking at beautiful sunsets, taking pictures of nature and beautiful sunsets and laying in the grass in the backyard at home etc.
“Clutter is not just physical stuff. Its old ideas, toxic relationships, and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self.” .Eleanor Brownn
Why should you be practicing self-care as a SAHM?
The answer to this question is simple to be a less stressful, happier, more present mother, you need to practice self-care. Children especially young children sense and portray moms’ mood. In other words: if you are happier your child and your home will be a much happier place to live in.
You will stress less that will boost your immune system because stress has lots of unpleasant effects on the body. Most importantly you will be you and loving and celebrating who you are. When you practice self-care as a SAHM your perspective changes, your world is better, happier, self-rewarding and much stronger.
“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”Eleanor Brownn
Elements of Self and ideas on practicing self-care as a SAHM:
When we look at self. Each element of self should be taken care of. Remember self-care works best by doing something you love to do when you enjoy doing it and not force or beat yourself down. Therefore, we look at the different aspects of self and things to do to practice self-care which are:
- Emotional: Anti-stress adult coloring, forgiveness, kindness, practicing talking and communication rather than yelling, anger management classes (can also be found online), cry-it-out method and comedy.
“If you can find a reason to laugh every day, you’ll find that your mood will improve, your relationships with others will seem more meaningful and effortless, and life’s hurdles won’t seem so daunting.”Dr. Cynthia Thaik
- Environmental: organization, natural healthy living, repurposing, recycling, diffusing essential oils, using essential oils for cleaning (laundry, dishes), deep house cleaning, relaxing in nature (like a park) and decluttering.
- Financial: saving, opening a home-based online business, buying in groceries bulk, buying yourself one expensive thing from time to time and couponing.
- Personal: practicing hobbies and creativity (crafting, photography, swimming, dancing, phone games, writing, blogging, sewing, pottery, knitting, gardening, scrapbooking, art, journaling, baking, beading, gratitude and or bullet journaling), Mom quiet me-time, saying no when necessary, shopping alone, getting nails, make-up and hair done, enjoying a facial and or a massage, having a glass of relaxing drink, tea, coffee, personal grooming, watching TV series and a long hot relaxing essential oil bath with lit candles and soft music in the background.
Other elements of self include:
- Physical: detoxing the body, eating healthy, drinking water, exercise, resting, taking a brisk or relaxing walk, yoga sessions, diffusing and purifying the air, switching off and taking a breather outside the house.
- Professional (Work): planning, online home-based business, general business, working or studying part-time, taking an online course on Udemy and learning something new.
As well as these elements:
- Psychological: reading, tuning out and cutting those bad voices, friends and negative people in your life, cutting yourself some slack, listening to music, practice self-positive affirmations, getting a cleaner for your home, part-time childcare, stop comparing yourself to others, ask for help from husband, family and friends, self-forgiveness, going for rehabilitation and stopping or cutting down on a bad habit.
- Social: going out with friends, going to the movies, eating out, visiting friends and family and social phone calls.
- Spiritual: attending religious meetings, reading religious books, investing in spiritual ornaments, practicing meditation, joining spiritual groups and prayer.
“Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.” Cecilia Tran.
In conclusion: Self-care as a SAHM means that you don’t forget to feed you, cloth you, heal you, clean you, build you, save you, find a point of release. That is to say that you are making yourself a better person, change you, cultivate, learn, mature you and fight for you.
Other people are simply a helping hand to your existence, but you do you. As a result of practicing self-care as a SAHM your perspective changes, your world is better, happier, self-rewarding and much stronger.
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