Resilient. This word has been on my heart for a while now. I finally sat down to let it out. A baby has the natural ability to bounce back from something. My son could be crying for 15 minutes non-stop for whatever reason. Maybe because I took his socks off and we had a terrible meltdown. A few minutes later, the same baby who was madly sad and angry is happily playing and laughing like nothing happened.
No matter how sick or ill my son is, he always finds joy, a reason to smile, to play and to freely give hugs. The mood switch is like the snap of a finger. Most times, I’m the one who remains sulking or worrying about someone who seems just fine.
Sometimes we can be at the Doctors’ office and the Doctor says well he looks just fine – till closer examination. Other times a simple distraction during a meltdown makes whatever was so desperately bad, forgotten just like that. How do they do this? We may wonder. You can be resilient as a baby is too.
What does it mean to be resilient?
In my understanding Resilience is the ability to bounce back. For example, a rubber band that has been stretched to its’ limit going back to its original stature and size. It means adaption in the presence of difficulty.
According to the Oxford online dictionary, Resilient means able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. Another meaning could be able to recoil or spring back into shape after bending stretching or being compressed.
Synonyms of resilient
- Full of life
Why should you practice resilience like a baby?
If we all gave up when we were babies, none of us would be here now.
- A baby never holds a grudge.
- They let things go easily.
- A baby trusts and hopes for good.
- While finding something good and creative in a tough situation.
- A baby cries it out. Yes, sometimes a good cry lets it all out and we feel much better after.
- As well as a baby will hug and show love to whatever made them cry.
- A baby sees a future and a hope.
- Never giving up and trying again.
- Making an effort to get better and do better.
- A baby will forgive for themselves to feel better.
- Uses creativity to find good or laugh out a situation.
- Laugh and cry at the same time.
This reminds me of a jingle my son listens to. The jingle teaches us resilience, to never give up, that the floods will come, but the sun will come shining too. So, get up and try again.
“The itsy-bitsy spider went up the waterspout, down came the rain and washed the spider out. Out came the sun and dried up all the rain. So the itsy-bitsy spider went up the spout again.”-Author unknown-
Ways to practice resilience.
Patience with yourself, with life and with everyone around you.
Let things go. Don’t harbor hurts and pains. Grow from them, use them as a weapon to help you grow and inspire others. Use your pains to encourage someone.
Seek help. Sometimes a little nudge for someone else gives you that push and desire to be resilient.
Find a reason to smile. Stay true to your calling and your path.
Keep striving, pushing, putting yourself out there. Advertising your business on Social Media.
Flexibility. Adapt to change.
Practice gratitude. It helps you reshape and refocus to look things in a positive manner.
Be positive in everything. 1 Corinthians 10:31
Remember that there is a season and time for everything. Ecclesiastes 3.
When you have been knocked down, rise up again, Proverbs 24:16.
Never give up.
Save during the times of plenty for the times when you will have nothing.
Listen to podcasts, music, read uplifting posts that will encourage you.
Talk it out, write it down, scream, let it out.
Take a nature walk.
Join a movement for a better cause. Like going green for example.
Help someone else who walking through the shoes you have passed through.
Learn from mistakes and lessons, move on from them and make them better.
Give good advice, praise and / or words of encouragement to someone else.
Our foundation should be in Christ for us to pursue resilience in all its glory. Because then we know for certain that nothing can separate us from the love of Christ.
“WHEN you pass through the waters, I will be with you.” Note that it says When, not maybe or if. This means that we will pass through the waters and we will stand.
We read that Peter requested that he walk on water with Jesus, Jesus said come. For the first minutes, Peter walked with him. He was distracted by the waves and the wind. Peter got scared and began to sink.
This teaches us that resilience means that we keep our eyes and our faith on Him, on God. Even through the stormy weather (Mark 4:35-41) He is with us. We should call on Him and He will help us. Our God doesn’t force his way on us. We need to call on Him.
2 Corinthians 4:8-9 (you may carry on to number 12):
“We are pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair, persecuted, but not abandoned, struck down but not destroyed.”
The whole reason of Christ coming to earth was resilience. He left His splendor and glory to become human like us. He died the worst way, shamefully on the cross like a common criminal because He knew He would bounce back.
He came back (rose again) even better than before defeating death. From birth, Christ knew His mission. He knew the pain it would cause but He didn’t shy from it. Because He was resilient. He knew it was for the better good.
In conclusion: How to stay resilient during tough times: Know your calling. Follow your teaching. Have Faith and hope. Be like Jesus. Be like a baby. Now resilience doesn’t mean you should be walked and pushed over. It means being strong enough to know when you have had enough, doing something about it and being better. Life can and will be a pain sometimes. What matters is how resilient you are going to be.
‘When the going gets tough, the tough get going.’Joseph P. Kennedy
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This version of itsy-bitsy spider.