The other day, I posted in my Stay At Home Mom group. I just feel so tired, exhausted, drained and finished. I was wondering if this is normal. Is being a SAHM so darn hard? I only have one boy. He is 5 and a half months. How do people with more than one feel and manage?
My body seems to be failing me. The little irritating aches and pains are getting to me. Somehow through it when my baby needs me, boom I’m there, all smiles and energetic.
This is a summary of what my SAHMs had to say
We all go through this at some stage. You are giving and giving but are you taking care of you?
That’s when it hit me. I am overwhelmed. Me. Me. Me. It sounds so selfish to think of me when my baby needs me. When my husband needs me. I need to clean the house. I also need to prepare food. What about me needing me?
But then I shot myself in the foot because I posted earlier talking about taking care of myself so I can take care of others well. Blah blah. It’s easier said than done but so important. Think of it like a broken machine that needs oil. No matter what you do that machine will be rusty and slow.
Till you put in oil, it will function much better.
It’s so overwhelming. I forget to drink water, have a healthy meal, relax in the bath, not think and stress. Sit down and drink hot chocolate. Coffee is gross since pregnancy so that’s not an option for me. One lady literally screamed in my ear ‘DRINK WATER’ persistently.
I tried that yesterday you know. Drinking water. It’s something I haven’t done in a while. I had like 3 glasses of it throughout the day and that helped. My headache eased and my body felt calmer. So thank you lady WATER helps.
I was encouraged that other women felt the same way and I wasn’t just losing my mind.
So what do you need to do when you feel overwhelmed SAHM?
Take a break. If you got no one to take baby away for a bit of time. Take a break when he sleeps. Do something that cheers you on.
- Drink lots of water.
- Play some music.
- Go for a walk alone to the grocery store.
- Lock yourself in your bathroom, make sure baby is in a safe place first and scream or shout.
- If you do have someone, have them hold baby for a bit while you shut the door and pass out.
- Allow your SO, MIl, SIL, BIL, granny to take care of baby or cook dinner. Buy take aways once in a while. Or ready-made dinner with Checkers’ Ready to Chef meal in South Africa.
- Let the dishes and house chores slide.
- Spend all day in bed if you can.
- Hire a nanny for the day while you rest.
- Get house cleaning help.
- Buy yourself some comfy, fluffy house shoes. And a beautiful flowy gown.
Pamper yourself. Go to a spa if you can. Better yet make your own DIY spa. YouTube has lots if tutorials on that.
Other things to do when you feel overwhelmed:
- Do your hair and nails. Put some make up and perfume on. If you look good, it helps to make you feel good.
Sit outside and get some fresh air.
- Have some fruits, oranges for vitamin C. Some ladies from the group suggested multivitamins.
- Take it easy on yourself. Don’t bend over for small things. Your house will never be sparkling clean.
- Watch comedy movies. Dance, laugh, create. Laughter is good for the soul. Refocus.
- Read a book or short story.
- Listen to your favorite podcasts.
Some more Tips to stay sane:
- Join your local library for fun events. Have hope that it gets easier as time goes on and you figure yourself out as a SAHM.
- Have you time. Why? Because you matter. Join and connect with other moms.
- Go out everyday. Don’t suffocate yourself and your baby the four corners of your house. You will lose your sanity.
Smile. Look at the good. Shift your concentration and mindset. Why are you doing this? What is the good in it?
- Talk to someone in a similar situation like I did. It helped me feel much better and they gave me good advice.
- What motivates you? Do that.
- Eat healthy snacks. Or indulge in that fantasy of chocolates you have been craving for. Just for today.
- Cry it out. Yes when the tears want to flow don’t stop them. A good cry let’s all the frustration out.
- Hey, remember that hobby that you loved to do but don’t have time to do it anymore. You can do it when baby is asleep. Even if it’s a few minutes of it. Take advantage of the quiet time while it lasts.
Baby wearing frees your hands so you can do other staff for you. Blog. Do something towards your blog. Schedule, research or read comments. Tell yourself this all the time: ‘I matter. I will take care of me’. Love yourself.
Most of all sleep. Take a nap. Rest when baby rests. Get off your phone, off social media and sleep. That reminds me, I gotta go to rest now.
We are all in the deep end and not sure how to do it, just winging it and hoping for the best as one mama told me.
In conclusion, It’s ok to have down days and feel overwhelmed. When you do take a step back and relax. Just a reminder, incase you forgot: HEY, Super Hero Mama you got this! You are doing a wonderful job. Believe in yourself. Take care of you. Cut yourself some slack.
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