Dear First Time Mother
Becoming a mother is the single wonderful and yet most challenging thing. I see you FTM, sitting up at night when you are supposed to be sleeping, staring at the tiny beautiful human.
Your body has gone through major shifts and changes. Starting with pregnancy, birth and now postpartum. You are worried and unsure. What will you do with this little screaming baby. I was afraid I would squash him, you know, he was very tiny. Guess what your mind has done a major shift too. It has made room for your baby, you have aquired this 6th sense that caters for your babys needs. Motherly instinct is a real thing. You know what best for your baby.
FTM, trust and believe in yourself. You have never done this before. But your body knows just what to do. These nine months where not for your babys growth alone. It also gave you time to fit into motherly shoes. Yes, you will go through a bit of trail and error, but you will get there soon enough.
Keep holding on, don’t let go. Its a small phase that you will miss some day. Your baby is new to this too. S/He needs a lot of adjusting, as so do you. When you buy new brakes for a car, they will screach until they fit perfectly.
FTM, don’t compare yourself to others. We are all different, our babies are all different. Your pace can’t be compared to another, because your ride is different. Plus no one is perfect. Even seemingly perfect moms have days when everything just doesn’t work out.
You are enough.
You are all your baby needs, comfort, love, food and care. You are the whole package. This calls to you taking care of yourself for your baby. When we were created, everything we need was put right inside us. You gotta dig into your innner self and reach for it. You can do this mom. You are enough.
Your baby loves you. You are your babys first love. Your baby depends on you. Your baby trusts you. You gain a sudden reflex that you never had. You know when your baby is in danger and you do something about it. A lot of you is in this baby, so it’s a little like a photocopy of you. You are the centre of your babys world.
No one understands your baby better than you.
Experts will tell you this and that. Advise you. But at the end of the day, no one knows your baby better than you. Follow your instinct. A mother knows best.
Your little one won’t always be this tiny. Embrace every moment. The good and the bad. Live in the moment. Time flies. You are not alone. There are mom groups, books, internet, YouTube videos, Your mother, aunt, friends .Don’t be afraid to ask when you need help. Your doctor and your baby will give you cues as well.
Motherhood is a journey. No matter how prepared you are for it, the plot twists.
Don’t give up when it does. You are diverse, twist yourself to fit in the plot. Sometimes just go with the flow. If you need someone to talk to, hit reply and let me know how you feel.
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