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Show love to your baby.

A baby experiences love differently because a baby does not really understand words from the beginning. Have you ever seen an uncontrollable baby who just melts in the arms of a parent? My son does this too many times. The question is how do we show love to our baby in a language they understand?

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Show love to your baby by:

  1. Hugs and kisses: touch is a sole language for a baby. Touch sends signals to the brain that make them feel calm and feel good. That is a big way to show love to your baby. So hold them close to you. Trust me, the bigger they get the more independent they become and you will miss these profound memories and opportunities. My son now reprociates hugs and kisses. He will be in the middle of play and randomly come and give me a hug and kiss. My heart melts. The morning cuddles are also the best, special and sweet. Practice baby massage on them. It’s easy, relaxing and calming.
  2. Listening and attending to their cues and cries: Have you ever interacted with someone who doesn’t speak your language? But you notice this person is hurt by their cries. This person reaches out and give you a hug or picks what fell on the floor and hands it to you. Better yet gives a helping hand when your hands are overflowing. Doesn’t it feel good to know that even though you don’t speak the same language. Responding to your babies cries and cues tells them that you care enough to soothe them. This builds trust. They begin to trust you, when something is wrong, they trust you will make it ok. Sometimes my son just cries and I must automatically know what he wants. Even though he is 14 months and can now communicate without crying. Babies giggles are so sweet, real and cute.
  3. Play with them. Make them 😂 laugh. Laughter is the best medicine. I make a conscious decision to give my son a few minutes of undivided attention and play with them. Play peekaboo. Kick the ball. Drive his toy cars. He appreciates the attention and he smiles. Sing and dance with them. Take them outside and enjoy a walk and few minutes of fresh air. We like to lay down out in the yard on the grass.
  4. Take care of them by catering for their basic needs: a humans basic needs are food, water, sleep and shelter. As long as these basic needs are met then you will have a happy chappy. I was informed in my prenatal classes that if a baby cries check if they are hungry or if the nappy is wet or if they are not uncomfortable (something is poking them). Of course a baby doesn’t need water till after a 8 months to a year old. Water is provided in breast milk.

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  1. Speak kind words to them: a baby picks up on the tone of your voice. They know when you speak kindly and when you speak harshly to them. Set the standard. Your baby will one day immitate what you do. They will speak harshly to you because it is what you taught them. I saw this memo on Facebook, raise them kind. And remember one day they will have relationships too, whatever you tea h them now will affect them for many years to come. They are human beings too. I guess you wouldn’t like to be yelled at all the time. It matters to them too. Children are never too young to know who is nice and who is mean. That’s why they agree for some people to hold them and others not. A baby senses who you are by your ♥ heart. It will also be easier for them to learn to speak by you speaking to them.
  2. Pay attention to them: my son doesn’t like it when I am on the phone too long( he steals my phone and runs away or he sits and picks his fingers on my phone) , or when I cook or do dishes, he doesn’t like it when I read or when my husband and I cuddle. He knows that when I do all these unnecessary things my attention is not on him. And he sure loves my attention. This is why I make an intentional undivided play specifically for him. My son will not always be this young. And these moments will never come again. Plus paying attention to your baby helps to avoid some unnecessary injuries. Parents develop a reflex that helps keeps children safe. Or to put it in way man’s terms mommy instinct.
  3. Bath them. My son has always loved his baths. It is a direct way to calm and relax him. When he is fussy or has a sore tummy, a bath is the answer. He now looks forward to a bath because he knows it’s an opportunity to splash 💦 and play.
  4. Discernment: I mentioned earlier that mommy instinct plays along. Before I had my son, when we were pregnant, I would always worry how I will take care of this little person. But mommy instinct came after I gave birth to him. It is also discernment. Mom can fortel the future. Picture this, you tell your baby so many times not to do that you will hurt yourself. Few minutes later that happens. I call that discernment.any times you just know that something is not right with your baby and you rush them to the hospital, only to find out you were right. Even if you aren’t better be safe than sorry.

These are other ways as well:

  1. Pray for your baby: I always look up to prayer when I know its something I can’t handle and it’s out of my hands. Prayer gives good vibes and safety on your child for the future and for the present. There is power in prayer. And this is a good way to show love to your baby. If something is meaningful to you and you care about it, you pray for them.
  2. Read with them and show interest in what they do: one thing I would love my son to do and learn from me is to read and write. Because this is something I love to do and I love my son. So combine the two things I love. Even when I’m dead and gone I would love my son to remember me through reading and writing. It’s the purpose of this blog. One day he will read everything I am writing to him here. And that’s what I would love my legacy to be. And reading helps you dream big.
  3. Help them: another way to show love to your baby is helping them through difficult things. Through places, they can’t reach. Help by asking for help through prayer and at the doctors. Life always needs a helping hand. Grown-up people who have strained relationships with their parents complain about this one thing where we’re you when I needed you? So be there for your baby and help them.
  4. Speaking to them and making soothing sounds: you are the first person a child learns to speak from. I tell my son’s stories, we have a conversation. He listens to my voice. There’s a scripture in the Bible that says my sheep know my voice. Speak to them, make soothing noises. When your baby was in your womb one thing that stood out to them is your voice and your heartbeat. Your voice reassuringimg to them. They love your voice and the funny quirks and sounds it makes. Plus you are teaching them to speak and converse. And it makes life so much easier when they can speak.

Show love to your baby by learning how they communicate to you.

How does a baby communicate with you:

Crying is the basic way of them communicating with you. They can’t speak so they cry.

Baby talk as they grow older babies begin what is called baby talk. You will learn the fancy words they use for certain things the more time you spend with them. 😉

Body language: reading a babies body language is one way they talk. When my son hurts himself he holds whatever thing he hurt and I know how to soothe him. And make sure he is OK. In my first aid class they said we should watch for warning signs when something is wrong: is your little one bleeding? vomiting? eyes rolling up? If there is rush to the emergency room. That all comes in body language. Some people say it’s also easy to teach a baby sign language, they use it before they can speak.

Lastly learn your baby’s love language. You will know the Perks of what your baby likes and answer to the love language when you do this. This is a way to show love to your baby. You may read from for more info.

Cheers, happy mothering.

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Earn extra income as a SAHM

IncomeTried and sure ways to earn an extra income as a SAHM. One of the big decision makers when considering being a SAHM is income (finance). It usually requires that you have to cut down on lots of things because you will be relying on one income. Another way could be for you to do these things online or with your kids. Use these tips to earn extra income as a SAHM.

How to save when living on one salary:

  • Pay off all debt before hand
  • Budgeting
  • Saving
  • Cutting down on luxuries
  • Cash back apps
  • Buy in bulk
  • Cheaper (shop brand) version
  • Make your own DIY
  • Giving
  • Buy Long lasting clothes
  • Buy from second hand shops (thrifting)
  • Reuse and Recycle
  • Get creative
  • Use less (avoid careless use and spending)
  • Gardening – plant your own garden for veggies and other things you can grow in your back yard.

What can you do to earn extra income as a SAHM:

Freelancing: copywriting, social media management, web developing, writing, editing and proofreading etc

Survey taking: If you have the patience for surveys, you may do this. You may do small tasks, fill in questionnaires, play games for a price or a voucher. I found this a little slow because they required you to do so many tasks for a small price. You could do product testing.

Cash back apps: I am currently using SnapnScan, it is a South African based app. You book groceries that you are going to buy, scan your grocery slip and you get cash back off the items you booked.

Run errands with Uber or taxify or lyft: you may sign up for Uber, taxify or lyft. You may sign up as a delivery driver or errand runner.

Domestic house keeping and house or pet sitting

Piece work: if you are good at gardening, you may offer to clean someone’s yard for a price, take care of the children (baby sitting).

Make your own goods to sell on Shopify: candle making, essential oils, digital products, printables, jewellery making, soap making, anything that you are good at making and sell them online.

Second hand selling: eBay, Gumtree, Facebook marketplace. You may sell used closed or good on these websites. I find more Facebook marketplace to be reliable. We have sold many things on Facebook marketplace.

Pawn: if you really love an item and don’t want to part with it, but is not being used at the moment you may pawn the item. This means the pawn shop gives you money for your item and keep it for a certain period. When you need your item back you pay the money back with interest. This is one way you can earn an extra income as a SAHM.

Online tutor: I found that most online tutor apps need you to have a degree in any field. This allowed you to qualify as a tutor. A few did not require that you have a degree.

Blogging: affiliate marketing, Freelancing, influencer, brand ambassador, selling courses on your blog, selling printables.

Air bnb: you may rent out your home as an air bnb. Don’t forget about the risks of having strangers in your home.

Virtual Assistant: these include random tasks from admin work to social media, depending on the company who hires you.

Offering at home Car wash services to friends, neighbors and family.

Mechanic: if you are good with cars and have an eye for them. You may fix small things or do minor services.

Dog walking: if you are good with dogs, dog walking maybe a good idea.

Online travel agent: you can travel with your kids.

Work at home Business: you may consider offering your own work at home business or working remotely for companies.

Offer other services to earn Extra income as a SAHM.

Apps for online work that allow you to earn an extra income as a SAHM:

  • Hubstaff Talent
  • Perlu
  • LinkedIn jobs
A few tips when dealing with online business:

Be patient with certain jobs. They maybe slower in payment but they are just your side gig. Some grow into a big business and you need to put in a little extra effort. Have a heart (passion) for what you are doing so that you will not be discouraged.

Passion is the one that fires up your engine, keeps you steady and going even when the light is not shining. Understand that all businesses have an up and down. Sometimes you get flowing clients other times not. That is the beauty of an extra income as a SAHM.

Try these above and see what works best for you. Always have an option C when your option B doesn’t work. Don’t give up. Keep your head high and keep striving. Join groups both online and offline and have a solid support team that will understand you, encourage and help you. It helps to have a good support team.

Be patient, be wise, be strong, be watchful. If something feels and looks too good to be true, it probably is. Look for other peoples reviews, the company contact details, years of operation and go to common sites to avoid scams. Do a good Google investigation for each company. Avoid going to secluded places.

If you must meet strangers please don’t go alone, always let someone (family member and close friends) know where you will be, turn on your location services for your close friends or family to know where you are, meet strangers in a busy and open areas like a police station or a shopping mall. The first place I mention is a police station, if the person runs away then you have been saved.

When you arrive at a meeting place check for exist strategies that you can easily duck and hide. If you feel unease about something, don’t do it. Trust your gut. Carry pepper spray if need be. Make a safe and secure check out process on your app.

Make sure to get a large deposit before you do any work for anyone. And please get the job done when you do. As much as you would hate being scammed, be trustworthy and reliable, don’t be a scammer.

Lastly but not the least, don’t forget to pray for your business / side hustle.

Final words: In conclusion: earn an extra income as a SAHM with these methods. Remember to be smart, stay safe and be wise. There are so many ways to earn extra income as a SAHM. You try alot of possibilities till you find what works best for you. Let me know in the comments what works for you as a SAHM.


More from MrsChettyLife: Self care routines for moms

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Self-care routines for moms.

Important routines for self-care as a mom. I received an overwhelming response from my post on self-care here: This inspired the following round up post on self-care routines for moms. Here are the very best tips for self-care routines for moms.

self-care routines for moms

I have learned a lot from these mom bloggers and put self-care as my priority. Since I incorporated these routines, I feel uplifted and not lazy and slump. One mom commented that self-care for mom’s is like putting a gas mask on a plane, you are advised to put the gas mask on yourself first before you put it on your baby, if mom is not breathing, no one will. Enjoy reading:

39 Self Care Ideas for My 39th Birthday. Do you have a hard time taking care of yourself? Is self care a totally foreign concept for you? I know that I struggle with figuring out the best self care ideas to implement that won’t cost too much money or time. To improve my year I decided to throw myself a bit of a self care party! I’ve come up with a bunch of ideas for self care and I’m excited to share them with you.

But I saw a post the other day on Facebook which turned the traditional tongue-in-cheek saying, “Mama needs a drink” on its head, and I wanted to address it. It leaned heavily on the extreme feminist side as it talked about how mamas really need a pay check, paid healthcare, childcare, etc., etc. It called for the general society to draw a line between wants and needs. My response is basically this: much of what they term as “wants” are generally seen as self-care, and self-care is needed.

8 Quick Self-Care Ideas You Can Do at Home. I have found so many amazing blogs and websites with self-care ideas, but they tend to be kind of crazy like a Spa Day. That requires a lot of planning in advance and sometimes I just need 3-5 minutes for me. Yes, I have hidden in the bathroom to take a couple of deep breaths before, haven’t we all?!

It goes back to our daily routines and schedules. Work, school, day-care, you name it. So what’s a girl to do? How does she take care of herself? Well, these are some of the self-care techniques that I have adopted since becoming a mom.

Hey mama! I see you trying to be all things to all people. Trying to do everything and beating yourself up when you fail. I see you neglecting yourself so you can put everybody else first. I see you telling everybody, “No, really, I’m fine.” I see you because I am you, I was you. But I have to tell you something. You can’t keep going like this. You are only human, and you can only do so much until your mind and body final say they’ve had enough. That nagging feeling, that exhaustion, that irritation, that short temper? That’s mom burnout.

Self-care routines for moms include:

Life is busy, and my list could go on and on of all the ways that I pour out into others. Most days I don’t even give much thought to how what I am doing for others impacts me because I enjoy what I do and it is fulfilling. That is until I find myself running on fumes. Immediately, I start to notice that my conversation and tone are short, and my patience is thin. All of this happens when I fail to take care of me in the process of taking of everyone else. I needed to make taking care of me a priority.

No matter what season of motherhood you’re currently in, we can all agree that mom life is hard work. Its 2am feedings, and then another one at 5am. It’s trying to keep your cool while your toddler has a complete meltdown in the middle of the produce aisle. Motherhood is coming home after a long day of work to cook and clean, when all you really want to do is curl up on the couch with a big glass of wine. It’s juggling doctor appointments, parent-teacher meetings, playdates, piano lessons, and soccer games. It’s resisting the urge to slap someone when they question what you do all day as a stay-at-home mom. We are so busy taking care of our families that we often forget to take care of ourselves. I know I do.

You hear it all the time: being a mom is the most rewarding job there is. You are blessed with the ability to bear children who grow into wonderful creations of us that we love forever. And while that’s all true, no one seems to mention the exhaustion, the overwhelming moments, and the lack of self-care mothers endure daily. Too many times I’ve looked up to the sky and let out a huge sigh of frustration just to get through the rest of the night. I’m almost certain that I’m not alone. Being a mother is demanding, confusing, and stressful at times. It’s time we start carving out moments for ourselves (without feeling selfish about it) to take care of our mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing.

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3 Ways to Overcome Home School Burnout. Home school burnout is one of those subjects that no one wants to talk about. We avoid talking about it out of embarrassment or shame. After all, a home school mom chose to home educate her children, didn’t she? How could something that a mom carefully discerned, thoughtfully researched and carefully planned cause burnout? She is her own boss and she makes her own choices, doesn’t she? It is not like being a doctor or lawyer or even a school teacher, or is it?

Some people – often people who just have too many words and not enough things to use them on – will tell you that being a stay at home mom is easy. But those of us that are, or have been, stay at home moms know that is simply not the case. Sure, it’s a blessing that I don’t have to get myself and a baby ready for work or day-care every day. And I can do laundry during the day. And don’t get me wrong – at this stage in my life, I love being a stay at home mom. It’s definitely the right choice for our family. BUT BEING AT HOME WITH YOUR LITTLE ONES ALL DAY LONG IS NO JOKE.

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WHAT SELF CARE REALLY LOOKS LIKE (HINT: IT’S NOT A VACATION OR SPA!) Self-care is a popular buzzword in the mom community, and for good reason! Being a mom is tough and exhausting, and you need to fill your cup in order to be able to take care of your family. But self-care doesn’t have to be big and elaborate; read on to see what self-care really looks like in your day-to-day life!

“There’s too much time in the day,” said no one ever. There’s so much to do with little time to get it done. There’s kids to watch, houses to clean, when to figure out exercising, meal preparation, and work to be done! I know you want to accomplish x,y, and z but instead you end up going to bed wondering how you’ll get everything done with a jam-packed day filled to the brim. Here’s how to make sure you get things done- without the mom guilt!

This episode of the Style Your Mind podcast called, Little Luxuries got me thinking about ways I pamper myself. Some people think luxuries have to be super expensive, but there are some things you can do to pamper yourself that cost very little. For some people, luxuries may be days at the spa, vacations or buying top of the line items. Those things may be great, but not everyone can do that all the time. To me, luxuries are those things you do for yourself that make you feel your best. They are the things that lift you up. These things or rituals don’t even have to take up a lot of time.

Hey Guys, I hope you are well. This post is all about Self-Care. As women, we go through a lot. I mean – A LOT. Self-Care has become such an important topic and I want to share my point of view of the topic. As mothers, we make things look so easy, by almost ‘pretending’ to know exactly what we are doing when we really don’t have a clue. Think about it, we rush through in and out of the shower within 3 seconds, just in case, someone wants something. How mad is that? As well as loving others, it’s also important to love ourselves too.

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Self-Care ideas don’t come easily and as first-time moms, we all need it. No matter how strong or active you may be, it’s just hard to keep up while you take care of your little one 24/7. Finding time for ourselves is vital to living a happy and fulfilling life. For example, I love going for a massage. But we also need a push for some motivation and find ways when to do it. Motherhood is tough and the struggle is real.

Not forgetting these self-care routines for moms:

Summer isn’t just for kids to relax and take a break from the stresses of life. Moms need to take a breather and enjoy some slow moments too. I know it can be hard when you’re managing a household and juggling little ones who need to be fed and entertained. That’s why I’m sharing this self-care summer bucket list for moms so you don’t pass the whole summer neglecting yourself and end up a stressed out mess.

So what’s a broke time-constrained gal to do? It’s easy, take 5 minutes EVERY DAY. I know what you’re thinking, “WHOA, EVERY DAY? Ain’t nobody got time for that”. I get it. I work, I blog, I have a household and a baby and dogs and husband andandand…” we all have our situations. But if we build relaxing into our daily schedule, we don’t have to worry as much about fitting in large-scale vacations, or over-indulging when opportunities to relax actually come up. Being relaxed actually makes us calmer, more focused for the necessities in our daily schedule and ready for the curve balls that life throws at us.  So here are 12 ways to build relaxation into your daily schedule.

I soaked in the shower for a good fifteen minutes. Listening to the sound of water hitting my back, and feeling a bit guilty. I felt a little relief to have time to myself but couldn’t help but feel a little ashamed. I stood there as the water continued to trickle, and tried to relax.

So, I’ve been thinking, what were some ways I coped with my busy, stressful week?  Also, what were some strategies that I SHOULD have been using to reduce my stress, but didn’t? Since it’s now the weekend, and I’ve been able to take a deep, calming breath, I decided to make a list of 5 sure-fire ways to help you control stress.

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Self-care is like the new it thing. Might as well be hot yoga. Or spinning. It’s trendy. Like a top knot or skinny jeans or kale. We are all so obsessed with making sure we are getting our self-care in that it is just one more thing we moms are adding to our never ending to do lists. Well I don’t know about you, but that seems like completely not the point. Here’s the crux of the problem we are failing to define what things are actually self-care and what things are simply treating ourselves.

Foot soaking should be an essential part of self-care! Caring for our neglected feet cares for the rest of the body as well. One way I’ve recently started taking better care of my feet, as well as my entire body, is through the practice of soaking them in Epsom salt and essential oils. Not only does this show my feet some pampering and love, but it is a relaxing, detoxifying evening ritual that decreases stress and grounds my energy.

When you become a mom your priorities change. Suddenly, you don’t go get your nails done like you used to, or your hair. You don’t take long baths anymore because you’re spending more of your time bathing kids. Whenever you get lost in the hustle and bustle of motherhood, we tend to lose ourselves and forget that we had a title before we were “Mom.” This is usually when depression kicks in. Some mom’s feel selfish and bad about wanting to do things for themselves so that’s why they never do. Or maybe it’s a financial thing. Or maybe it’s both. Here’s the thing, in order to take care of your kids, you need to take care of you too, Mom.

Self-Care? hah! More like: Wash dishes. Fold the Laundry. Taxi the kids around. Solve sibling rivalry. Pick up toys. Rush to work. Rush home. Change hats. Wipe noses. Start dinner. Bath the kids. Find clean jammies. Wrestle them onto the kids. Get teeth brushed. Hair brushed. Kids into bed. Bedtime story. Snuggles. One more kiss. One more hug. No you can’t have water. No you can’t have a snack. Your knee will feel better when you fall asleep. Goodnight… I said GOODNIGHT.

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The days are long, and they tell me the years are short. Which of course I can already attest to. Even though mine are still so small, I still look back and think the time has flown by. But still. Life is busy, chaotic, and exhausting. Sound familiar? But alas… I must find a way. I need exercise in my life. I need a gallon of water every day, 5 servings of fruits and veggies, protein… yada yada.. I try. But exercise is one of those things that every time I do it, I’m always glad I did. I mean seriously. Not once have I ever regretted working out.

I always feel very busy. Honestly, I’m not that busy, but when you are looking after a 16 month old all day, or work a 13 hour shift when you’re not looking after your child, you just feel busy. I think what I really mean is…my alone time has been far removed from my life. We have all talked about not being able to pee alone, but that doesn’t even bother me. What I want is good, quality alone time. Quiet room, TV off, no music playing, and no interruptions. Alone time.

These self-care routines for moms are essential as well:

Today we are going to talk about how to engage in some mental self-care. This post will be a shorter one, but don’t let the length be an indicator of its importance! I see a lot of information about self-care strategies come across my desk as a psychologist turned health coach/fitness instructor. Many of them are physical – meaning they are generally focused on one of our five senses. Some examples include listening to music, taking a bath, lighting0020your favourite candle, painting your nails, etc. I think they are all absolutely incredible acts of self-love. However, what I want to talk about today is mental self-care.

Self-care tips: mind, body and soul. Hey ladies!  Self-care includes taking care of your mind, body and soul.  Last week I did something for my body by having my annual physical exam.  This is the first time that I’ve been to the doctor in YEARS!  Shame on me but I’m just glad that I finally made the appointment and went.  I will be 40 years old next year and I want to make sure that I’m taking the necessary steps to be healthy.  Part of being healthy is one’s ability to practice and sustain self-care.  So I would like to propose five self-care practices that are budget friendly and can be implemented today.

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Have you ever been standing strong for so long that you slowly forgot how to breathe? Forgot who you were, what you liked, what you needed? Gave yourself up until you were lost? And then one day, you woke up gasping for air, wondering where you’d been for all these years? Do you now look over your shoulder because you don’t recognize the person staring back at you in the mirror? And then you stop looking altogether, because it’s too hard to take in, to digest and to face?

13 Self-Care Tips for Busy Moms. Being a mom is exhausting. But, being a mom is also a lot of fun and the best thing ever. As moms, we tend to overlook ourselves. We’re so busy making sure the little’s are taken care of, working and maintaining a home. I’ve put together a compilation of 13 self-care tips for busy moms. Self-care is so important and it took me a long time to realize it. Once I did, I became a better mother, a better wife and a better person to myself. I hope you find these tips helpful.

Don’t forget to implement these self-care routines for moms

How are you supposed practice self-care when you’re a breastfeeding mom? It might seem impossible at times. Whether you are breastfeeding, combo feeding, or exclusively pumping, it is a serious time commitment. It can be a very draining part of motherhood, no pun intended! Often mothers will let their meal get cold or not shower to be on top of feeds.

In this ever-evolving era, we need to customize ourselves accordingly to live a better life. And in the search of this perfection and flawlessness, we tend to tax and strain ourselves. Which definitely poses harmful effect on our physical and mental health. This unfavourable situation can be prevented with good self-care.

What is Self-Care? In short, self-care consists of taking time for yourself to recharge and take a break from the pressures of life. It may seem selfish to want to make ‘me time’ a priority but as my professor explained to us it will enable you to be a better person for yourself and to those around you.

The Self Care Checklist to be Healthy, Happy, & Impactful. I know myself. I will not slow down unless I have a plan. So, in an effort to put myself first, I created a self-care checklist to be healthy, happy, and impactful. This list is tailored to a mom of small children, but I believe that it can be tweaked for anyone at any stage of life.

Last year on Instagram a common theme was self-care and much of my Instagram feed–and I’m sure yours–was filled with picturesque bubble baths and face masks in every colour of the rainbow. While I am 100% on board with these simple acts of self-care—you don’t have to ask me twice to enjoy a glass of bubbly in a bath of bubbly—I wanted to shift my focus this year to focus on self-care on a deeper level. As mothers, especially in early motherhood, we tend to push all of our ailments and personal struggles to the side and instead focus all of our energy on our babies and our families.

Cut yourself some slack with these tips on self-compassion

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Refill your tank: 3 ways cultivate self-compassion on hard days. You’re always messing things up.  You’ll never get things right.  You never seem to say the right thing.  You are ugly.  You don’t belong to be here. Most of us would never say these phrases to someone, but how often have these ugly words replayed in your mind or even come out your mouth about yourself? Sadly, I will admit I have been there.

Build Your Own Self-Care Kit for Unapologetic Me Time. If you haven’t already built a self-care kit for yourself, it’s time. Your self-care kit should be built around you and your needs, likes, and happiness. You can use your kit daily, a few times a week, but gosh darn it make sure you use it! You needn’t apologize for taking time to care for yourself. This is the time to let loose, be free, and clear your head. You deserve it.

How to Make Time for Self-Care for Busy Moms. Self-care is so important for moms to feel happy and refreshed. Here are tips on how to find time in your busy day for yourself so you can be a better mother.

And because having a self-care routine is so much important for us moms, let’s spend some “me time” on our skin. No matter what skin quality you have, there are ways how to improve your skin health naturally, at home, and without any harsh cosmetic procedures. Just a few small changes can have a huge impact on the quality of your skin.

At 36, with a 6 year-old, a three-year old, and classrooms full of teenagers, I have forgotten that every day is a new occasion to look my best.  Some days, I look at the beauty of the 20 year-olds and have to shake away twinges of envy.  As I literally mop up the spilled milk, I cannot help think to myself, “Am I even worth the fuss? Who exactly am I here to impress?” And I answer with a resounding, “YES! YES!  You are ABSOLUTELY worth the fuss!!  You are here to impress YOURSELF!  You need a self-care routine! Doll yourself up MAMA!!”

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IS YOUR TANK RUNNING ON E? News flash ladies (and gents if you’re reading), balance does not mean balancing “doing it all”. No one can do it all without eventually suffering burnout which could be what someone reading this is feeling right now. Having a balanced life means making time for the things you HAVE TO do as well as the things you LIKE TO do. With kids this can seem impossible but, with a little bit of groundwork, moms can get it done.

Self-reflection is a great way to look at the big picture not just what’s going on in the day-to-day. It can help you open your mind and bring attention to areas in your life that you don’t always focus on. Self-reflection gives you a chance to evaluate where you started to where you are now. It can also help you determine what is important to you and what may no longer be important in your life.

Listen to this momma as she reflects on the 3 Questions for a Happy Self-Care Balanced Life as self-care routines for moms.

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In conclusion: Use these self-care routines for moms to replenish, rejuvenate and energize yourself as a mom so that you can feel brand new and whole again.

More from MrsChettyLife: If you feel overwhelmed as a SAHM, this letter is for you

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Top reasons to use Travelstart.

Ain’t anybody got time for queues, nor spending hours hunting down deals nor changing plans. All the best travel suppliers and specials can be found on Travelstart.

From Visa denied policies to premium service packages and mobile apps, Travelstart has it all and should be your go-to travel app.

Plan your trip with this travel app. Disclaimer: The following post was done in collaboration with Travelstart.

  • Be flexible and travel on the date you want. All passengers on Travelstart can make one date change without having to pay additional airline penalty fees.
  • Travelstart offers you delayed and lost baggage protection. Doesn’t it suck to arrive at your destination before your luggage worse off if your luggage somehow gets lost. Imagine if your airline cannot give you the figures of when you get your luggage back. Ease your racing heart with this. They also offers a track and expedite return of your delayed or lost baggage after landing.

The visa denied policy by Travelstart covers you if your visa application gets denied by an Embassy.

  • Do you need an insurance policy that is Schengen visa complaint? They offer you a travel insurance policy that meets this criteria.
  • Go premium. The premium service package offers you dedicated help when securing all your flight specifications. You have your meals, seating arrangements, check in online, travelling with children and frequent flyer programs all sorted out by the premium service package.

A great offer for travelers a full refund on airfare and taxes if the airline you are travelling with is liquidated prior to departure.

  • The mobile app called Flapp by Travelstart allows you to conveniently and easily book flights right from your mobile device.
  • Another top reason to use Travelstart is the widest range of car rentals at the best prices from all over the world.
  • Get the best fares from all airlines.
You might as well choose your preferred airline with this travel app.
  • Receive expert assistance from booking your flight right till departure.
  • Book your stay with 1000s of hotel listings worldwide.
  • Use the comprehensive traveler’s guide on the website and they offer great holiday packages.
  • Read on the wonderful and highly informative Travelstartblog.
  • Services offered include Travelstart for business, Group travel and Travelstart live.

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Introducing this Mom platform!! (insert drum roll) As a first time mom and as a sahm, I always look for the best products for my son. Since pregnancy, I always google information and ask other moms. I joined many Facebook mom groups looking for advice and a way to connect with other moms. Finally I came across MomSays.

mom says

It is South African owned and based mom platform.

It is a platform that showcases tried and tested South African products from real moms. Good way to go local. I signed up for this wonderful review center and I am not disappointed. It is free. All you have to do is review and read other mom reviews. Its like my own personal mom based google.

MomSays launches innovative new data platform in SA

MomSays has launched their new website, and it’s the platform that moms and brands across the country have been waiting for. 

MomSays is a unique resource for moms who are looking for unbiased, trusted advice from other moms regarding the best product solutions for their families. And before you brush this aside as ‘just mommy talk’, consider this:

  • 60% of the 18 million female consumers in SA are the primary buyers in their households.
  • 65% of moms trust what other moms buy in the retail market.
  • 83% of new moms are millennial’s of which 46% trust the recommendation of other parents above any other channels.

According to global trends and research company Nielsen,

“ first-time moms tend to be unsure about the delivery and reliability of products. They rely on trusted advisors for product recommendations and become averse to trying new products, unless otherwise advised. Brands therefore have a short window of time to capture and retain their trust and loyalty”.

With this clear need for reliable information in the market, MomSays has created a data analytics platform that helps brands engage with new moms by utilising the collective knowledge of 1000’s of experienced moms in South Africa. MomSays creates opportunities for companies to effectively engage with this influential demographic in a way that produces results.

Depending on the product or brand, MomSays makes use of its extensive network of influential moms to facilitate product testing, brand events, exposure, panel discussions and social media activation’s. (Amazing idea, ain’t it?)

MomSays gets this influential network to interact with – and talk about –brands and products across various platforms.

According to Sureshnie Rider’s, local radio presenter and MC,

As a Mum, I wish I had a portal like MomSays when I started out my Motherhood journey! This is a tribe of women who help you navigate the tricky roads you might find yourself on when you’re trying to get the right products and items for your little one. This site will save you time which becomes super limited as a new parent and it will help you save because parenthood is expensive! Congrats guys! I’m in love with your tribe!”.

About MomSays and Mompreneurs

In addition to product information, MomSays also provides a platform for Mompreneurs to connect, collaborate and network with each other.

Mom tribes are quickly becoming the most powerful form of personalised marketing in the industry because it is authentic. The fast-growing MomSays ‘tribe’ is a network of mompreneurs who support and collaborate to create an industry of strong, successful moms who all have significant influence in their respective circles.

What makes this such a fascinating enterprise is the variety of businesses that are being created by mompreneurs. These range from product blogs to coding and start-ups in the financial sector.

With a platform giving them a voice and connecting them with relevant brands, the MomSays tribe is set bolster the buying power of moms in SA and revolutionise the way brands approach them.

Take a look at our quick explainer video that puts it all in perspective.

About MomSays founder, Shanèy Vijendranath

Shanèy Vijendranath is a wife, mom of three and an innovative businesswoman. She is the co-founder of the award-winning parenting blog – You, Baby and I – and is the Chapter Lead for SoGal Johannesburg.


We gotta stick together as moms. This is a wonderful mom platform. See you there. Visit

Cheers MrsChettyLife.

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My birth story

My birth story

Happy birthday Nathaniel.

Sitting here in the hospital for the third time this 3rd trimester, the IV in my arm hurts and is uncomfortable. I watch as the colorless mixture runs cold into my blood. The Foetal Doppler is connected to my belly. I sit in silence listening to his heartbeat. I always look forward to listening to his heartbeat.

birth image

I have been having contractions since last night. I went to bed quite late. Woke up at 2am this morning to clean the house. After I went back to bed. I woke up at 10am as contractions began to rise. My husband is in Botswana. At 12 o’clock, I called my father, the contractions where not going away but rising slowly. My panicking father drove me to the hospital once again. We went straight to floor 1, maternity ward. The sister confirmed the contractions. Baby is coming.

They set up a room for me and there I lay. My mother had traveled for work as well. I was trying not to stress as this would worry my baby. But who would hold my hand during birth? I screamed in my head for the 30th time. I cannot do this on my own. Thoughts run through my head. This is the last time I will be pregnant. The last time I will feel his kicks inside me.

I will miss him inside. The bond and secrets we shared while pregnant. I stand in the mirror and took one last picture of me pregnant. I engross every last moment. He frantically turns inside me, letting me know that he is ready to see and hug me now. It’s time. It’s the 1st of May. His due date is 8th May.

first smile

Sad and stressed, my husband informs me the bad news.

His boss won’t give him time off for the birth of his son. My mom is calling. My dad is confused. Until it hits my husband. He calls my best friend to come. We sit together. I am silent. Keeping myself calm as a thousand thoughts run through my head. Atleast someone is here. As labour slowly progresses, unfortunately Clarissa can’t stay the night because of hospital regulations. So she leaves. I did not sleep. My mucous plug runs out at midnight. This is really happening.

Every few hours the midwife bursts in my room. Taking note of my blood pressure and checking the baby. Can you still handle the pain? Yes, I respond. She checks the IV and leaves. I pass out at 4am. At 7am the midwife wakes me again. Breakfast time. At 9am the doctor comes in. He is making rounds. Checks everything and asks questions. I am still at 1cm dilated. My water breaks. Doctor is alarmed, I have to do a c-section plus I have a low laying placenta. My world crushed. I heard the pieces of my heart break.

mom and baby

Natural birth was all I wanted and prepared for.

Anything could go wrong via c section. My husband was not there neither was my mom. I felt a little less than a woman. My body is failing me. It’s supposed to naturally know what to do during labour. My husband called and my voice broke. In tears I told him my fears. He assured me that no matter how the baby came out, as long as mom and baby are fine.

That’s what matters. Be strong for baby. He was crushed he couldn’t make it for me and his son. Picking up my pieces, Clarissa came. C-section scheduled for 2pm. I was moved to the operation room. The helping nurse explains that half of my body would feel numb as he injected the epidural in my back. I had to be awake. The epidural fes strange on my body. It’s as though my body is made of balloons with water in side.


They drap a curtain across my chest so that I shouldn’t see the operation. The moments after felt like my equipment in my body is being shifted and carried out, then put back later. Then I heard my son’s first sharp loud scream. My son screams. He doesn’t cry. The room went silent. My son is a different shade of color from me. My son was weighed and cleaned.

They show him to me. Tears run down my cheeks as it finally hits me. My son is born. Clarissa took him to another room for the Apgar test as instructed by the doctor. While I need to be stitched up. I am then taken to a new room for mothers who just had a c-section. I wait for an hour or two to finally hold my baby. He is beautiful, so tiny, fragile and completely perfect. He is my son.

delivery room

His name is Nathaniel Mapalo.

My husband and I chose this name as it means God has given a blessing. (Nathaniel – God has given, Mapalo – blessing). He was born on the 2nd May at 2:30pm weighing 2.7kg. This is my birth story. The days following where priving of pain, sleep, cries, exercise and food. Immediately the epidural run out, I was encouraged to take a walk. My legs where wobbly and my operation hurt. I could not laugh or bend. Luckily the midwives where immerse help. They took care if baby for me. He lay by my side. They bathed him. And only took him away if I requested to sleep.

nathans first cry

I stayed in hospital for 4 days. I was given some pain killers and suppositories. Nathaniel wouldn’t latch right and my milk did not come out. Only on the fourth day on my way home I was engorged. It took a while for both of us to learn to breastfeed. He kept latching wrongly and he would give up and cry eventually. But we kept trying, till he did it. He would soon forget how to latch and its a process again. I went to my mother’s house to stay when I was discharged.

Finally, my husband met his soon for the first time when he was about a week old.

Within a month I was healed and ready to go back to my home with my husband. Everyday since then has been a wonder and teaching. I learn my son, myself as a mother and my husband as a father. It’s almost a year. I would not change anything about what happened. When he was born, I forgot about everything and not giving birth naturally. I was just glad I finally met him, could see, touch and hold him and he is healthy. That’s what matters to me.

hospital pic

I am glad and grateful for having Clarissa by my side. Every gift I have received, everyone who visited, every word of advice and encouragement, everyone who gave me a minute to get myself in order, every smile I received from my son, and those random hugs. I am grateful to God for provision, for strength even during those many sleepless and tiring nights. I am grateful for the wonder weeks app that helped explain Nathans moody days.

first day with santa

I am grateful for my mom groups. I am grateful to my husband for sticking by me and co-parenting. And for giving me a break, for his love, patience and understanding when I lose my shit and for encouraging me to be the greatest mom. For standing by me and holding my hand when I can’t go further. I am grateful to my family, my father, mother, brothers and sisters who embraced me and where there for me, for their encouragement and excitement whenever I share about Nathan’s new thing a thousand times. I am grateful to be a SAHM and walk every milestone with my son.

nathan eating

In conclusion: This is my birth story. Let go of all the expectancies and preparations that you have of birth. Pregnancy and birth are complicated and unpredictable. Enjoy and embrace the moment. Cheers to a year and many more blessed years to come. Happy birthday Nathaniel. Happy first year. May God continue to bless and keep you. Daddy and I love you. God loves you too.

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Creative ways to DIY empty glass purity bottles.

Creative ways to DIY empty glass purity bottles.

glass bottle

Got a whole stack of purity bottles and you don’t know what to do with them? I do. I wash and dry them then put them under the sink. Use this creative list to keep your precious items and recycle these gems.

Nails: My husband works in construction. We have nails laying around everywhere. These bottles are good to store nails.

Lotion on the go: Carry lotion in your bag. Are you travelling and you need to carry your special lotion? You are only allowed certain amounts of liquid on the plane. Add some lotion or bum cream in these jars. Seal tightly in a zip lock bag or with clear plastic and off you go. Or maybe you buy things in bulk and need a place to pre pack your lotions? Use these little containers.

lotion on the go

Jewelry: easy jewelry holder. You may store your rings, earrings, necklaces and gold chains.

Salt: Add a few holes on the lid and use as a salt shaker. You can also make DIY salt gifts.

Washing powder: To keep in the bathroom or kitchen for washing.

Popsicle sticks for DIY or as a decoration for your desk.

Spices: If you are into that #mariekondo phase and want to prepack everything. These bottles look good with colorful spices in them. Don’t forget to label the container.

Deco: I used the jars to keep my shells in. I noticed when I left my shells out, they would fall and break. The glass makes it easy to see the shells. And I think they look cute.

Sharpeners: These small things are important for your school going children, but they somehow always get lost. Keep them in these handy jars so you know where to look next time. I also use this to make my desk look tidy.


Coins: Teach your little one the importance of saving using these jars. You may use them as piggy banks if you may.

Buttons and beads: I love beading as a hobby, but these beads are so tiny, once they fall you can’t find them again. It doesn’t help that they are sold in plastics. I keep my beads in these jars, helps keep my mind sane lol. Save yourself some money too. When I am working with beads and buttons, I always place a blanket underneath my working space. When I am done, I pick the blanket carefully and pour the beads and buttons back into the jar.

Erasers: like sharpeners, keep erasers in their place. Make the jars pretty with glass and spray paint. Keep your desk organized this way. 😉

Glitter: use and store in a similar way to beads and buttons.

Random bits and pieces: whatever rocks your boat and fits into these jars.

Snacks on the go. You can carry grapes, other fruit, cookies, corn flakes, rice crispies etc.

Gratitude and love notes: Good way to say I love you. Everyday should be valentine’s day. Add gratitude notes to these bottles to read when you are feeling down.  

Pills: Pills and vitamins can be kept in these jars.

Clay: Clay dries up if left out in the air. Pop them in these jars, close them tight and store away.


Slime: Slime is one thing moms hate and kids love. Make an agreement with your child to put their slime back in the jar when they are done playing with them. Otherwise you will find them on your carpet…ehhkkkk

Snow globes: How to make snow globes. Download your freebie at the end of this post.

Balloons: Store your balloons in these jars. So that you won’t have a screaming fit when your little can’t find a balloon to play with.  

Keys: Keep your keys in these jars, next time you are going out you will know where to find them. Saves you 20 minutes of looking for these darn keys.

Dummies: In one of my mom groups a mom posted about how annoying it is that dummies are colorless and always getting lost. Put your babies dummy in this bottle for safe keeping. Plus, it keeps those dummies clean.

Measuring cup of 125ml: A clever way to recycle is to use as a measuring cup, if you are that baking mom.


Seeds: for the green hand mom. Keep your seeds in these bottles. You might as well use the lid to keep seeds that you would like to dry.  

Earbuds: These are one thing I can’t seem to store. I used these jars and I am pleased. They look neat, will stay clean and in one place.

Important receipts: Roll or fold them up. Put them in your little jars, label them and store them in a safe place.

Shoe laces: tie shoe laces together and store them in these bottles. Spray paint the jars gold or silver or whatever color you prefer.

Other creative ways to DIY empty glass purity bottles are:

  • Flash drives
  • Paper clips and pins
  • Staples
  • Batteries
  • Ribbons
  • Puzzle pieces
  • SIM and memory cards
  • Eye and nose drops
  • Marbles
  • Nail clippers
  • Contact lenses
  • Hair clips and pins
  • Doggy (pet) treats
  • Doll accessories for your girls’ doll and teddy
  • Pour your facial toner in these jars with cotton rolls in them.

In conclusion: Recycle your empty purity bottles by using this DIY list above. Let me know in the comments or on Instagram: how you DIY your empty glass bottles. Download your freebies here:

In conclusion: Recycle your empty purity bottles by using this DIY list above. Let me know in the comments or on Instagram: how you DIY your empty glass bottles. Download your freebies here:

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How to prepare for baby as a FTM

Be prepared-ish with these things for baby during your pregnancy

Rest: Its important that you rest. When your baby comes you won’t be able to catch a lot of snoozes. You will miss these free days you have. Rest as much as you can. Find an excuse to.

Buy baby essentials: Begin buying these essentials as soon as you hear you are pregnant. Baby stuff is expensive. You will need stocks of different sized diapers, wipes, laundry detergent, bath products, bum cream, bottles, baby feeding essentials, toys, blankets, swaddle blankets and bibs. Get various clothes according to size; up to 3 months, up to 6 months and up to 12 months. You will also need a pram or push chair and baby wearing essentials such as a baby carrier. It also helps to buy teething products. Read here for baby must haves:

Buy grooming essentials and a medical aid kit for baby.

medical kit

Premade snacks help during postpartum. I would get very hungry as I am breastfeeding. Healthy premade snacks are a bonus.

Nesting: Make your home baby safe, organize your house by putting your breakable valuables on higher shelves. Covering cables and open plugs. Consider changing glass tables. Cleaning up in corners. Clearing out your medicine cabinet. Putting harmful substances out of reach. I actually woke up at 2am to clean my house on my delivery day.

Organize baby room and buy baby room essentials: crib, deco, baby monitor, cloth drawers. That’s up to how you want your baby room to look like.

baby room

Read, research about baby: Buy baby books, google from hospitals online, ask questions at your doctors, get educational flyers from your doctors’ office. You learn a lot from research.

Connect with other moms: Join social media mom groups to connect with moms going through something similar. Connect with moms outside social media. Speak to your friends, cousins, mom, aunts, anyone who is a mom but be careful to filter advise given.

Date nights with Significant Other: Use this time to bond and spend more alone time with your significant other. Go on date nights too. Allow your partner to connect with others as well as research so that they will understand what’s going on with you. It makes those midnights run looking for your cravings much bearable for them.

Download pregnancy and baby apps: Baby and pregnancy apps have many benefits. You may find out more here:


Prepare hospital bags for mom, dad and baby. There are lots of checklists out there on what you need to pack for mom, dad and baby for the hospital.

Get things ready for postpartum: You may read about postpartum and what to expect. It is like a forth trimester on its own. Download your free postpartum checklist at the end of this post. You may have to deal with postpartum blues and depression. Its good to speak out and get help if you do.  

Hospital visits: Make sure to find a doctor you will visit these months ahead. Don’t mis out on your appointments. They are important and your doctor makes sure your baby is growing best as much as they are capable of.

Personalized gift for baby: This is one thing I thought is beautiful but I didn’t do. It’s a personalized gift that you can make for your child and give them later in life maybe for a special occasion like a grandchilds’ birth. It also could be something they can use as a baby that you made like a baby blanket or hat with their name on it. Get creative with this one. There are lots of personalized blankets you may buy on etsy.

saved from etsy

Pregnancy safe exercise: Find out from your doctor what safe pregnancy exercise you can do. As well as your pregnancy apps with approval from your doctor. I would take walks daily to help me.

Enjoy me-time: Your me-time comes to and end or is very scarce when you have a baby. Enjoy those free minutes to yourself. Soak in your favorite bath and just relax. You will miss it.

Sign up for free baby essentials from your medical aid, baby store etc. I got a wonderful bag full of baby essentials from Dischem. The picture below is all that I recieved.

my dischem bag

Save: Like I mentioned earlier a baby is costly. Save all you can. You may also start a savings account for your baby for college fees.

Arrange for help: After birth you will need to rest and concentrate on you healing and on the baby. You will need help with cooking, house chores and baby as well.

Eat healthy for the sake of your baby. Eat what is recommended by your doctor.

Install car seat: this is usually done in the third trimester.

Decide on a name: My sons name is Nathaniel Mapalo. It means God has given a blessing. Nathaniel means God has given and Mapalo means blessing. I personally feel a name paves way for your childs future. Please chose wisely.

Buy for mom: Breast pump, pads, maternity clothes and underwear, your cravings, a chair pillow if you sit a lot at your workplace. Extra pillows or a pregnancy pillow for your bed, it gets harder to find a comfortable position to sleep. If your doctor recommends pregnancy pills you should take them. I felt nauseas whenever I didn’t take my pills and they are good for your babies growth.

Consider who will take care of your baby if you go back to work or decide to be a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom)
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In conclusion: These are the things you should prepare for baby. Pregnancy is a blessing and a beautiful thing. Enjoy every moment. It is something that you can’t explain and is different for everyone. People will advise you but learn to filter this out. Plus being pregnant lets you get away from doing certain things. Your body is amazing to know what to do during pregnancy.

Be proud of it. You are strong and amazing. Seriously you are growing a human being inside you. That’s just amazing. And remember pregnancy, child birth and the stages after are unpredictable. Anything can happen. Most of all prepare your mind for anything. Don’t be stuck in one way only. Be flexible.  

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Diaper bag essentials for a 10 month old.

Diaper bag essentials for a 10 month old.

What you need for a 10-month-old when leaving the house.

I must warn you before going any further that I might overpack a little. I am one who believes better have it and not use it than not have it and need it. You need a diaper bag of course, along with the other necessities: diapers, wipes, bum cream, changing mat and bibs.

Other things you will need are:

Baby blanket:

The weather is unpredictable here in South Africa. I always carry a baby blanket just in case its needed.

Feeding equipment:

Your baby is probably baby led weaning or weaned at this age. You will need everything for this. I always remember to carry his bowl, baby spoons and bottle or sippy cup for meal time. When baby needs to eat, he must eat.

I also like these pouches for feeding. I know there is a lot of diversity on store bought food, but I am comfortable with my baby using them. I have done enough research. If need be and we are not at home, these pouches are so convenient and less messy.

Speaking of baby food, its good to carry some healthy snacks for your baby to chew on. Snacks like fruits and cookies are good and less messy.

baby food pouch

Extra clothes:

If its warm outside and my baby is dressed cooly, I usually carry an extra pair of warm clothes, just incase the weather changes. These include a vest, warm pants, some shorts and a jacket. I also always carry extra soaks.

Swaddle blankets and burp clothes:

The diversity of a swaddle blanket is huge. I use my swxaddle blanket for a lot of things. Do you need to put your child down on a dirty surface for a minute? Use a swaddle blanket. Is the weather windy outside? Use a swaddle blanket. Will you need a cover for your portable car seat? You guessed it.

The blow over is massive, where will you store all these messy clothes? Wrap a swaddle blanket around it. Are you antigerm and are not comfortable laying your baby straight on the changing table? Use the swaddle blanket. Maybe your baby is unwell and needs to throw up, you need something to catch that? TMI but use your swaddle blanket.

I feel bibs are tiny and only protect such a small area. I use swaddle blankets as the grown-up version of a bib. I also wrap around myself because spills don’t have a dimensional area. They mess everyone and everywhere. Re-useable nappies are the cheaper than swaddle blankets and work just as well.  


Teething powder and Calpol:

Or whatever you use for teething. Most likely at this age your baby is teething. Oh, the glories of teething! I also carry a teething toy for him. I carry teething powder and some Calpol just in case teething gets out of hand. I also carry a syringe or a spoon to give him this. I only give him Calpol if its way out of hand and if the teething powder doesn’t work on its own. I use Ashton and Parsons teething powder by the way.

Extra shoes with a grip on the bottom:

My son is already walking, and he wants to explore the world on his cute, tiny feet. I always carry extra shoes with a grip on the bottom just incase of anything like a blowout.


Comfort toys, teething toys and that specific toy your baby is loving now. My baby loves balls, cars and anything he can bite. He is beginning to learn to close and open bottles. I also carry something that he can easily close and open. That keeps him busy for some minutes. My son thinks a pacifier is a teething toy for some reason unknown to me.

Sunhat and sunscreen:

Your baby has delicate skin that needs to be protected. Please use baby specific sunscreen.

Any sort of identification:

I keep Nathaniel’s (my son) immunization card in his diaper bag so that I never forget it. It works as some sort of identification for my son.


Whether its patience while waiting for your babies’ little feet to catch up with you. Or whether its patience during a tantrum. Yes! babies through tantrums sometimes too. My son has figured out how to throw himself back or cry when he wants something, and we tell him no. You will need a lot of patience, so pack lots of that in your diaper bag.  

In conclusion: Diaper bag essentials for your 10 month old are: baby blanket, teething powder, extra shoes, feeding equipment, extra clothes, swaddle blankets, toys, sunhat, identification and patience.

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Fresh smelling house

How to keep your house smelling fresh

Carpets: carpets easily build up dirt and start to smell. Vacuum carpets 4 times a week, lightly brush them with soapy water if you don’t have time for a deep scrub. Open the windows and doors for air, clean spills immediately.

You can use vinegar and baking soda to get rid of smells.

  • Pour some vinegar, baking soda and warm water to a spray bottle.
  • Spray the solution onto the carpet, aerate the room for it to dry.
  • Vacuum the carpet when dry.
spray bottle

Diffuse oils: You can diffuse these in your diffuser for smell or can add a few drops to your cleaning water. These help the room smell great. A few drops at the foot of your bed also helps.

Essential Oils to use for disinfecting and cleaning are

  • Lemon oil
  • Lavender oil
  • Orange oil
  • Peppermint
  • Eucalyptus oil
  • Rosemary oil
  • Tea tree oil
  • Clove oil
  • Cinnamon oil
  • Thyme oil
  • Oregano oil
  • Pine oil
  • Vanilla
  • Lime

Use tile cleaners: fresh cleaned tiles make the house look and smell good. Tile cleaners help get rid of grim that builds up in between tiles, keeps them polished and clean.

How to use vinegar and baking soda to clean tiles

  1. Mix baking soda and water to make a paste
  2. Apply the baking soda to the grout of tiles, leave to soak in
  3. Mix vinegar and warm water in a spray bottle
  4. Spray this mixture over the tiles, leave for 5 minutes
  5. Scrub and wipe clean.

Use baby powder: I secretly spray baby powder at the foot of my bed on the mattress and on the bedsheet to help the beddings smell fresh and clean so you can have a good night’s sleep. Change your beddings and pillow cases often. Dust and turn the mattress. I also spray some baby powder on the window sill.

Vacuum small corners: Dirt loves to hide in small hard-to-reach corners. These areas should be concentrated on when cleaning. The smallest drop of food can stink up the whole house and they have tendencies of hiding in corners.

Nice smelling detergents: Use long lasting fresh smelling detergents when doing your laundry and cleaning the house. It helps the house smell like clean laundry. Put some in a clean cloth and wipe down the areas where you cleaned to lock the smell in. You can keep a special detergent that you may use just for the smell.

Bake and cook: Baking and cooking makes the house inviting and smell nice. You know what is more inviting at a restaurant or a bakery? Freshly baked food play with your nostrils and invite you in. Just like the smell of popcorn, you may be at the end of a room and you follow your nose to the smell of popcorn.

Laundry: dirty laundry has a smell on its own, sweat, dirt and grim accumulate and stink up the joint. Try and keep your house smelling fresh by doing your laundry. You may add baking soda and coarse sea salt to your washing powder to help get rid of smells such as armpit smell.


Dishes: Keeping unwashed dishes is another smell holder. Wash dishes at least once a day. These keep unwanted pests at bay and unwanted smells.

Clean your fridge and pantry: throw away stale food and keep your fridge and pantry clean. Stale food has a horrible smell. You also notice food that is about to go stale while cleaning up your pantry use it before it does. I usually put newly bought food at the back of the pantry so that I should not waste them. Chances are the old food that has been laying in the pantry will expire sooner than the new one. I also make it a point to check expiry dates when purchasing food.

Hang towels and bath mats to dry outside: As well as wet towels and bath mats. We wash our bodies often and use towels to dry. But we forget to wash the towels that dry our clean bodies. These mats and towels smell bad when dirty. Water splashes and we dry our dripping bodies on the bath mats. These should be air dried preferably outside where there is enough air. Buy more towels and bath mats to use. Wash them 3 to 4 times a week as well.

How to wash towels the right way:

  • Wash towels on their own
  • Sprinkle half cup of baking soda to your towels when washing them
  • You may also add Lavender oil or lemon oil to your wash
  • Dry fully

Wipe down your headboard: I noticed my headboard accumulates much dirt and dust. You can wipe these down with a good smelling detergent or with diffuser oils.

Diffuser oils that help with a goodnight sleep

  • Lavender oil
  • Chamomile oil
  • Cedarwood
  • Frankincense
  • Vanilla
  • Jasmine
  • Rose

Declutter: I personally feel that the more clutter you have, the more likely your house will smell. This is simply because clutter allows for less air to circulate in the room. Get rid of clutter to have a better smelling house.

Don’t forget to open your windows every day. Let some air in.   

Most importantly a way to keep your house smelling fresh and clean is by keeping your house clean. Picking and folding laundry. Cleaning up after yourself, doing dishes, sweeping and mopping, vacuuming the house. Everything you do when cleaning. Download your simple house cleaning checklist here:

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