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Working in silence

Working in silence: Have you ever seen a construction site work in progress? Have you ever seen a shop being fitted and revamped? It looks an absolute mess, and half of the things don’t make sense.

But come back a few weeks later and you will see a whole new beautiful structure. Its like that huge mess that was there is gone (poof disappeared) and no one remembers it. Everyone sees and appreciates the beautiful thing that has emerged.

Having our own construction / shopfitting company has taught me to never judge a book by its cover. And to work in silence. The only people who know about the demo or the finished product is the site owner, the contractor and the architect.

People passing by have no idea of what it is being built nor the hard work, sweat nor long hours put into it. Nor the snags that will have to be redone over and over till you have a finished product.

Why am I talking about shopfitting? What has this got to do with you? You asked right. When you have a business or a new project, a new baby, a recent marriage or a weight loss programme you need to see through to get done and taken care of.

You start from scratch. This idea has never been done by you, it will require much effort, blood, sweat and tears. This includes new moms and your baby / ies.

Even still snags from the finished product will need to be redone. You will learn and try, unlearn and retry till you come up with a finished product. You will cry, smile, feel like a fool, fail and want to give up.

Yes, you will gain some weight or loose very little compared to the hard work you put in. And yes, they will whisper and talk behind your back. You will argue today, kiss and make up.

Eventually you will succeed if you never give up. You will wonder why you even thought of giving up in that instance. Yes, one day you will look back and smile, thinking it was silly of you to think that way.

People who watched your journey scorned and laughed at you. Believe that you will amaze those same people who thought what a mess! Who did not understand your idea and your dreams just like Joseph in the Bible (Gen 37: 5-11).

Another thing I learnt is that you should watch who you share your dreams to. Some people are dream killers. Others do not want to see you succeed. Some may be jealous of you or want the glory to themselves, others may be struggling and seeing you succeed will eat at them.

While with others, they may steal your dreams. You may not be understood. It is usually with people who you feel you can trust who do this. (Josephs’ brothers where so jealous of his dreams that they sold him (Gen 37:27).

The best idea is to work in silence. Build, cry, sweat, smile, glory and try again in the comfort of your own self. Study, learn new tricks, sharpen old ones, teach and train yourself.

Working in silence as hard as you can and let them see the finished product. Don’t just sit when working in silence. Prove them wrong, prove yourself wrong. Have courage you can do it. Trust me nothing you want comes easy. There will be ups and downs. Celebrate the ups enough to get you through the downs.

Practise makes perfect. Achieve perfection by practising and equipping yourself with the right materials and support system that will get you to the point where you thrive. Use the downer nancys as motivation to keep your head up and keep hustling.

Joseph thrived everywhere he went. He was put in charge of Potiphars’ household. Was thrown in prison on false accusations. Still he gained favour of the prison ward and was put in charge of the prisoners (Gen 39:21-23).

Years later he was put in charge of Egypt. Imagine all Joseph went through. His dreams still came to pass as his brothers and father knelt before him just as he had dreamt (Gen 42).

Now your dreams may be different from Josephs’ but I guess you get my point. There will be hard times and good times when managing your dream (business, baby, marriage, weight loss etc).

It will take a while and you will have to be strong. But you will get there. Where it is planned to be. Imagine If Joseph was bitter and never worked hard or even worse gave up? I am certain he would have died somewhere without fulfilling his dream.

Your dream is your baby to nurse. Only you can handle that dream. No one else is better equipped for it. Be it physically, mentally, socially, creatively or intellectually. You have all the tools you need. All you have to do is use them. Trust me you have all the tools.

Working in silence efficiently and silently. Keeping watch of who you tell and equipping yourself. Your dream will come to pass. As long as you keep doing something about it and working on it. No matter the cost. Soon enough or not as soon as you hope, it will come to pass.

This is your sign, if you have been postponing on working on your dream. Get up and go do it. A drop is better than an empty tin. One step at a time.

Remember this, people will always have something negative to say. What matters is what you do with this information. Will you let it get to you and bring you down or will you let it build you?

This reminds me of a movie on Netflix called ‘Tall Girl’. She kept letting people walk over her and say mean things to her.

Until she realized it in the end that she was beautiful. And she used the very same words others teased her with as a stepping stone to embracing her true self is all her beauty.

“You are beautiful no matter what they say, words can’t bring you down.” Beautiful-Christina Aguilera.

In conclusion: Work hard. Hustle hard. Work smart. Your dreams will come true. You matter and are significant. Most importantly, work in silence.

Cheers MrsChettyLife.

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Natural powders

Natural powder. Natural cleaning and cleansing powders and other products to use in the home. These have less to no chemicals compared to conventional cleaning products that are natural, safe for you, your family and the environment. Natural powders and other products for home use.

Arrowroot flour:
Arrowroot flour or starch is a plant (Maranta arundinacea) made from the root and rhizome (underground stem). It is believed to aid in diarrhoea, relieves nausea and improves gum health therefore good for teething in babies. It is a good source of potassium, iron and vitamin B.

Arrowroot is extracted without using high heat or harsh chemicals. It is tasteless and used as a thickener. It softens the skin, moisturizes and promotes scar healing. A natural deodorant as it reduces odours and helps to eliminate toxins.

Natural powder: Bentonite clay:
Bentonite clay is a natural powder derived from volcanic ash that is rich in nutrients such as magnesium, silica, sodium, calcium, iron, copper and potassium.
It detoxifies the skin and draws out impurities and detoxifies.

A great absorbent as well. Bentonite clay is believed to improve teeth and gum health, therefore, can be added or used as natural toothpaste. Good for sensitive skin and eczema.
Can also be used as a natural deodorant. And may help relieve diaper rash. Be careful to use Bentonite clay from a reputable natural brand as others may contain heavy metals.

Citric acid (Natural powder):
Citric acid is a disinfectant against bacteria and viruses. Natural Citric acid is derived from citrus fruits: lemons, oranges, lime, grapefruit and tangerines. It is a preservative. Used greatly for removing soap scum, rust and hard water stains. Citric acid boosts energy and increases absorption.
Please note that there are synthetic versions of citric acid, but the natural version comes from citrus fruits.

Cacao powder vs cocoa powder:
Both products come from the cacao plant and its seeds. Cacao powder is made through cold pressing non-roasted cacao beans. Cocoa powder is raw cacao that has been roasted at high temperatures plus added sugar.

Which means that Cacao powder is raw and unrefined compared to cocoa powder. Cocoa powder is cheaper than Cacao powder. Cacao powder contains the natural antioxidants and nutrients like magnesium, iron and potassium from the beans and enzymes. It is said to have anti-aging properties improve blood vessel health.

Cacao powder boosts hair growth and repair. While improving skin complexion, anti-inflammatory and anti-aging. Therefore, add cacao powder to your hair and skin remedies for its added benefits plus its edible and healthy.

Cornflour aka corn starch is a gluten free product. Magnesium and iron act as digestive aids. It is tasteless and a natural thickener. And is extracted from the endosperm of maize kernels. It contains oil absorbing and cleansing properties which make it great for oily skin and acne prone skin.

Good as a baby powder and as a replacement for arrowroot powder.
Corn starch is flammable. You may add corn flour to various skin masks for uplifting, beautifying and complexion repair on skin. Also acting as a good sunburn soother.

Corn starch is a grease, blood, ink stain remover on clothing. Cleans silver and windows, shines and polishes wooden furniture and vehicles. As well as acting as a soft scouring scrub and absorbing smells and odours.

Natural powder: Cream of Tartar:
Cream of Tartar (potassium hydrogen tatrate) contains high potassium levels and is a stabilizing agent. It is added to candles to give them a creamier texture. When mixed with baking soda, it becomes baking powder. It is alkaline and helps keep the pH levels on skin. Cream of Tartar is a bleach alternative. Mix with vinegar to make bleach.

It is a non-abrasive cleaner. When added to glycerine in a spray bottle, it becomes a homemade laundry stain remover. Good for Mildew removing, stainless steel and copper cleaner, drain cleaner, porcelain tubs and sinks shine, cloth whitening, ink stain repellent and an ant repellent.

Diatomaceous earth:
I stumbled on Diatomaceous earth (food grade) when researching for my post on natural ways to deter ants in the home: It is an organic sand digestive detoxifier and a powerful trace mineral supplement. It contains concentrated silica and is a natural cleanser. It is believed to promote and improve hair, bone, skin and nail health.

Diatomaceous earth is mined and consists of fossilized algae. It is a natural insecticide and This food grade is approved by the FDA. Please note that Diatomaceous earth comes in food grade can be consumed (safe for humans) which has less silica elements and filter grade which has more silica should not be consumed (not safe for humans). Do not consume on a long-term basis.
Diatomaceous Earth is a good all-purpose cleaner, assists in teeth whitening, deodorizer and absorbs odor.

Oatmeal is rich in antioxidants, gluten-free and contains important vitamins, minerals and fiber (Magnesium, Copper, Vitamin B1, B5, Iron, Zinc, Phosphorous, Folate and Manganese). Oats are whole grains known as Avena sativa. It has anti-inflammatory and anti-itch properties. Good for sensitive skin and eczema. Eases irritations such as diaper rash and constipation.

Oxygenated bleach:
Oxygenated bleach is considered as eco-friendly because it contains sodium percarbonate with the by-product soda ash. It acts as a stain removal. When it comes in contact to water it releases oxygen that breakdown stains, dirt and germs. It is safe on coloured clothing and carpets.

Natural Soap nuts powder:
Soap nuts or reetha (Sapindus mukorossi), or soap berries are natural, eco-friendly, cheap and soap nuts are reusable. This plant is rich in saponin which enriches soft, healthy hair and skin. It is hypoallergenic, odourless and ideal for sensitive skin. It is also versatile and a natural cleaning agent.

Prevents dryness, removes dandruff and lice as well as cleansing, getting rid of blackheads and diaper rash in babies. Great detangling shampoo and a hair tonic. It is microbial and contains Vitamin A, D, E and K. Soap nuts also have antioxidant, anti-allergic, anti-venom and anti-inflammatory properties.

A great laundry and dish washing agent, cleans floors, windows and carpets. They are natural insecticides. Easily made into a multipurpose cleaner. Soap nuts are a must have in your home due to its versatility uses.

Washing soda:
Washing soda is sodium carbonate. It is alkaline and a stain and soap scum remover. Washing soda is a natural detergent booster and household cleaner.

Natural ingredients

Other natural ingredients:
Castile soap:
Castile soap is a vegetable-based soap. It is free of animal fats, nontoxic, biodegradable and traditionally made from olive oil and caustic soda from Spain. It is safe and gentle when diluted right. It acts as a natural deodorant.

Used as a dish, facial, shampoo, body, hand, all-purpose, foot, teeth and laundry soap. A handy scouring scrub and pet cleaner. It also acts well as an insecticide. Castile soap doesn’t mix well with vinegar nor lemon juice. It is naturally hydrating to the skin and may contain antioxidant properties. Plus, castile soap may be used on babies.

Glycerin (glycerol, glycerine) is an emollient that softens, hydrates and lock in moisture into the skin and hair. It is also good for diaper rash. It creates a protective layer on the skin just as petrolatum does. Apply to damp skin. Glycerin gently removes dirt and make up from skin.

Blends well with water or alcohol products but not so with oil-based products. Therefore, you may need to add an emulsifier when using oil-based products). Can also be added to lip balms. It is colourless and odourless. Can be obtained naturally from plant oils such as shea butter and animal fats.

Hydrogen peroxide:
Hydrogen peroxide is a liquid form of oxygenated bleach. It releases oxygen and leaves water as a by-product. It is cheaper than oxygenated bleach but has a short shelf life because it is water based. It is a good cleaning agent and stain remover.
It is a mild antiseptic and disinfectant. It disinfects doorknobs, toilets, counter tops, sinks, tiles and walls.

Hydrogen peroxide has antiviral and antibacterial properties. Kills mould, mildew and soap scum. Acts as a bleach for cloth whitening and for cleaning brushes (make up, toilet, bottle brushes). It is also great to sanitize equipment after a viral illness. Do not mix with vinegar.

Rubbing alcohol:
Acts as a degreaser, antiseptic and disinfectant removing bacteria, fungus and virus. Removes odours and smells. Isopropyl alcohol (rubbing alcohol) should not be inhaled because bitterants are added in. It is flammable. Removes permanent marker on wooden furniture. Is a good window cleaner. Cleans dirty candles, doorknobs, floors and carpet stains. Not to be taken internally. Use for cleaning only.

Vitamin E:
Vitamin E is a fat-soluble vitamin, an antioxidant that occurs naturally in nuts, seeds and leafy green vegetables. It helps prevent premature aging. It is moisturizing and anti-inflammatory to hair and skin. It is claimed to have wound healing properties and provides temporal relief from itching. Vitamin E may relieve sunburn. It may support hair and nail health. It is added to shampoo and conditioner.

Lye is a metal hydroxide, a caustic alkali sodium or potassium hydroxide. It is used in soap making to combine liquids and oils as they do not naturally mix. Lye is dangerous on its own. But should be used right when making soap. Lye must be added to water and not the other way. It is a good oven cleaner and drain de-clogger.

It is important to wear chemical resistant gloves, vapor-resistant face mask and safety glasses when handling lye in an open ventilated room. Glass is not a good container to store lye. Safety precautions should be stated on the container of lye as it is corrosive.

Baking soda, vinegar, lemon and lemon / orange peels:

Remember to always do a spot test first.
Buy from a trustworthy, eco-friendly source that do not use chemical additives.
Use powders in moderation and stop use immediately if a reaction occurs and consult medical advice.
Buy raw, unrefined powders that are sourced organically.
Keep out of reach from children and pets. Keep products sealed and on high unreachable shelves.
Do not drink these substances, or apply to body openings (nose, eyes, ears, mouth).

Natural powder

Disclaimer: I provide personal opinions, resources, tools and my experiences. I am not a registered physician, cleaning specialist, chemist or skincare expert.
DIY Recipes have not been tested in a lab. Use your own discretion when using homemade products. Please discuss your health concerns with your paediatrician or doctor.
Therefore, the writings on this site have not been evaluated by the FDA, nor is it intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.



In conclusion : these versitile natural powder(s) and other natural ingredients should replace the toxic chemicals in our homes and encourage green living.

Cheers, happy green living, MrsChettyLife.

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Toddler busy box

Toddler busy box ideas

What is a toddler busy box?
A busy box is a clever, fun, learning, engaging box filled with activities and creative games to keep your toddler busy. A busy box requires much attention from your child.
They should encourage your child’s motor skills, exploration, discovering and solving skills while encouraging independent play.

What’s nice about them?

I like these boxes because my son did not even notice he was learning while playing.
Best thing about it is that they are flexible, we can DIY and custom make it to suit our child’s needs. And as the child grows you may customize it. Anything educational for my son is a win for me.
I saw clever ideas that boxes were made for Sunday to Saturday and rotation so your child doesn’t get bored with the same old staff.

Where and when can we use busy boxes?
On quiet days at home, for long and short trips in the car, busy restaurants and grocery shops, at a friend’s house or have friends over, sensory bags at church, as your child is extra hyper or fussy and you need a bit of quiet ?, when you would like to get some chores done such as dishes or cook a meal etc.

Who is a toddler?
A child aged 12 months to 36 months (approximately 1 year to 3 years old). Toddler years are busy years, and exploring years.
You child notices that they are able to say no and do things on their own. If your child is too quiet, check on them. Lol ?, it’s safe to say not with these boxes.

What do toddlers like?

From my observation: my son at this age likes anything sparkly, colorful, noisy, opens and closes, household items (pot and pan lids).
He also likes things we use daily like cellphone, items he sees other people with, things with buttons, water, that responds to touch and make a mess.
He still uses his mouth primarily to taste. Whatever is given to him goes straight to the mouth.
Each child will have different likes and preferences. Start small and take it from there.

What do you need for a busy box?

Various paper crafts and stationary

Empty Tissue rolls

Straw / pipe cleaners

Modeling clay

Sidewalk Chalk

Googly eyes


Baby Scissors


Mini Pringles box with a slit on the lid

Open and close containers

Coloring books / paper

Reading books



Sealed rice, popcorn, buttons or beads bottle for shaking.

Remote control or an old keyboard.

Fidget spinner for kids


A lock ? and key

Spare phone ? / tablet that’s not working

Landline ?that’s not working

Magnetic toys /fridge magnets

Metal tray or cupcake pan

Dinosaurs (small figurines)

What else can we add?

  • A small bell
  • Colored pegs
  • Post it notes
  • Stacking spoons or cups
  • Baby toy calculator or shop till
  • Baby laptop
  • Empty bottles and lids to close
  • Colored Straws
  • Rice in a bottle
  • Small Cars ?
  • Glow sticks
  • Feathers
  • Small balls ⚽
  • Stacking blocks (or wooden)
  • Colored Ice-cream / Popsicle sticks
  • Clip board
  • Wallet
  • Different shaped and colored lids
  • Glitter
  • Glycerin
  • Pool noodles
  • String / wool
  • different types of fabric
  • Cards or flash cards
  • Cd’s
  • Color in papers
  • bottles in various sizes and shapes
  • Ziploc bags to make sensory bags
  • Finger puppets
  • Earbuds
  • Thoroughly clean spice bottles
  • Empty tissue box
  • Rocks
  • Tissue box
  • Cotton balls
  • Play-doh
  • Fake snow
  • Felt paper
  • Flash cards
  • Clothes pegs
  • Straws
  • Hair ties
  • Blocks (wooden, bamboo, Lego pieces, building blocks)
  • DRY erase boards
  • Rattles and toys
  • Macaroni / pasta / different shapes and colors
  • Soft / felt numbers
  • Teething rings
  • A huge, dark colored blanket for your child to sit on and play. (makes cleanup easier for you).

Creative ideas to keep your toddler busy:
You may use all the items listed above individually or together or as sensory bags in Ziploc bags. (that’s what the glycerin and glitter are for ?, I tried baby oil but the glitter just stuck into a ball instead of loosely floating).
Sensory bags:
Sensory bags are Ziploc bags filled with fun squishy items that allow children to play, explore and learn while using their senses.

Ball pit

Bolts and nuts for babies.
Music and songs using musical instruments.
Let toddlers help you clean up with small manageable tasks.
Play with older siblings or friends.
Check out these learning and educational apps for your toddler (links to reviews of each app at the bottom of the page)

What NOT to add to the toddler busy box:

Sharp objects.
Objects that can choke such as small hard things like beads and candy to avoid choking.
Water according to the weather. And because water is messy, can easily flood and chock kids. Unless it’s blazing hot, you are outdoors and keeping a watchful eye.
Anything that can spill should be closed tightly and wrapped up in tape. I add a piece of plastic that covers the mouth of the bottle before closing the lid.
Messy substances that will stain unless you would want to clean up.
Keep glue closed up and out of reach.
Go for organic (bamboo, 100% cotton) , kitchen-made and eco-friendly products. Because they are less likely to have harmful chemicals.

In conclusion: a busy box is simply a box filled with activities and creative games to keep your toddler busy. Remember to always keep a watchful eye on your toddler. The more the merrier. Step in and play with them for a little.
More ? knowledge from MrsChettyLife: abcs-of-kidloland-app/

It’s important to keep your child safe at all times.

I got a first aid level one certification and did a post on child safety.
Plus download a free emergency contact checklist for your fridge door: child-safety/

Learn about these wonderful Christmas DIYs to make with your toddler whilst keeping them busy diy-kids-christmas-ornaments/

For more on sensory bags, check out: sensory-bags

Source: pinterest
Cheers, happy mothering,
MrsChettyLife. PS: let me know on Instagram if you try any of these and how they work out for you.

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Ants: Natural home remedies to get rid of ants.
It is summer ? here in South Africa. This means that the pests are out of their homes and looking for food to store for the winter. One common household pest are Odorous House Ants ?.

The ants ? go marching one by one hoorah hoorah. They may not be so hoorah for us though.

Why are ants in my home?

Ants are stubborn organized soldiers and are numerous in number. They require fats, proteins, carbohydrates, water ? and shelter for their survival. Basically sugar? and grease attracts them.
Ants have a good sense of smell and follow food pieces. They leave a chemical trail as they go for other ants to follow.

Common hideouts for ants in the home are in the kitchen, cracks in the walls, spaces between the tiles.
Ants hide in the bathroom, bedrooms, behind furniture in living room, behind washing machines, basement and air conditioning.

How to get rid of them:

Don’t just kill the ants you see and be happy ?about it. Their friends will show up soon, you’ll see. Every tiny bit counts.
The first thing you should do when it comes to an ant infestation is to find their home.
They may nest underground, in trees or along the wall. This is usually represented by sand mounted up like a hill with two small holes on the top.

Bird on top of ant house

Keeping your house clean, mopping floors, wiping dashboards and spills. Yes, that’s one way of getting rid of ants ?.
Being a mother to a toddler he drops tiny little pieces of food in the weirdest corner and I never notice it. Until those ants show up.
Vacuum your house often, trying your best to reach the small unreachable corners.
Storing left over food in Airtight containers and locked away in the fridge.

Ants hate strong smells. Therefore, using things like essential oils and spices will make them never to cross that bridge again.
Be sure to cover up cracks in your walls and tiles. Fix leaks in your kitchen, bathrooms and your whole house.
When you notice the entry spot of ants into your home cover it up. You may also soak a cotton ball or bud in essential oils and put it right on the opening.
Wash your pet food bowls after use.
Lastly, empty your trash cans everyday.

Essential oils and spices

  • Ants ? hate
  • Peppermint Clove
  • Tea tree
  • Eucalyptus
  • Sage
  • Cinnamon
  • Rosemary
  • Cayenne pepper
  • Lavender
  • Orange
  • Lemon
  • Black pepper
  • Camphor
  • Citronella
  • Neem
  • Fir needle
  • Bay leaves
  • Mint

Blends for ant sprays:

Recipe 1:
¼ cup distilled water
2/4 cup vinegar
15 drops clove essential oil
15 drops Tea tree E.O
In a spray bottle

Recipe 2:
Essential oils: Peppermint and tea tree 20 drops each, 5 drops Lemon ? and 5 drops Wild orange or Grapefruit, 3 drops Clove to ½ cup vodka and ½ cup distilled water ?.

Recipe 3:
1 cup vinegar or alcohol
40 drops Peppermint
20 drops Lemon
Mixed in a spray bottle.
You may mix any essential oils and add the mentioned herbs as well. Or Sprinkle Epsom salts with essential oils. Oils with strong smells will deter them away.

Other household substances to use:

Citrus peels: Lemon, orange peels you may put these at the door of their home.
Lemon juice
Baby powder with talcum in it (I tried this and my house was white. Lol. The powder messed my carpets.)
Coffee beans
Boric acid
Dish washing liquid / castile soap
Salt / Epsom salt
Cream of wheat
Cucumber ? and peels
Baking soda and sugar paste
Light some Candles
Ceiling Fan or any other fan
Diatomaceous Earth is a nontoxic food grade. It is great at getting rid of ants while being safe for humans and pets.


Please advice all people using your home what the substances you are using are. And they should stay away from them.
Also keep out of reach of pets and children. Place baits in hidden places where children and pets can’t reach them. Crawl on your knees and view the world like they do.

Please do not use hazardous chemicals and pesticides to get rid of pests. They are harmful to the environment, to you and your family.
Contact poison control in case of accidental inhalation.

Disclaimer: I provide personal opinions, resources, tools and my experiences with essential oils. The writings on this site have not been evaluated by the FDA.

They are therefore, not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, nor prevent any disease. I am not a registered physician. Please discuss your health concerns with your pediatrician or doctor.

In conclusion: you may use any of these as baits for ants in the home. Remember to get to the source and attack from there. ?

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SA Candle Supply

SA Candle Supply is a company that supplies everything you need for candle making. This includes fragrances, waxes, wicks, dyes and candle containers and much more.

They supply to wholesalers and private people. This post is in collaboration with SA Candle Supply.

Other than this, they provide educational courses on how to make candles. There is a beginner course and an advanced course.

I was privileged to be part of the beginners’ course by SA Candle Supply. Everything was provided for the course.

SA Candle Supply: Ingredients:

They supplied:


Containers and lids for Diffusers

Reeds for diffusers

Diffuser oil


Pouring jars

Soy wax

Candle containers

Wooden mixing spoons

Popsicle sticks to hold the wicks in place

Infrared thermometer

Candle wicks

Pouring jars

Dye for candles

Soap molds for extra candles

The course commenced with two friendly women teaching us step by step on how to make candles.

Candle wicks:

Candle wicks

How to choose the right wicks for your jar. What type of ranges of wicks they have on their website:

It is important to use the right wick size for your jar right from the beginning. We used STB14 and V14 for the nova jar. STB18 for the Leda jar. And two STB14 for the Luna. We learnt how to keep candle wicks in place using Popsicle sticks.


SA Candle: candle jars and diffusers

An explanation on what jars to use for your candle making was given. We were given three jars (classic jars: nova white, Leda and Luna clear) and in different sizes and colors.

Emphasis on the bottom being a thick base and thick sides of the jars should be considered. So that we don’t have exploding jars when candles are lit.

Our next topic was on Fragrance oils:

Fragrance oils

SA Candle Supply has a great range of fragrance oils including essential oils and fine (top range perfumes) fragrance oils.

I used Ylang Ylang and rose fragrance. Because I love roses and flowers. It smells completely divine.

Soy wax:

Soy wax

We used soy wax because it is vegan, eco-friendly, natural and safe (where as paraffin contains toxic fumes). Being a mother, I strive to look for natural nontoxic materials for my household. Candles should be one of them.

They explained why soy wax is the better option compared to beeswax. Save the bees ? please. Learning how to melt soy wax. Using a double boiler too. They have various quality equipment you can use for melting.

What temperatures are needed to pour soy wax for candle making. How to read the temperature with the infrared thermometer.

SA Candle: infrared thermometer

Infrared thermometers measure steam. You may download testing sheets on the website. After pouring the soy wax into the jars, We mixed in the fragrance oils with a wooden spoon (stick).

We poured the oil into the candle containers (step 1). Leaving a little space on the top for candle pouring step 2. We let the oil cool and took a tea break.

Essential oils:

After our break our host explained on using essential oils in candle making. As well as how to choose the best oils by smell and price.

Essential oils must be added to a carrier oil such as vegetable oils and or butters such as coconut oil and Shea butter. Mixing Shea butter, adding essential oils and lastly adding to soy wax.

Color pods

We learnt how to use concentrated color pods to color or dye candles. Remembering to add the color pods before adding the fragrance. We were advised on how to tell the difference between soy wax and paraffin candles.

We then added step 2 of candle pouring when the candle in the jars had hardened. Allowing the candle to harden further to a day and a half before use. A nail clipper is used to cut the candle wicks to desired sizes.

Diffuser: SA Candle Supply

We used the Iris, Arum clear and Arum white jars. All found on their website. When making Diffusers, pour the fragrance oil first then pour your diffuser oil and seal.

SA Candle Supply make their own wonderful diffuser oil. We placed 8 diffuser sticks in each jar when we got home.

According to our host: the Diffusers last about 3 to 6 months and reeds should be turned every 4 to 5 days. Brush reeds with a piece of cloth before turning. And change your sticks when they turn yellowish.

Facial wipes

We had fun making facial wipes in a glass jar using cotton rounds, castile soap or unscented face soap, distilled water, coconut oil and essential oils. Easy to make but wonderful for cleaning, cleansing and toning.

And the last thing, we got to carry home was the handmade lip balms using Shea butter, coconut wax, soy wax and essential oils.


Oil for Diffusers contains alcohol which should not be inhaled. It is also corrosive and may burn some materials. They should be kept in a safe place, high place as well as Diffusers away from pets and children.

Candles are hot and flammable. Should be kept away from open fires, children and pets.

SA Candle Supply

Be extra careful when handling hot melted wax. It is HOT. Remember to protect your working place by putting newspapers.

Also follow the exact melting points and measurements as explained on their website. Or you can ask them. Better yet, take one if the informative courses.


Each step was demonstrated then they walked around to help us and show us how to do it. The website is very informative. Which has a detailed description (including mm on jars) and explanation on each of their products.

The staff at SA Candle Supply are friendly and hands on. If you have questions, each was answered thoughtfully.

They are on call and mentioned that they were available if you needed any help during your candle making. Even after the course was over.

While being knowledgeable and have true and tried hacks to make things easier for you.

For precise measurements and all questions you may have, contact SA Candle Supply on Facebook: and for all your candle making needs on the website:

Diffuser base oil
In conclusion:

SA Candle Supply is an all-inclusive website that teaches and supplies everything you need for candle making on a small scale and wholesale.

I have fallen in love with candle making thanks to candle making course I attended. Check them out on the website:

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Road trip survival hacks

Road trip survival hacks with a toddler (1 to 3 year olds) for long hours and internationally.
We have an upcoming trip to Zambia this December. Therefore, Being the planner mom I am, I have prepared an essential packing list on how to make our road trip with a toddler much easier and essential road trip survival hacks to keep you sane.

Road trip survival hacks

Road trip survival hacks Essentials:

I would suggest you carry waist bags that you wrap around your waist so that you keep these essentials always on hand and close to you. You may also put the car keys in this bag.
Travel documents.
Birth certificate and extra copies.
Child immunization records.
Drivers License.
Emergency contact person details
Spare cash for toll gates and coins for paid toilets (yes that’s a thing in some countries).
Accommodation necessities.
Phone, charger, headsets, power bank.
House keys.
Black Pen for filling in forms at the boarders.
Spectacles (reading glasses ?)
Write down your vehicle registration number as well. Incase it’s a new car or a loan vehicle.
Vehicle registration papers under drivers name. (loan vehicles: assigned letter from owner, copy of owners ID and police vehicle clearance letter).
Pocket tissues or wipes
Hand sanitizer in a zip lock bag.

What to pack for adult passengers:

Packing checklist

Clothes and shoes
Personal Toiletries and grooming
Chargers, adapters, phones
Airtime, data and place your phone on roaming before leaving.
Hand sanitizer
Camera ? and selfie stick.

Packing list for toddler:

Bum cream
Aqueous cream or lotion you use
Bath wash, bath scrubs and shampoo
Baby oil
Toothbrush and tooth paste
Warm clothes: sweaters, pyjamas, trousers, long sleeve inner vests
Sunhats, sunglasses ? and sunscreen
Summer clothes: short sleeve inner vests, shorts, t-shirts, underwear
Eating utensils: bowls and spoons
Baby food and formula
Bottles and sippy cups
Washing powder you use for their clothes
Comb and nail clippers
Slippers, sandals, shoes, socks
Swaddles, blankets
Sling or carrier
Hooded towels

Carry on luggage:

Opt for quiet and busy entertainment as your road trip survival hacks.
For adults:
Doodling books, journals, ? anti stress coloring books, pencil crayons, music pod, podcasts, headphones, audio books, novels, neck pillows and anything personalized.
Spare clothes: 1 vest, 1 warm jacket, socks and extra shirt and or yoga pants. The point is you may get spills on you and it’s a great idea to carry any extra set of clothes for you. And if your trip is too long a refreshing change of clothes will be ideal if you will be meeting people at your destination. Remember you will be hugging people. ?.

For toddler:
Bum cream, wipes, diapers
Extra clothes, bibs
Changing mat
Baby carrier
Potty: if potty training I learnt this hack to add a diaper over your potty, so that you won’t have to clean it. Especially when traveling.
Scented Diaper disposable bags
Comfort toys (lovey)
Pillows, blankets
Garbage bags, empty plastic bags for soiled clothes.
Small bucket for nausea
Water and juice
Kids headphones

Travel Snacks for everyone:

• Dried fruits
• Non mashable fruits
• Nuts (if your child is not allergic)
• Crackers
• Raisins
• Pretzels
• Yogurts
• Biscuits and cookies ?
• Berries and grapes ?
• Energy bars for adults
• Boiled eggs
• Strawberries
• Cubed ham and polony
• Chicken
• Finger veggies
• Popcorn
• Muffins
• Small ? sandwiches
• Carrots
• Peas
• Different colored Cereal
• Simba Chips
• Apple and pear slices
• Squeezable Food pouches for toddler (if you like, you may use empty food pouches and add your home made baby food).

Travel snacks

Eating utensils: paper plates, cups and wooden spoons, forks, tooth picks and knives.
Insulated thermo cups to keep baby food and drinks warm or cold.
Non spill Sippy cups: (pour in juice and water in advance (before the trip).
Tissues, wipes, swaddle blankets, cloth nappies and hand sanitizer for spills.
Lunch bags or cooler boxes for keeping food and snacks cool.
Calming spray mist: lavender essential oil, Roman Chamomile and bergamot essential oil or your favorite blends.
Keep these items in an easy to reach place during your road trip.

Emergency First Aid Traveling kit:
Travel first aid kit

Re-hydration salts
Nausea and motion sickness
Bandaids / plasters
Calamine lotion for diaper rashes
Flu and colds meds
Lavender essential oil for unopen wounds and calming.
Crepe Bandages with pins
Surgical tape
Cooling pack
Cotton buds
Saline nasal spray and nasal aspirators
Antiseptic lotion
Teething gel
Insect repellant
Pain killers (Calpol Tylenol, or panadol)
Allergex for allergies / Benadryl
Personal medicine
Constipation meds
Diarrhea meds
Antihistamine cream
Flash light charged or with extra batteries.

Getting your car ready:

Take your vehicle in for a service before traveling. Be sure to check filters, tires and brake pads. These are essential for your road trip survival hacks.
Car sunshades for your windows.
Ensuring that the doors and windows on child lock.
Seatbelts for safety.
Keep Jumpstart ears, reflector vests and triangles.
Updated license disc.
Spare tire and changing kit
Extra car oil and water
Fill your fuel tank before you leave.
Check tire pressure and fill air.


Pre-downloaded apps for toddler : (cartoon apps that your toddler loves)

Any specialized apps for you.

Games and activities
Games and entertainment:

Favorite YouTube videos (downloaded offline). I have the YouTube Kids app on my phone for my son.
App games
Spot the difference
Silent game

DIY activity kit:
• Coloring books
• Reading books
• Crayons
• Stickers
• Sealed rice bottle for shaking.
• Remote control
• Fidget spinner and rubiks cube
• A lock ?
• Spare phone ? / tablet (to spare the battery on your phone) / landlines ?
• Magnetic toys /fridge magnets and metal tray
• Dinosaurs
• A small bell
• Colored pegs
• Post it notes
• Flash cards
• Stacking spoons
• Baby toy calculator ?
• Empty bottles and lids to close
• Straw cleaners
• Rice in a bottle

More things in your DIY kit:
• Cars ?
• Glow sticks
• Small balls ⚽
• Pompoms
• Stacking cups and blocks
• Colored Icecream / Popsicle sticks
• Clip board
• Wallet with cards or pictures
• Glitter in Glycerine in a sealed bottle or resealable (zip lock) bag.
• Paper craft
• Board with different types of fabric
• Cards and a mini Pringles box with a snip on the top of the lid to drop cards in
• Color in papers
• Ziplock bags to make sensory bags
• Finger puppets
• Earbuds and a thoroughly clean spice bottle
• Put balls in an empty tissue box
You may put these in various bags and surprise them during the trip as road trip goodie bags. Pinterest has a lot of ideas on what to make to keep a toddler busy (busy box).

Clever road trip survival hacks:

Avoid sugary drinks, chocolate and food that give toddlers a hype.
If you are carrying cash and cards. Put them in different bags or pockets. Incase one gets lost or stolen you have extra stashed away. Some places won’t allow you into the country with too much or too little cash. Find out the rules on this beforehand.

Wrap plastic / cling wrap on bottles before you close the lid.
Take your child for vaccinations, immunization are up to date and others: antimalaria pills. Visit your pediatrician before travel.
A travel company is a great source of information. They can inform you about small things you wouldn’t know unless you stay in that country.

Carry 3 outfits per day for toddler.

Road trip

One way of budgeting is to store some money in a card you don’t usually use and leave it in a safe place at home. So that you are not completely empty after your holiday.
It is also a great idea to pay two months rent in advance. So that you won’t have to worry about rent after your holiday.

Wear dark, lightweight, comfortable clothes, shoes and laid back hair.
Swaddle blankets and cotton nappies are great absorbers. They are also good in place of hot blankets when the whether is in between.
Patience and tolerance will keep you going.
Be prepared to sit in the back seat.
Taking turns with driver.

Road trip survival hacks

Ziplock bags for food and bottles of toiletries to keep from spills.
Check weather app for destination before packing.
Be ? present in the moment and enjoy your ride. Your children pick up on your vibes.
Start your trip with toys and games, use electronics only later during the trip when toddler is fussy and tired.
Avoid giving your toddler too much to drink.
Stop for a stretch. When you stop for fuel, get everyone out of the car.
Distract from tears by playing games and singing songs.
Sing toddlers favorite songs and play chilled music.

Remember to carry your packing list so that you don’t forget anything on your way back. And when you take something out, put it back on the bags. Don’t leave your personal things everywhere. Lock them up if possible.
Rest well before your trip.
Keep hand sanitizer and tissues in all bags, accidental spills won’t wait for you. And some toilets won’t store these.
Have a full meal an hour before driving.
Leave enough leg room.
Do a quick car tidy up at stops.
Be alert and safe, especially at stops, you never know who may be watching you.

Your take home:
• Firstly, Keep these important road trip essentials close to you with a waist bag strapped around you at all times.
• Packing list for adults and toodlers.
• What to keep in your car during the road trip.
• Apps and games to keep your toddler and you busy.
• This handy list of what needs to be in your Emergency first aid travel kit.
• How to prepare your car for a long road trip.
• And lastly, road trip survival hacks.
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Child safety

I did a first aid course and was awarded First Aid certification level 1. We concentrated on first aid for babies, young children and child safety in general. Being a mom to a young boy.

On a personal note: Thank you, Jeanette, I wouldn’t have this without you.

Emergency contact list

Emergency contact list

Be sure to have ready information (emergency contact sheet) on your fridge door about you. Incase you are unable to give information during emergencies, someone else can do it for you.
Parents Name and information
Childs name and information
Street address
Nearest main roads
Telephone number
Emergency contact person details (husband or your parents or trusted friend)
Allergy list and other important medical information eg health conditions, current medication.
Contact Numbers for:
• Nearest Police station
• Fire department
• Poison control
• Doctor information
• Dentist
• Medical aid contact information
Your free download is at the bottom of the page. ?

General Child safety precautions

Child safety

Important child safety precautions:
Keep chargers, batteries and all cables hidden away and unplugged. Avoid leaving hanging cables within reach as these may cause choking.
Keep toilet seat down and bathroom door closed at all times.
Medications and personal care substances should be keep away from the reach of children.
Keep your hang bag locked away. Your hang bag has lots of small substances (medication, coins, buttons, pins, sanitizer, balloons, hard candy etc) that can be harmful to your child. I wrote about this here.

Keep your harsh chemicals and cleaning agents on high selves with no access to climb. Or use Cupboard door locks. Teach your child harsh chemicals sign usually shown by the skull for poison and X for do not drink.
Tie and lock garbage cans and plastic ?.
Don’t leave your child (especially babies and toddlers) unattended on a high position such as couch, bed, changing and feeding table.

Use hairspray or essential oils spray for insects. Keep on higher shelves after use.
Teach your child from a young age what is dangerous and safe. Teach them the word ‘No’ as early as possible.
Avoid table cloths as these lead to accidents.
Keep your child away from the stove. Turn pot handles away from you. Pot handles should face the stove switch (inwards) so that your baby doesn’t topple hot food over.

Make sure to fix all unsteady and broken furniture including furniture with sharp edges. Keep furniture away from the crib and stove.
All yard items and the garage door should be locked. Put chemicals on high shelves and occasionally check your garage door sensor.
My son at 16 months already knows to move away from a car, stop ? and wait for it to pass by. Teach basic road safety.
Pet food should also be kept away from your child.

Child safety tips

Always keep a watchful eye on your child. Don’t leave them unattended.
Avoid walking around with hot cups of coffee or anything hot. Don’t hold hot substances above their heads.
Hot foods, drinks and adult beverages (alcohol) out of reach including electrical appliances (Kettle, steamers, curling iron, iron).

Be sure to wipe spills immediately.
Teach older siblings to dail emergency numbers during an emergency if you are unable to.
If you have pets, educate yourself on pet safety especially with young children.

Don’t allow your child to play around a pet that is feeding. A feeding pet may easily turn dangerous to protect their tummies.
Don’t keep fluffy pillows, blankets and lots of toys in your babies crib especially when they ? sleep. These lead to cot deaths (SIDS). Minimal is safer.

Follow age restrictions on toys. Small toys maybe a choking hazard to babies and young children.
Always check your babies bath water with your elbow before putting them in. I still have scars on my foot because the nanny left hot water in the bath. Start with cold water when running your bath.

Cover pool areas when not in use. Never leave unattended children near the pool area or buckets of water ?. No matter how little water. A child can drown in as little as 2 inches of water.
Lock the door to the garden. The garden has lots of hazardous chemicals.

Keep coins, beads, magnets, sharp objects and small substances away from your child.
Keep ready ice packs in your freezer.
Practice self care so that you are in a perfect state to take care of your loved ones. Practice being present in the moment.

Warning signs

Don’t place your phone on charge under your pillow especially when sleeping.
Remember to pack away your mommy products and all sorts of tools after use.
Go for organic products. And unscented products for your baby to avoid allergic reactions. Avoid putting soap on your babies face. Water cleans just fine.

Teaching older siblings and everyone who takes care of your child on safety and safe play especially with small children around.
Remember to use all your senses, sight, smell, touch and intuition when it comes to child safety.
A prolonged high fever in babies is not good. Seek medical treatment.
Remember that a baby doesn’t make choking sounds. Look for cues and keep a watchful eye.
Invest in non slip bath mats.

It’s also important to write down the time of the beginning of an emergency.
Don’t rub substances on open wounds and burns unless advised by your doctor.
Cover electric outlets.
Household plants and plastic bags out of reach.
Install baby gates.
Keep glass cutlery on top drawers and plastic on the bottom drawers.

Warning Signs to watch for:

Rush to the emergency department if you notice any of these in your child:
• Bleeding
• Eyes rolling back
• Vomiting
• Fits
• Blurred vision
• Loss of balance
• Constant headaches

First Aid Kit
First aid kit

You need these in your First Aid Kit:
Wound cleaner (salt water)
Swabs for cleaning wound (gauze)
Forceps to remove splinters
Triangular bandages
Roller bandages (different sizes)
Roll of elastic adhesive (different sizes)
Non – allergic adhesive strips
Packet of adhesive dressing strips
First aid dressings (different sizes)
Straight splints / magazines
CPR Mouth piece
Large zip lock bag for amputations
Ring bandages
Burn shield ?
Space blanket
Epsom salt
Cling warp for open wounds

Meds to add for child safety

Meds for personal use (be sure to check expiry dates before each use):
Calamine lotion
Rehydrate for dehydration
Saline nasal spray
Eye wash
Panadol syrup / ibuprofen
Cough and flu meds
Activated charcoal for treatment of 80% of poison inhaled
Coconut oil for diaper rashes
Bicarbonate of soda for bee stings
Vinegar for wasp stings
You may get your first aid kit from Dischem or Clicks. Feel free to personalize your first aid box.

Teach child safety
Teach child safety

Fun ways to teach your child about safety
Educational songs and games.
Getting your child’s school to practice and teach child safety.
Awards like stickers and praise for practicing safety.
Make it fun and interesting.

Practice safety and your child will follow suit (they learn by watching you).
Add to your bedtime routine.
Educational apps on child safety.
Reprimand immediately if your child is doing something wrong.
Made up songs on safety.
Talk through while practicing safety. ‘I am closing the door so that you must not play with water in the toilet. It’s not safe for you.’
Don’t just say no, explain why that’s dangerous for them and Show them the right way to do things.

Child safety tips from other moms to read:
Baby proofing
Safety essentials

Download your free emergency contact sheet.

In conclusion:
When it comes to child safety, If you are unsure or at unease, contact your doctor. Trust your mom instinct, keep a watchful eye ?‍? and make use of your gained mom reflex. Better safe than sorry. Most importantly keep your first aid box in clear sight, updated and at hand. Add your Mom Hacks on Instagram.

Key learning points

Emergency contact list and information plus free download
• what to do when Baby proofing and child safety ideas
• Watch for these signs
• First aid kit for babies
• Teach your child to be safe
• Other moms advice

Educate yourself on poisonous plants here.

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Disclaimer: I provide personal opinions, resources, tools and my experiences in life. The writings on this site are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. I am not a registered physician. Therefore, Please discuss all your health concerns with your pediatrician or doctor.

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ABC’s of KidloLand app

ABC’s of KidloLand app. ABC’s of KidloLand app contains an A to Z review of what you need to know and can find in the KidloLand app. This post is in conjunction with KidloLand.

KidloLand app has Nursery Rhymes, Learning Songs, activities, educational games, phonics, coloring, songs, music, puzzles, illustrations, skills, worksheets and creativity ideal for ages 1 to 8.

KidloLand Nursery Rhymes

are interactive which means that surprises come alive simply by tapping on screen. KidloLand app won Mom’s Choice Gold Award, Tillywig Brain Child Award amongst other awards.

A is for the ABC’s category, Ages 1 to 8 and Animal Kingdom.

B is for Bedtime, baby songs, Birds and blog (

C is for Colors, Christmas and Chomping Monsters.

D is for Dinos, Downloads and Days of the week.

E is for Early Learning and educational app. ABC’s of KidloLand app.

F is for Flowers, Fruits and Flashcards.

G is grouped by ages.

H is for help (in app help).

I is for Insects.

J is for Jelly Surprise vehicles.

K is for KidloLand app and Kids.

L is for logging in, Life Skills and Languages (The app comes in English, Spanish and Portuguese).

M is for Musical Games, Magic Words, Months of the Year, My Downloads, monthly subscriptions and My First Rhymes.

N is for Nursery Rhymes, no ads and Numbers and Counting.

O is for Occupations and Places, Old Macdonald songs and Offline.

P is for Playlist, Parental Control and Popping Time plus Potty Time in the Life Skills category.

Q is for quality, quality songs and pictures.

R is for responsive app and Row your boat.

S is for Sports, Surprises, Settings, Stories and Shapes.

T is for timed Playlists.

U is for Underwater.

V is for Vehicles, volume control in settings and Vegetables. ABC’s of KidloLand app.

W is for Weather and Seasons and Wheels of the Bus.

W is also for WINNERS:

Congratulations to our 3 lucky winners of the 1 month subscription from KidloLand. Drum roll ?? please: (you will be contacted by a representative from KidloLand) :





X is for Xtra (extra) fun app.

Y is for Yak in the Animal Songs category.

Z is for Zola tries to sleep Bedtime Story.

Be sure to follow @mrschettylife or @MrsChettyLife across social media for more #momhacks. More from MrsChettyLife:

In conclusion: ABC’s of KidloLand app, if you need a complete educational program for kids aged 1 to 8, KidloLand app is the app for you. You may download on your Apple or Android device. They are on Instagram and across social media too @kidloland.

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My son I love educational things for my son. I have been looking for ways to begin teaching him even though he will not be home schooled. 

I feel I should set the path for him now so that things will be easier for him later on. We color together and I only let him watch educational cartoons.

He is curious and loves to play phone games with his daddy.

I stumbled upon They provide educational resources including guided lessons, printable worksheets from the learning library, and teaching tools for parents and teachers. is great and resourceful to that stay at home mom, the parents who choose to home school, parents who would love to be more involved in their child’s school life and teachers looking to enhance their school work.

has an entire themed and fun library for you to choose from filled with learning resources of comprehensive Math Skills and Reading & Writing Skills lists developed by expert educators.

Other things they provide are song videos, online games, guided lessons, activities, stories, lesson plans, exercises, science projects and more for different age groups.

Subjects include Fine arts, Foreign languages, Math, Reading and writing, Science and Social studies.

Some worksheet types to choose from are:
• Maze
• Word search
• Word search with images
• Crossword puzzle
• Word scramble
• Addition
• Subtraction
• Division
• Multiplication
• Spelling Test
• Matching words to images
• Word Tracer

The themes to choose from include their seasonal themes such as autumn leaves, Halloween, school days, cute crawlies, dinosaurs, outer space, and much more.

I was sent this wonderful Outer Space Themed Addition worksheet.

Learning is out of this world in this space themed addition worksheet! For more math activities, visit

You may also download the app from the Apple store and Google play for more educational resources.

They are on social media as @education_com on Pinterest and Twitter.

I sure hope you enjoy as much as I and my son did. More from MrsChettyLife:

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How to calm a fussy baby

When a baby is crying and fussy. It’s their language and way of reaching out to you that something is amiss. Until you attend to that need they will not be ok. Many times my son has had a restless sleep simply because he is hungry. Another time he was fussy for like an hour simply because his shoes were too tight. How to calm a fussy baby.

How to calm a fussy baby

Why is baby fussy?

  • hunger or thirsty (I bet you are not the happiest person when hungry too)
  • fatigue (tired muscles)
  • growth sprout
  • overwhelmed
  • Needs attention
  • uncomfortable (clothes too tight, something is poking them, cold, too hot, itchy, diaper full)
  • scared
  • because they are human
  • needs a break or breather
  • doesn’t like a person
  • teething
  • Sick or unwell
  • Missing someone
  • Change in routine
  • Bored
  • Unfamiliar environment

Read for these cues and meet them to avoid the tears:

  • Rubbing face. Holding ears may mean baby is tired or teething.
  • Clenching hands may mean baby is hungry.
  • Smacking lips. And shaking head (rooting). When your baby shakes their head towards your boobs, along with smacking lips or feeding sounds and facial expressions may also mean baby is hungry.
  • Turning head away or losing eye contact may mean baby is overwhelmed.
  • Arched back may mean baby is uncomfortable.

Fussy baby

How to stay calm as a mom: (especially during tantrums)

-Count 1-20
-Look at the need and beyond the tears, tantrum.
-Understand a baby is human and is entitled to have bad moments and bad days, this does not mean that the child is bad.
-be patient.
-go to the bathroom.
-if your child is throwing a tantrum walk away to a safe distance and watch, they will probably get up and follow you. A distraction works well and change of hands to your partner or another person helps.
-Get a few minutes to yourself to calm down
-Hydrate, it’s important to stay hydrated.
-Self-care: self-care helps you to stay calm. It keeps you in a better mood to handle your days situations.

What to do as a parent.

How to calm a fussy baby.

Firstly find the trigger by trying different solutions. Since a baby won’t be able to tell you what’s wrong try these ways.

-distracting them. Sing a song, give them a bootle or milk, do an exaggerated dance, find a toy they love, play music. Be louder, attention catching and creative.
-let your partner take the reigns while you cool off.
-get on your knees, give hugs and speak in a calm way.
-remove the child from the situation. Change scenery.
-find a quite spot to relax both of you
-baby wearing.
-you may use essential oils to calm you. Such as bergamot essential oil, chamomile essential oil and lavender essential oil. Add these to your wrists using a roller bottle. Sniff straight out of the bottle or diffuse using your nebulizer.
I am an introvert and I get overwhelmed with too many people. My son is extroverted but there are times he gets overwhelmed. I then find a quiet familiar spot to calm him down. I do that for me as well.

-remove and dust clothes before putting them back. Put diaper nicely.

How to help baby calm down:

-take a walk
-baby wearing
-feed them
-change diaper
-undress if too hot, cover up if cold
-hug them
-distract them
-keep your cool ?
-speak in your happy voice
-let them cry it out (ever had such a bad day and just needed a good cry, sometimes that helps feel better but hold them while they cry, cry with them too)
-help them rest (? sleep)
-play their Favourite game
-give them your gown for a Familiar smell or hold them close to you.

How to calm a fussy baby

How to calm a fussy baby by baby massage:

Baby massage is a sure way to calm a fussy baby. Just like our bodies get tired a babies body gets weiry too and needs a massage.

What you will need.

  • ¼ cup Sunflower oil
  • 3 drops Lavender essential oil for calming
  • 3 drops Chamomile essential oil for relaxation
  • 2 drops Tea tree essential oil for its antibacterial purposes.
  • Double boiler (place a jar in hot boiling water, add essential oils into the jar to warm them while avoiding direct heat).
  • Towel
Set up the scene:
  • Close the windows.
  • Lay a towel on the bed or wherever you will give the massage.
  • Warm up the sunflower oil in a double boiler. Till it is lukewarm to warm.
  • Remove from the stove and let it cool a little.
  • Add Lavender, Tea tree, Chamomile to the sunflower oil.
  • Check the temperature of the oils using your inner wrist.
  • Play soothing music.
  • Wash your hands.
To massage:
  • Remove all clothes on the baby.
  • Rub the oils into your babies hair, gently massaging into scalp and slightly onto the top of the temples of the forehead.
  • Lay your baby on the towel. Or hold your baby if too young.
  • Remember to rub the oils in your hands first before applying onto baby.
  • Rub the oil onto the soles of your babies feet pressing with your palm.
  • Run your way up to the shoulders with slight pressure, adding a little more oil.
  • When you reach the baby’s chest and belly, spread your hands out towards the sides of the baby.
  • Put pressure in your fingertips as you spread as if you are flattening the pages of a book.
  • Use your thumbs to make small circles.
  • Spend a little more time on the back.

Therefore, After you are satisfied with the massage run the bath. Using your elbow to check the temperature. Don’t forget to use baby soap and shampoo. Rinse thoroughly.

Baby massage

Caution ⚠:

  • Keep the oils out of babies reach.
  • Avoid putting oils on the ears, eyes, mouth and private areas.
  • Remember to do a patch test first if you have never used the oils on baby.
  • Rub the oils into your hands first to make them the right temperature for baby.
  • Ensure that the room is warm and cosy during the massage.
  • If you don’t want to use essential oils, baby oil or pure sunflower oil works as well for a plain massage without essential oil properties.
  • Always exercise caution when using essential oils. A little goes a long way.

A few notes:

A baby cannot speak well at least not in a language we understand. So their best way to communicate with you is through tears. As they grow older tantrums too.

They give out cues other times they do not know how to express themselves or what’s bothering them. To parents this is translated as being fussy. Sometimes we miss these cues and only see the result (tears).

Your baby and you are people who speak different languages and we need to find a common ground where we can communicate. Mom and child both learn each other till they both understand what works.

If a child notices you only respond to tantrums, that will be their first way of communicating. Try and solve the problem before it reaches that stage.

Overall we all need love, care and attention. If your child senses you are not giving them the attention they need in the moment, they find a way to get your attention.

We as moms need to also cut ourselves some slack. We are learning too. And through trail, error and mommy instinct we will get there.
Trust that mommy instinct.

A baby is not doing things to spite you. You are their whole world and their comfort spot. They are comfortable with you and they know and trust that you will meet their needs. You are their whole world and comfort spot.


And patience: be patient with your child while keeping your cool and being patient with yourself. Knowing that this will last only a while. Your child will eventually learn to speak and grow up.

That child is yours so they will pick up on your habits. When you are stressed or uncomfortable what do you do? They may sometimes reflect you and it’s quite difficult to control what you see in them when you struggle to control it in yourself. You may use similar steps for tantrums. How to calm a fussy baby.

Disclaimer: I am no doctor, simply a mother sharing her findings. These statements have not been evaluated by the food and drug administration (FDA). These products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.

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Wise words from motherly:

‘Yet it is so important. That moment when your baby was placed in your arms, you became an expert: an expert on how to parent your particular child. Whether or not you were academically trained—your body, mind, and soul became intimately, mysteriously, beautifully connected to your baby.

Maternal intuition gave you an ability to know things, and while it’s not objective or qualitative or will be written about in a peer-review journal, her voice is incredibly valid. Because you are biologically and spiritually programmed to care for your child in a way no one else can.’

you are not failing

In conclusion:

How to calm a fussy baby. When calming a fussy baby make sure that their diaper is clean, they have been fed, their clothes are comfortable, they are a good temperature and that they are not ill. Be sure to stay calm as a child feeds off your positive vibes. As a result your baby will be less fussy and much happier.

If your baby is not getting better. Please visit your doctor. Download your how to baby massage:


Thank you for reading, MrsChettyLife.