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I love educational things for my son. I have been looking for ways to begin teaching him even though he will not be home schooled.
I feel I should set the path for him now so that things will be easier for him later on. We color together and I only let him watch educational cartoons.
He is curious and loves to play phone games with his daddy.
I stumbled upon Education.com. They provide educational resources including guided lessons, printable worksheets from the learning library, and teaching tools for parents and teachers.
Education.com is great and resourceful to that stay at home mom, the parents who choose to home school, parents who would love to be more involved in their child’s school life and teachers looking to enhance their school work.
Education.com has an entire themed and fun library for you to choose from filled with learning resources of comprehensive Math Skills and Reading & Writing Skills lists developed by expert educators.
Other things they provide are song videos, online games, guided lessons, activities, stories, lesson plans, exercises, science projects and more for different age groups.
Subjects include Fine arts, Foreign languages, Math, Reading and writing, Science and Social studies.
Some worksheet types to choose from are:
• Word search
• Word search with images
• Crossword puzzle
• Word scramble
• Spelling Test
• Matching words to images
• Word Tracer
The themes to choose from include their seasonal themes such as autumn leaves, Halloween, school days, cute crawlies, dinosaurs, outer space, and much more.
I was sent this wonderful Outer Space Themed Addition worksheet.
When a baby is crying and fussy. It’s their language and way of reaching out to you that something is amiss. Until you attend to that need they will not be ok. Many times my son has had a restless sleep simply because he is hungry. Another time he was fussy for like an hour simply because his shoes were too tight. How to calm a fussy baby.
Why is baby fussy?
hunger or thirsty (I bet you are not the happiest person when hungry too)
fatigue (tired muscles)
uncomfortable (clothes too tight, something is poking them, cold, too hot, itchy, diaper full)
because they are human
needs a break or breather
doesn’t like a person
Sick or unwell
Change in routine
Read for these cues and meet them to avoid the tears:
Rubbing face. Holding ears may mean baby is tired or teething.
Clenching hands may mean baby is hungry.
Smacking lips. And shaking head (rooting). When your baby shakes their head towards your boobs, along with smacking lips or feeding sounds and facial expressions may also mean baby is hungry.
Turning head away or losing eye contact may mean baby is overwhelmed.
Arched back may mean baby is uncomfortable.
How to stay calm as a mom: (especially during tantrums)
-Count 1-20 -Look at the need and beyond the tears, tantrum. -Understand a baby is human and is entitled to have bad moments and bad days, this does not mean that the child is bad. -be patient. -go to the bathroom. -if your child is throwing a tantrum walk away to a safe distance and watch, they will probably get up and follow you. A distraction works well and change of hands to your partner or another person helps. -Get a few minutes to yourself to calm down -Hydrate, it’s important to stay hydrated. -Self-care: self-care helps you to stay calm. It keeps you in a better mood to handle your days situations.
What to do as a parent.
How to calm a fussy baby.
Firstly find the trigger by trying different solutions. Since a baby won’t be able to tell you what’s wrong try these ways.
-distracting them. Sing a song, give them a bootle or milk, do an exaggerated dance, find a toy they love, play music. Be louder, attention catching and creative. -let your partner take the reigns while you cool off. -get on your knees, give hugs and speak in a calm way. -remove the child from the situation. Change scenery. -find a quite spot to relax both of you -baby wearing. -you may use essential oils to calm you. Such as bergamot essential oil, chamomile essential oil and lavender essential oil. Add these to your wrists using a roller bottle. Sniff straight out of the bottle or diffuse using your nebulizer. I am an introvert and I get overwhelmed with too many people. My son is extroverted but there are times he gets overwhelmed. I then find a quiet familiar spot to calm him down. I do that for me as well.
-remove and dust clothes before putting them back. Put diaper nicely.
How to help baby calm down:
-massage -bath -take a walk -baby wearing -feed them -change diaper -undress if too hot, cover up if cold -hug them -distract them -keep your cool 😎 -speak in your happy voice -let them cry it out (ever had such a bad day and just needed a good cry, sometimes that helps feel better but hold them while they cry, cry with them too) -help them rest (😴 sleep) -Music -play their Favourite game -give them your gown for a Familiar smell or hold them close to you.
How to calm a fussy baby by baby massage:
Baby massage is a sure way to calm a fussy baby. Just like our bodies get tired a babies body gets weiry too and needs a massage.
What you will need.
¼ cup Sunflower oil
3 drops Lavender essential oil for calming
3 drops Chamomile essential oil for relaxation
2 drops Tea tree essential oil for its antibacterial purposes.
Double boiler (place a jar in hot boiling water, add essential oils into the jar to warm them while avoiding direct heat).
Set up the scene:
Close the windows.
Lay a towel on the bed or wherever you will give the massage.
Warm up the sunflower oil in a double boiler. Till it is lukewarm to warm.
Remove from the stove and let it cool a little.
Add Lavender, Tea tree, Chamomile to the sunflower oil.
Check the temperature of the oils using your inner wrist.
Play soothing music.
Wash your hands.
Remove all clothes on the baby.
Rub the oils into your babies hair, gently massaging into scalp and slightly onto the top of the temples of the forehead.
Lay your baby on the towel. Or hold your baby if too young.
Remember to rub the oils in your hands first before applying onto baby.
Rub the oil onto the soles of your babies feet pressing with your palm.
Run your way up to the shoulders with slight pressure, adding a little more oil.
When you reach the baby’s chest and belly, spread your hands out towards the sides of the baby.
Put pressure in your fingertips as you spread as if you are flattening the pages of a book.
Use your thumbs to make small circles.
Spend a little more time on the back.
Therefore, After you are satisfied with the massage run the bath. Using your elbow to check the temperature. Don’t forget to use baby soap and shampoo. Rinse thoroughly.
Keep the oils out of babies reach.
Avoid putting oils on the ears, eyes, mouth and private areas.
Remember to do a patch test first if you have never used the oils on baby.
Rub the oils into your hands first to make them the right temperature for baby.
Ensure that the room is warm and cosy during the massage.
If you don’t want to use essential oils, baby oil or pure sunflower oil works as well for a plain massage without essential oil properties.
Always exercise caution when using essential oils. A little goes a long way.
A few notes:
A baby cannot speak well at least not in a language we understand. So their best way to communicate with you is through tears. As they grow older tantrums too.
They give out cues other times they do not know how to express themselves or what’s bothering them. To parents this is translated as being fussy. Sometimes we miss these cues and only see the result (tears).
Your baby and you are people who speak different languages and we need to find a common ground where we can communicate. Mom and child both learn each other till they both understand what works.
If a child notices you only respond to tantrums, that will be their first way of communicating. Try and solve the problem before it reaches that stage.
Overall we all need love, care and attention. If your child senses you are not giving them the attention they need in the moment, they find a way to get your attention.
We as moms need to also cut ourselves some slack. We are learning too. And through trail, error and mommy instinct we will get there. Trust that mommy instinct.
A baby is not doing things to spite you. You are their whole world and their comfort spot. They are comfortable with you and they know and trust that you will meet their needs. You are their whole world and comfort spot.
And patience: be patient with your child while keeping your cool and being patient with yourself. Knowing that this will last only a while. Your child will eventually learn to speak and grow up.
That child is yours so they will pick up on your habits. When you are stressed or uncomfortable what do you do? They may sometimes reflect you and it’s quite difficult to control what you see in them when you struggle to control it in yourself. You may use similar steps for tantrums. How to calm a fussy baby.
Disclaimer: I am no doctor, simply a mother sharing her findings. These statements have not been evaluated by the food and drug administration (FDA). These products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.
‘Yet it is so important. That moment when your baby was placed in your arms, you became an expert: an expert on how to parent your particular child. Whether or not you were academically trained—your body, mind, and soul became intimately, mysteriously, beautifully connected to your baby.
Maternal intuition gave you an ability to know things, and while it’s not objective or qualitative or will be written about in a peer-review journal, her voice is incredibly valid. Because you are biologically and spiritually programmed to care for your child in a way no one else can.’
How to calm a fussy baby. When calming a fussy baby make sure that their diaper is clean, they have been fed, their clothes are comfortable, they are a good temperature and that they are not ill. Be sure to stay calm as a child feeds off your positive vibes. As a result your baby will be less fussy and much happier.
If your baby is not getting better. Please visit your doctor. Download your how to baby massage:
I began a trend on Instagram called Mom Hacks Series. I post about surviving motherhood.
Let’s learn together on easy, tried and true tips, hacks, tricks and everything you will need for survival in this battlefield called Motherhood.
With a side dash on green living with essential oils, marriage, motivation, all things baby and toddler.
I’d love to add in a personal note to the mommy who let us go first into the changing room at Monte casino because she noticed we were in desperate need. 😉 We had a major blow out and she was ahead of us. Thank you and I salute you.
A few Instamoms who I follow for inspiration, support, ideas and insta-friendship:
Let’s face it. Being a mother is tough. There are too many
hats to wear: Nurse, teacher, punisher, chauffeur, chef, cleaner, mediator,
lost things finder, motivational speaker, cheer leader, strong one, mind reader,
referee, playmate, wife, friend, mood booster, lawyer, sports coach, super
hero, fastest runner, sleepwalker, party planner, adventure planner and executioner,
wise guru, patient one, boredom killer, ATM, bath giver, counsellor, automatic
reflex(or), machine moving never get tired mom.
But yet, when it’s time to relax
and enjoy the moment our minds won’t let us. SIGH!
It’s a never-ending cycle. I amaze myself at how I am still functioning and going forward. It is hard at the end of it all to be present. When was the last time you just lived and breathed in the moment? When nothing but the moment mattered.
No plans for the future, no regrets of the past, no worries of today just celebrate the now. What am I talking about? What moment? Yes, it seems far-fetched, I don’t remember a time when that occurred. It has probably been years, like years. We forget and tend to live in overdrive but like a car we will eventually burn out and overheat faster when we live this way. We tend to become angry, shout a lot and irritable mommy and wife. A happy mommy and wife is a happy home.
Its simply because every second in everyday counts. We can’t
turn back the clock and do it again. The moments fly by never to come back
again. Yes, soak in all the good and all the bad, because its better living than
not, better good and constructive arguing than burning inside in silence, (silence
shows and reflects giving up and not caring). Life is an operation room, every second
and every stitch counts. It’s a life or death situation.
Once done, it cannot be undone. Once spoken, words cannot be
unspoken. Words ring in our heads over and over. Once 2nd August
2019 is gone there will never be another 2nd August 2019. Even though
something similar may happen, it will not be exactly the same. Like identical twins,
they may look strikingly similar but are not the same person even though somethings
they do may be similar.
How do we live in the moment as a mother?
Switch off social media and electronics for a few minutes
especially when something wonderful is happening. The brain never forgets.
Plan your day making sure to add a few minutes to do
Make deliberate effort to listen, to play, to relax, to
switch off and enjoy the present.
Relax, take a deep breath, close your eyes and feel the
wonderful feelings around you. Sometimes feeling is better and gives deeper
meaning than anything else. We may forget the smell or the sound or what it
looked like but its harder to forget how we felt in such a profound moment.
As your child needs your attention, give them attention
whole heartedly. Your child will be young once.
Practice self-care to reduce your impatience and irritability.
Overwhelm life when life gets overwhelming.
Look at the positive and practice positive affirmations.
Have faith, hope for the best.
Celebrate your wins, small, big, loud or silent, be your own
cheerleader and celebrate how far you have come.
When the stress and worries of tomorrow try to suck you in,
stop them. Distract yourself with music, or yoga, meditation, prayer, fitness
whatever rocks your boat. Everyday has enough stress of its own.
I write things down in my journal, my mind becomes at ease
and I can tackle the most important things first. It also helps me not to forget
Cut yourself some slack, set realistic goals and be patient
with yourself. Most times we overbear ourselves and beat ourselves down when we
can’t achieve them. Start small and work your way up. It takes commitment to
Begin your day with difficult tasks and work your way to easy tasks.
Love and live.
Pray in the moment, a short prayer makes a huge difference.
Count to ten when your patience is running low, and your
anger meter is running on high. Step away from the temptation for a few minutes
so that you can recollect yourself.
Choose a different strategy when the strategy you have been
trying is clearly not working.
Make deliberate effort to relax when its time to relax.
Sleep when they sleep, they say, it means that make time for you to relax and
that time is usually when the children sleep.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Embrace and be content with what you have. You have no idea what wolves are hiding beneath other peoples sheep clothing.
In Conclusion: remember that when you live in the moment benefits you because then you realize that your life messed up as it is, is actually ok and worth living. You will begin to see and appreciate everything you have and pass through. Appreciation of every moment comes easy and the persons in your life that make the moment. Treasure these moments and this life we live. And lastly do your very best all the time.
Playmobil movie review feedback from the Movie Premiere at Movies@Monte.
Fun Facts about the movie:
The Director Lino DiSalvo was the Head of Animation for movie ‘Frozen’. He is a Disney veteran who spent 17 years at Walt Disney Animation Studios.
The voices of Anya Taylor-Joy, Gabriel Bateman, Daniel Radcliffe, Jim Gaffigan, Meghan Trainor and Adam Lambert are the films stars.
Anya Taylor-Joy as Marla Gabriel Bateman as Charlie Ryan S. Hill as 6-year-old Charlie Jim Gaffigan as Del, the food truck driver. Daniel Radcliffe as Rex Dasher, the secret agent and Marla’s love interest. Meghan Trainor as the fairy-godmother Adam Lambert as the Emperor Maximus Kenan Thompson as the Bloodbones Wendi McLendon-Covey Lino DiSalvo as Robotitron Spike Spencer
Music is by Heitor Pereira.
The movie will be in cinemas on the 16th August, 2019.
There are a number of Playmobil amusement parks in certain countries that feature play areas and events. They are called FunParks and are Playmobil toys themed.
There is a CGI animated TV series inspired by Playmobil figures entitled Super 4.
Accoridng to Wikipedia: The signature Playmobil toy is a 7.5 cm (approximately 3 inches) tall (1:24 scale) human figure with a particular cherub-like smiling face, known as a “klicky”. A wide range of accessories, buildings and vehicles, as well as many sorts of animals, are also part of the Playmobil line.
When her younger brother Charlie suddenly disappears into the magical, animated universe of PLAYMOBIL®, Marla embarks on the adventure of a lifetime to bring him home. Setting off on an incredible journey through new and exciting themed worlds, Marla teams up with various strange and heroic companions, including: Del, a crazed food truck driver; Rex Dasher, a suave and fearless secret agent; a loyal and endearing robot; a hilarious fairy-godmother, and many others!
We were invited by SHANÈY and team at MomSays. We went to Movies@Monte and were greeted by friendly staff who gave us Playmobil hand tags and Playmobil toys. They had a curated list of invitees. We then walked into a room full of children and parents. A blue carpet lead to a photo booth where we took lovely pictures with an immediate Playmobil photo print.
We walked to a snack table, filled with delicious goodies. At 11:30am, we queued into the massive cinema. We were offered popcorn and cold drinks on the way.
At 12, the movie began with only 2 adverts, we watched the movie. There was singing and dancing. The movie is intriguing and fun.
Our take from the movie:
Celebrating the bond between sisterly and brotherly love. How responsibilities come in play and looking out for one another.
We also learnt that one should believe in themselves. Dream and never stop dreaming. Always have time for fun, imagination and play.
We are all heroes and can be heroes in our day to day lives by helping other people.
We also learnt the importance of working together. Every person is strong in their own might but stronger when we work together.
This was the first time my son was at the cinema for the movies and he fared pretty well. Much better than I expected. He loves TV and the gigantic screen intrigued him. He is 15 months now and followed through the movie. My son enjoyed the singing and dancing most.
I enjoyed mother and son time out of the house and we are extremely grateful to have been part of the experience.
A baby experiences love differently because a baby does not really understand words from the beginning. Have you ever seen an uncontrollable baby who just melts in the arms of a parent? My son does this too many times. The question is how do we show love to our baby in a language they understand?
Show love to your baby by:
Hugs and kisses: touch is a sole language for a baby. Touch sends signals to the brain that make them feel calm and feel good. That is a big way to show love to your baby. So hold them close to you. Trust me, the bigger they get the more independent they become and you will miss these profound memories and opportunities. My son now reprociates hugs and kisses. He will be in the middle of play and randomly come and give me a hug and kiss. My heart melts. The morning cuddles are also the best, special and sweet. Practice baby massage on them. It’s easy, relaxing and calming.
Listening and attending to their cues and cries: Have you ever interacted with someone who doesn’t speak your language? But you notice this person is hurt by their cries. This person reaches out and give you a hug or picks what fell on the floor and hands it to you. Better yet gives a helping hand when your hands are overflowing. Doesn’t it feel good to know that even though you don’t speak the same language. Responding to your babies cries and cues tells them that you care enough to soothe them. This builds trust. They begin to trust you, when something is wrong, they trust you will make it ok. Sometimes my son just cries and I must automatically know what he wants. Even though he is 14 months and can now communicate without crying. Babies giggles are so sweet, real and cute.
Play with them. Make them 😂 laugh. Laughter is the best medicine. I make a conscious decision to give my son a few minutes of undivided attention and play with them. Play peekaboo. Kick the ball. Drive his toy cars. He appreciates the attention and he smiles. Sing and dance with them. Take them outside and enjoy a walk and few minutes of fresh air. We like to lay down out in the yard on the grass.
Take care of them by catering for their basic needs: a humans basic needs are food, water, sleep and shelter. As long as these basic needs are met then you will have a happy chappy. I was informed in my prenatal classes that if a baby cries check if they are hungry or if the nappy is wet or if they are not uncomfortable (something is poking them). Of course a baby doesn’t need water till after a 8 months to a year old. Water is provided in breast milk.
Show them by
Speak kind words to them: a baby picks up on the tone of your voice. They know when you speak kindly and when you speak harshly to them. Set the standard. Your baby will one day immitate what you do. They will speak harshly to you because it is what you taught them. I saw this memo on Facebook, raise them kind. And remember one day they will have relationships too, whatever you tea h them now will affect them for many years to come. They are human beings too. I guess you wouldn’t like to be yelled at all the time. It matters to them too. Children are never too young to know who is nice and who is mean. That’s why they agree for some people to hold them and others not. A baby senses who you are by your ♥ heart. It will also be easier for them to learn to speak by you speaking to them.
Pay attention to them: my son doesn’t like it when I am on the phone too long( he steals my phone and runs away or he sits and picks his fingers on my phone) , or when I cook or do dishes, he doesn’t like it when I read or when my husband and I cuddle. He knows that when I do all these unnecessary things my attention is not on him. And he sure loves my attention. This is why I make an intentional undivided play specifically for him. My son will not always be this young. And these moments will never come again. Plus paying attention to your baby helps to avoid some unnecessary injuries. Parents develop a reflex that helps keeps children safe. Or to put it in way man’s terms mommy instinct.
Bath them. My son has always loved his baths. It is a direct way to calm and relax him. When he is fussy or has a sore tummy, a bath is the answer. He now looks forward to a bath because he knows it’s an opportunity to splash 💦 and play.
Discernment: I mentioned earlier that mommy instinct plays along. Before I had my son, when we were pregnant, I would always worry how I will take care of this little person. But mommy instinct came after I gave birth to him. It is also discernment. Mom can fortel the future. Picture this, you tell your baby so many times not to do that you will hurt yourself. Few minutes later that happens. I call that discernment.any times you just know that something is not right with your baby and you rush them to the hospital, only to find out you were right. Even if you aren’t better be safe than sorry.
These are other ways as well:
Pray for your baby: I always look up to prayer when I know its something I can’t handle and it’s out of my hands. Prayer gives good vibes and safety on your child for the future and for the present. There is power in prayer. And this is a good way to show love to your baby. If something is meaningful to you and you care about it, you pray for them.
Read with them and show interest in what they do: one thing I would love my son to do and learn from me is to read and write. Because this is something I love to do and I love my son. So combine the two things I love. Even when I’m dead and gone I would love my son to remember me through reading and writing. It’s the purpose of this blog. One day he will read everything I am writing to him here. And that’s what I would love my legacy to be. And reading helps you dream big.
Help them: another way to show love to your baby is helping them through difficult things. Through places, they can’t reach. Help by asking for help through prayer and at the doctors. Life always needs a helping hand. Grown-up people who have strained relationships with their parents complain about this one thing where we’re you when I needed you? So be there for your baby and help them.
Speaking to them and making soothing sounds: you are the first person a child learns to speak from. I tell my son’s stories, we have a conversation. He listens to my voice. There’s a scripture in the Bible that says my sheep know my voice. Speak to them, make soothing noises. When your baby was in your womb one thing that stood out to them is your voice and your heartbeat. Your voice reassuringimg to them. They love your voice and the funny quirks and sounds it makes. Plus you are teaching them to speak and converse. And it makes life so much easier when they can speak.
Show love to your baby by learning how they communicate to you.
How does a baby communicate with you:
Crying is the basic way of them communicating with you. They can’t speak so they cry.
Baby talk as they grow older babies begin what is called baby talk. You will learn the fancy words they use for certain things the more time you spend with them. 😉
Body language: reading a babies body language is one way they talk. When my son hurts himself he holds whatever thing he hurt and I know how to soothe him. And make sure he is OK. In my first aid class they said we should watch for warning signs when something is wrong: is your little one bleeding? vomiting? eyes rolling up? If there is rush to the emergency room. That all comes in body language. Some people say it’s also easy to teach a baby sign language, they use it before they can speak.
Tried and sure ways to earn an extra income as a SAHM. One of the big decision makers when considering being a SAHM is income (finance). It usually requires that you have to cut down on lots of things because you will be relying on one income. Another way could be for you to do these things online or with your kids. Use these tips to earn extra income as a SAHM.
How to save when living on one salary:
Pay off all debt before hand
Cutting down on luxuries
Cash back apps
Buy in bulk
Cheaper (shop brand) version
Make your own DIY
Buy Long lasting clothes
Buy from second hand shops (thrifting)
Reuse and Recycle
Use less (avoid careless use and spending)
Gardening – plant your own garden for veggies and other things you can grow in your back yard.
What can you do to earn extra income as a SAHM:
Freelancing: copywriting, social media management, web developing, writing, editing and proofreading etc
Survey taking: If you have the patience for surveys, you may do this. You may do small tasks, fill in questionnaires, play games for a price or a voucher. I found this a little slow because they required you to do so many tasks for a small price. You could do product testing.
Cash back apps: I am currently using SnapnScan, it is a South African based app. You book groceries that you are going to buy, scan your grocery slip and you get cash back off the items you booked.
Run errands with Uber or taxify or lyft: you may sign up for Uber, taxify or lyft. You may sign up as a delivery driver or errand runner.
Domestic house keeping and house or pet sitting
Piece work: if you are good at gardening, you may offer to clean someone’s yard for a price, take care of the children (baby sitting).
Make your own goods to sell on Shopify: candle making, essential oils, digital products, printables, jewellery making, soap making, anything that you are good at making and sell them online.
Second hand selling: eBay, Gumtree, Facebook marketplace. You may sell used closed or good on these websites. I find more Facebook marketplace to be reliable. We have sold many things on Facebook marketplace.
Pawn: if you really love an item and don’t want to part with it, but is not being used at the moment you may pawn the item. This means the pawn shop gives you money for your item and keep it for a certain period. When you need your item back you pay the money back with interest. This is one way you can earn an extra income as a SAHM.
Online tutor: I found that most online tutor apps need you to have a degree in any field. This allowed you to qualify as a tutor. A few did not require that you have a degree.
Blogging: affiliate marketing, Freelancing, influencer, brand ambassador, selling courses on your blog, selling printables.
Air bnb: you may rent out your home as an air bnb. Don’t forget about the risks of having strangers in your home.
Virtual Assistant: these include random tasks from admin work to social media, depending on the company who hires you.
Offering at home Car wash services to friends, neighbors and family.
Mechanic: if you are good with cars and have an eye for them. You may fix small things or do minor services.
Dog walking: if you are good with dogs, dog walking maybe a good idea.
Online travel agent: you can travel with your kids.
Work at home Business: you may consider offering your own work at home business or working remotely for companies.
Offer other services to earn Extra income as a SAHM.
Apps for online work that allow you to earn an extra income as a SAHM:
A few tips when dealing with online business:
Be patient with certain jobs. They maybe slower in payment but they are just your side gig. Some grow into a big business and you need to put in a little extra effort. Have a heart (passion) for what you are doing so that you will not be discouraged.
Passion is the one that fires up your engine, keeps you steady and going even when the light is not shining. Understand that all businesses have an up and down. Sometimes you get flowing clients other times not. That is the beauty of an extra income as a SAHM.
Try these above and see what works best for you. Always have an option C when your option B doesn’t work. Don’t give up. Keep your head high and keep striving. Join groups both online and offline and have a solid support team that will understand you, encourage and help you. It helps to have a good support team.
Be patient, be wise, be strong, be watchful. If something feels and looks too good to be true, it probably is. Look for other peoples reviews, the company contact details, years of operation and go to common sites to avoid scams. Do a good Google investigation for each company. Avoid going to secluded places.
If you must meet strangers please don’t go alone, always let someone (family member and close friends) know where you will be, turn on your location services for your close friends or family to know where you are, meet strangers in a busy and open areas like a police station or a shopping mall. The first place I mention is a police station, if the person runs away then you have been saved.
When you arrive at a meeting place check for exist strategies that you can easily duck and hide. If you feel unease about something, don’t do it. Trust your gut. Carry pepper spray if need be. Make a safe and secure check out process on your app.
Make sure to get a large deposit before you do any work for anyone. And please get the job done when you do. As much as you would hate being scammed, be trustworthy and reliable, don’t be a scammer.
Lastly but not the least, don’t forget to pray for your business / side hustle.
Final words: In conclusion: earn an extra income as a SAHM with these methods. Remember to be smart, stay safe and be wise. There are so many ways to earn extra income as a SAHM. You try alot of possibilities till you find what works best for you. Let me know in the comments what works for you as a SAHM.
Important routines for self-care as a mom. I received an overwhelming response from my post on self-care here: This inspired the following round up post on self-care routines for moms. Here are the very best tips for self-care routines for moms.
I have learned a lot from these mom bloggers and put self-care as my priority. Since I incorporated these routines, I feel uplifted and not lazy and slump. One mom commented that self-care for mom’s is like putting a gas mask on a plane, you are advised to put the gas mask on yourself first before you put it on your baby, if mom is not breathing, no one will. Enjoy reading:
39 Self Care Ideas for My 39th Birthday. Do you have a hard
time taking care of yourself? Is self care a totally foreign concept for you? I
know that I struggle with figuring out the best self care ideas to implement
that won’t cost too much money or time. To improve my year I decided to throw
myself a bit of a self care party! I’ve come up with a bunch of ideas for self
care and I’m excited to share them with you.
But I saw a post the other day on Facebook
which turned the traditional tongue-in-cheek saying, “Mama needs a drink” on
its head, and I wanted to address it. It leaned heavily on the extreme feminist
side as it talked about how mamas really need a pay check, paid healthcare,
childcare, etc., etc. It called for the general society to draw a line between
wants and needs. My response is basically this: much of what they term as
“wants” are generally seen as self-care, and self-care is needed.
8 Quick Self-Care Ideas You Can Do at Home. I have found so many amazing blogs
and websites with self-care ideas, but they tend to be kind of crazy like a Spa
Day. That requires a lot of planning in advance and sometimes I just need 3-5
minutes for me. Yes, I have hidden in the bathroom to take a couple of deep breaths
before, haven’t we all?!
It goes back to our daily routines and schedules. Work,
school, day-care, you name it. So what’s a girl to do? How does she take care
of herself? Well, these are some of the self-care techniques that I have
adopted since becoming a mom.
mama! I see you trying to be all things to all people. Trying to do everything
and beating yourself up when you fail. I see you neglecting yourself so you can
put everybody else first. I see you telling everybody, “No, really, I’m fine.”
I see you because I am you, I was you. But I have to tell you something. You can’t
keep going like this. You are only human, and you can only do so much until
your mind and body final say they’ve had enough. That nagging feeling, that
exhaustion, that irritation, that short temper? That’s mom burnout.
Life is busy, and my list could go on
and on of all the ways that I pour out into others. Most days I don’t even give
much thought to how what I am doing for others impacts me because I enjoy what
I do and it is fulfilling. That is until I find myself running on fumes.
Immediately, I start to notice that my conversation and tone are short, and my
patience is thin. All of this happens when I fail to take care of me in the
process of taking of everyone else. I needed to make taking care of me a
No matter what season of motherhood you’re currently in, we
can all agree that mom life is hard work. Its 2am feedings, and then another
one at 5am. It’s trying to keep your cool while your toddler has a complete
meltdown in the middle of the produce aisle. Motherhood is coming home after a
long day of work to cook and clean, when all you really want to do is curl up
on the couch with a big glass of wine. It’s juggling doctor appointments,
parent-teacher meetings, playdates, piano lessons, and soccer games. It’s
resisting the urge to slap someone when they question what you do all day as a
stay-at-home mom. We are so busy taking care of our families that we often
forget to take care of ourselves. I know I do.
You hear it all the time: being a mom is the most rewarding job there is. You are blessed with the ability to bear children who grow into wonderful creations of us that we love forever. And while that’s all true, no one seems to mention the exhaustion, the overwhelming moments, and the lack of self-care mothers endure daily. Too many times I’ve looked up to the sky and let out a huge sigh of frustration just to get through the rest of the night. I’m almost certain that I’m not alone. Being a mother is demanding, confusing, and stressful at times. It’s time we start carving out moments for ourselves (without feeling selfish about it) to take care of our mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing.
3 Ways to Overcome Home School Burnout. Home school
burnout is one of those subjects that no one wants to talk about. We avoid
talking about it out of embarrassment or shame. After all, a home school mom
chose to home educate her children, didn’t she? How could something that a mom
carefully discerned, thoughtfully researched and carefully planned cause
burnout? She is her own boss and she makes her own choices, doesn’t she? It is
not like being a doctor or lawyer or even a school teacher, or is it?
Some people – often people who just have too many words and
not enough things to use them on – will tell you that being a stay at home mom
is easy. But those of us that are, or have been, stay at home moms know that is
simply not the case. Sure, it’s a blessing that I don’t have to get myself and
a baby ready for work or day-care every day. And I can do laundry during the
day. And don’t get me wrong – at this stage in my life, I love being a stay at
home mom. It’s definitely the right choice for our family. BUT BEING AT HOME
WITH YOUR LITTLE ONES ALL DAY LONG IS NO JOKE.
WHAT SELF CARE REALLY LOOKS LIKE (HINT: IT’S NOT A VACATION
OR SPA!) Self-care is a popular buzzword in the mom community, and for good
reason! Being a mom is tough and exhausting, and you need to fill your cup in
order to be able to take care of your family. But self-care doesn’t have to be
big and elaborate; read on to see what self-care really looks like in your
“There’s too much time in the day,” said no one ever. There’s
so much to do with little time to get it done. There’s kids to watch, houses to
clean, when to figure out exercising, meal preparation, and work to be done! I
know you want to accomplish x,y, and z but instead you end up going to bed
wondering how you’ll get everything done with a jam-packed day filled to the
brim. Here’s how to make sure you get things done- without the mom guilt!
This episode of the Style Your Mind podcast called, Little
Luxuries got me thinking about ways I pamper myself. Some people think luxuries
have to be super expensive, but there are some things you can do to pamper
yourself that cost very little. For some people, luxuries may be days at the
spa, vacations or buying top of the line items. Those things may be great, but
not everyone can do that all the time. To me, luxuries are those things you do
for yourself that make you feel your best. They are the things that lift you
up. These things or rituals don’t even have to take up a lot of time.
Hey Guys, I hope you are well. This post is all about Self-Care. As women, we go through a lot. I mean – A LOT. Self-Care has become such an important topic and I want to share my point of view of the topic. As mothers, we make things look so easy, by almost ‘pretending’ to know exactly what we are doing when we really don’t have a clue. Think about it, we rush through in and out of the shower within 3 seconds, just in case, someone wants something. How mad is that? As well as loving others, it’s also important to love ourselves too.
Self-Care ideas don’t come easily and as first-time moms, we
all need it. No matter how strong or active you may be, it’s just hard to keep
up while you take care of your little one 24/7. Finding time for ourselves is
vital to living a happy and fulfilling life. For example, I love going for a
massage. But we also need a push for some motivation and find ways when to do
it. Motherhood is tough and the struggle is real.
Summer isn’t just for kids to relax and take a break from
the stresses of life. Moms need to take a breather and enjoy some slow moments
too. I know it can be hard when you’re managing a household and juggling little
ones who need to be fed and entertained. That’s why I’m sharing this self-care
summer bucket list for moms so you don’t pass the whole summer neglecting
yourself and end up a stressed out mess.
So what’s a broke time-constrained gal to do? It’s easy,
take 5 minutes EVERY DAY. I know what you’re thinking, “WHOA, EVERY DAY? Ain’t
nobody got time for that”. I get it. I work, I blog, I have a household and a
baby and dogs and husband andandand…” we all have our situations. But if we
build relaxing into our daily schedule, we don’t have to worry as much about
fitting in large-scale vacations, or over-indulging when opportunities to relax
actually come up. Being relaxed actually makes us calmer, more focused for the
necessities in our daily schedule and ready for the curve balls that life
throws at us. So here are 12 ways to build
relaxation into your daily schedule.
I soaked in the shower for a good fifteen minutes. Listening
to the sound of water hitting my back, and feeling a bit guilty. I felt a
little relief to have time to myself but couldn’t help but feel a little
ashamed. I stood there as the water continued to trickle, and tried to relax.
So, I’ve been thinking, what were some ways I coped with my busy, stressful week? Also, what were some strategies that I SHOULD have been using to reduce my stress, but didn’t? Since it’s now the weekend, and I’ve been able to take a deep, calming breath, I decided to make a list of 5 sure-fire ways to help you control stress.
Self-care is like the new it thing. Might as well be hot
yoga. Or spinning. It’s trendy. Like a top knot or skinny jeans or kale. We are
all so obsessed with making sure we are getting our self-care in that it is
just one more thing we moms are adding to our never ending to do lists. Well I
don’t know about you, but that seems like completely not the point. Here’s the
crux of the problem we are failing to define what things are actually self-care
and what things are simply treating ourselves.
Foot soaking should be an essential part of self-care!
Caring for our neglected feet cares for the rest of the body as well. One way I’ve recently started taking better care of my
feet, as well as my entire body, is through the practice of soaking them in
Epsom salt and essential oils. Not only does this show my feet some pampering
and love, but it is a relaxing, detoxifying evening ritual that decreases
stress and grounds my energy.
When you become a
mom your priorities change. Suddenly, you don’t go get your nails done like you
used to, or your hair. You don’t take long baths anymore because you’re
spending more of your time bathing kids. Whenever you get lost in the hustle
and bustle of motherhood, we tend to lose ourselves and forget that we had a
title before we were “Mom.” This is usually when depression kicks in. Some
mom’s feel selfish and bad about wanting to do things for themselves so that’s
why they never do. Or maybe it’s a financial thing. Or maybe it’s both. Here’s
the thing, in order to take care of your kids, you need to take care of you
Self-Care? hah! More like: Wash dishes. Fold the Laundry. Taxi the kids around. Solve sibling rivalry. Pick up toys. Rush to work. Rush home. Change hats. Wipe noses. Start dinner. Bath the kids. Find clean jammies. Wrestle them onto the kids. Get teeth brushed. Hair brushed. Kids into bed. Bedtime story. Snuggles. One more kiss. One more hug. No you can’t have water. No you can’t have a snack. Your knee will feel better when you fall asleep. Goodnight… I said GOODNIGHT.
The days are long, and they tell me the years are short.
Which of course I can already attest to. Even though mine are still so small, I
still look back and think the time has flown by. But still. Life is busy,
chaotic, and exhausting. Sound familiar? But alas… I must find a way. I need
exercise in my life. I need a gallon of water every day, 5 servings of fruits
and veggies, protein… yada yada.. I try. But exercise is one of those things
that every time I do it, I’m always glad I did. I mean seriously. Not once have
I ever regretted working out.
I always feel very busy. Honestly, I’m not that busy, but
when you are looking after a 16 month old all day, or work a 13 hour shift when
you’re not looking after your child, you just feel busy. I think what I really
mean is…my alone time has been far removed from my life. We have all talked
about not being able to pee alone, but that doesn’t even bother me. What I want
is good, quality alone time. Quiet room, TV off, no music playing, and no
interruptions. Alone time.
These self-care routines for moms are essential as well:
Today we are going to talk about how to engage in some
mental self-care. This post will be a shorter one, but don’t let the length be
an indicator of its importance! I see a lot of information about self-care strategies
come across my desk as a psychologist turned health coach/fitness instructor.
Many of them are physical – meaning they are generally focused on one of our
five senses. Some examples include listening to music, taking a bath,
lighting0020your favourite candle, painting your nails, etc. I think they are
all absolutely incredible acts of self-love. However, what I want to talk about
today is mental self-care.
Self-care tips: mind, body and soul. Hey ladies! Self-care includes taking care of your mind, body and soul. Last week I did something for my body by having my annual physical exam. This is the first time that I’ve been to the doctor in YEARS! Shame on me but I’m just glad that I finally made the appointment and went. I will be 40 years old next year and I want to make sure that I’m taking the necessary steps to be healthy. Part of being healthy is one’s ability to practice and sustain self-care. So I would like to propose five self-care practices that are budget friendly and can be implemented today.
Have you ever been standing strong for so long that you slowly forgot
how to breathe? Forgot who you were, what you liked,
what you needed? Gave yourself up until you were lost? And then one day, you
woke up gasping for air, wondering where you’d been for all these years? Do you
now look over your shoulder because you don’t recognize the person staring back
at you in the mirror? And then you stop looking altogether, because it’s too
hard to take in, to digest and to face?
13 Self-Care Tips for Busy Moms. Being a mom is exhausting.
But, being a mom is also a lot of fun and the best thing ever. As moms, we tend
to overlook ourselves. We’re so busy making sure the little’s are taken care
of, working and maintaining a home. I’ve put together a compilation of 13
self-care tips for busy moms. Self-care is so important and it took me a long
time to realize it. Once I did, I became a better mother, a better wife and a
better person to myself. I hope you find these tips helpful.
forget to implement these self-care routines for moms
How are you supposed practice self-care when you’re a
breastfeeding mom? It might seem impossible at times. Whether you are
breastfeeding, combo feeding, or exclusively pumping, it is a serious time
commitment. It can be a very draining part of motherhood, no pun intended!
Often mothers will let their meal get cold or not shower to be on top of feeds.
In this ever-evolving era, we need to customize ourselves
accordingly to live a better life. And in the search of this perfection and
flawlessness, we tend to tax and strain ourselves. Which definitely poses
harmful effect on our physical and mental health. This unfavourable situation
can be prevented with good self-care.
What is Self-Care? In short, self-care consists of taking
time for yourself to recharge and take a break from the pressures of life. It
may seem selfish to want to make ‘me time’ a priority but as my professor
explained to us it will enable you to be a better person for yourself and to
those around you.
The Self Care Checklist to be Healthy, Happy, &
Impactful. I know myself. I will not slow down unless I have a plan. So, in an
effort to put myself first, I created a self-care checklist to be healthy,
happy, and impactful. This list is tailored to a mom of small children, but I
believe that it can be tweaked for anyone at any stage of life.
Last year on Instagram a common theme was self-care and much
of my Instagram feed–and I’m sure yours–was filled with picturesque bubble
baths and face masks in every colour of the rainbow. While I am 100% on board
with these simple acts of self-care—you don’t have to ask me twice to enjoy a
glass of bubbly in a bath of bubbly—I wanted to shift my focus this year to
focus on self-care on a deeper level. As mothers, especially in early
motherhood, we tend to push all of our ailments and personal struggles to the
side and instead focus all of our energy on our babies and our families.
Cut yourself some slack with these tips on self-compassion
Refill your tank: 3 ways cultivate self-compassion on hard
days. You’re always messing things up.
You’ll never get things right.
You never seem to say the right thing.
You are ugly. You don’t belong to
be here. Most of us would never say these phrases to someone, but how often
have these ugly words replayed in your mind or even come out your mouth about
yourself? Sadly, I will admit I have been there.
Build Your Own Self-Care Kit for Unapologetic Me Time. If
you haven’t already built a self-care kit for yourself, it’s time. Your
self-care kit should be built around you and your needs, likes, and happiness.
You can use your kit daily, a few times a week, but gosh darn it make sure you
use it! You needn’t apologize for taking time to care for yourself. This is the
time to let loose, be free, and clear your head. You deserve it.
How to Make Time for Self-Care for Busy Moms. Self-care is
so important for moms to feel happy and refreshed. Here are tips on how to find
time in your busy day for yourself so you can be a better mother.
And because having a self-care routine is so much important
for us moms, let’s spend some “me time” on our skin. No matter what skin
quality you have, there are ways how to improve your skin health naturally, at
home, and without any harsh cosmetic procedures. Just a few small changes can
have a huge impact on the quality of your skin.
At 36, with a 6 year-old, a three-year old, and classrooms full of teenagers, I have forgotten that every day is a new occasion to look my best. Some days, I look at the beauty of the 20 year-olds and have to shake away twinges of envy. As I literally mop up the spilled milk, I cannot help think to myself, “Am I even worth the fuss? Who exactly am I here to impress?” And I answer with a resounding, “YES! YES! You are ABSOLUTELY worth the fuss!! You are here to impress YOURSELF! You need a self-care routine! Doll yourself up MAMA!!”
IS YOUR TANK RUNNING ON E? News flash ladies (and
gents if you’re reading), balance does not mean balancing “doing it all”. No
one can do it all without eventually suffering burnout which could be what
someone reading this is feeling right now. Having a balanced life means making
time for the things you HAVE TO do as well as the things you LIKE TO do. With
kids this can seem impossible but, with a little bit of groundwork, moms can
get it done.
Self-reflection is a great way to look at the big
picture not just what’s going on in the day-to-day. It can help you open your
mind and bring attention to areas in your life that you don’t always focus on.
Self-reflection gives you a chance to evaluate where you started to where you
are now. It can also help you determine what is important to you and what may
no longer be important in your life.
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Introducing this Mom platform!! (insert drum roll) As a first time mom and as a sahm, I always look for the best products for my son. Since pregnancy, I always google information and ask other moms. I joined many Facebook mom groups looking for advice and a way to connect with other moms. Finally I came across MomSays.
It is South African owned and based mom platform.
It is a platform that showcases tried and tested South African products from real moms. Good way to go local. I signed up for this wonderful review center and I am not disappointed. It is free. All you have to do is review and read other mom reviews. Its like my own personal mom based google.
launches innovative new data platform in SA
MomSays has launched their new website, and it’s the platform that moms and
brands across the country have been waiting for.
MomSays is a unique resource for moms
who are looking for unbiased, trusted advice from other moms regarding the best
product solutions for their families. And before you brush this aside as ‘just
mommy talk’, consider this:
60% of the 18 million female consumers in SA are the primary buyers in their households.
65% of moms trust what other moms buy in the retail market.
83% of new moms are millennial’s of which 46% trust the recommendation of other parents above any other channels.
According to global trends and research company Nielsen,
“ first-time moms tend to be unsure about the delivery and reliability of products. They rely on trusted advisors for product recommendations and become averse to trying new products, unless otherwise advised. Brands therefore have a short window of time to capture and retain their trust and loyalty”.
With this clear need for reliable information in the market, MomSays has created a data analytics platform
that helps brands engage with new moms by utilising the collective knowledge of
1000’s of experienced moms in South Africa. MomSays creates opportunities for
companies to effectively engage with this influential demographic in a way that
Depending on the product or brand, MomSays makes use of its extensive network of influential moms to facilitate product testing, brand events, exposure, panel discussions and social media activation’s. (Amazing idea, ain’t it?)
MomSays gets this influential network to interact with – and talk about
–brands and products across various platforms.
According to Sureshnie Rider’s, local radio presenter and MC,
“As a Mum, I wish I had a portal like MomSays when I started out my Motherhood journey! This is a tribe of women who help you navigate the tricky roads you might find yourself on when you’re trying to get the right products and items for your little one. This site will save you time which becomes super limited as a new parent and it will help you save because parenthood is expensive! Congrats guys! I’m in love with your tribe!”.
About MomSays and Mompreneurs
In addition to product information, MomSays also provides a platform for
Mompreneurs to connect, collaborate and network with each other.
Mom tribes are quickly becoming the most powerful form of personalised
marketing in the industry because it is authentic. The fast-growing MomSays
‘tribe’ is a network of mompreneurs who support and collaborate to create an
industry of strong, successful moms who all have significant influence in their
What makes this such a fascinating enterprise is the variety of businesses that
are being created by mompreneurs. These range from product blogs to coding and
start-ups in the financial sector.
With a platform giving them a voice and connecting them with relevant
brands, the MomSays tribe is set bolster the buying power of moms in SA and
revolutionise the way brands approach them.
Shanèy Vijendranath is a wife, mom of three and an innovative businesswoman. She is the co-founder of the award-winning parenting blog – You, Baby and I – and is the Chapter Lead for SoGal Johannesburg.
We gotta stick together as moms. This is a wonderful mom platform. See you there. Visit www.momsays.co.za