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The best Marriage Advice: First year of marriage.

This is my and my husbands’ first year of marriage. We turned a year on the 14th of April. Ending up of #anniversarymonth. I would love to share some advice on things I have learned. It takes effort, love, patience and forgiveness to build a marriage. I am grateful that God kept us through.

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Long post ahead but worth the read. A marriage is like a farm. It needs constant care. You must water, dig, plant and weed it before the harvest. It has good harvests and bad harvests, but you must keep cultivating it. Below is the best marriage advice i would give to you.

Love: Love is the key ingredient that keeps you going in a marriage. Love especially in times when things are not going well and when you are angry with your sweetheart and you feel like lashing out by not showing love. Showing love in these circumstances helps build a marriage. It takes practice and patience to show love to one another.

The same way you would feed your body and nourish it is the same way you show feed and nourish your partners body. When you get married you become one. That is why you use the same surname and live in the same house. When life throws all sort of twists, turns and straight roads at you. Love sees you through and holds you close.

“If you love someone, you want the best for them as you want the best for yourself.”

1 Corinthians 13:4-8: Love is patient, kind, doesn’t boast, is not proud, is not self-seeking, doesn’t dishonor others, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs, doesn’t delight in evil rejoices in the truth, always protects, trusts, hopes, perseveres, Love never fails.

1 Corinthians 13:13: ‘Now these three remain, faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.’

Mark 12:31:’…. Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.

Care: Caring for someone means that you are looking after their wellbeing and safety. This means to feed them by cooking or ordering takeaways, to clean after them but this doesn’t mean that the other person should take advantage of this. If you are a stay at home mom, this means you do a lot of the cleaning because you are in the house more often and you have a little of spare time.

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But your partner should also be able to step in and help when they are done with work and over the weekends. This also means giving your baby a massage when s/he is stressed out and tense. Not for them but for you. They will be a much nicer person when relaxed. My husband and I take turns massaging one another. The same way you want to be taken care of is the way you should take care of your partner.  

“Be the change you want to see in your marriage.”

Finance: This one is tricky, and it depends on what you have decided as a couple on finances. Whether this means you have one joint account or three separate accounts that is up to you. But you must be able to discuss things fairly and equally. Many people divorce based on finance issues. You should be able to save and share finances equally.

Even though one is working and the other is a SAHM. You work equally. You as a sahm are working to keep your children and household, while your partner is working out there. There should be no his and her money. Its your money together as a married couple. Look at paying for priorities (rent, baby necessities, groceries, loans, school fees, all fees, accounts) first. Then work down your way to that extra money that you then divide equally to spend as you both wishes.

Remember that verse I mentioned earlier where the two shall become one. Your finance should become one as well. Sit down with your partner from the beginning and talk through finances, what you both expect, how you will divide, budgets and all. When you do, you should both stick to this. As time goes by, things change and finance changes too, sit down and calming talk things through. I also learnt that if you are getting for one person, get for the other as well. It is not about you alone. Relying on one income also means that you will be forced to cut down on lots of luxuries.

“Save and share your finances equally.”  

Acceptance and tolerance: Acceptance means to accept the person as they are and not try to change them. There is a common saying where I am from, “You can’t force a cow to drink water.” You can’t change a person. Period. No matter how much you can try. Change comes from within. Only if a person wants to change, there is potential to change. I must also say its hard to stop bad habits. It takes commitment and the will to change. That said if there are small things that your partner does that you are not in agreement with, let your partner know about it.

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If your partner is willing to change encourage them to. Don’t push them to. If your partner loves you, they will try and change. You should be able to acknowledge these small changes as well. We usually expect big sudden abrupt changes which never happens. If your partner has a hard time changing be tolerant with them. Time, patience and prayer will see you through. You may as well try and work your way through influencing them to change. Not hard knocking and beating them down. The best you can do is pray for your partner to change.

Communication is a two-way street:

You are two different people and somethings you say, do and react come out in a wrong way to your partner. You have different understanding skills and evaluation skills. When you communicate in a calm way it helps to clear out many unnecessary arguments. It is also good to listen. When you have two people barking down and wanting to be heard, it fuels the argument.

It is good to be quiet and listen to your partner. What is on their heart. When they speak, think about what they said. If it means taking a time out, do that. When you take the time to think things through your mind clears and you are more open to look at the other persons’ needs. Afterwards you may calmly sit your partner down and talk things through. It is hard to see another point of view when both of you are angry.

Proverbs 15:1: ‘A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.’

Romance: Romance is not in the big gestures Hollywood movies have lied to us. Romance in a marriage is in the small things, a kiss goodbye, a romantic meal, dates nights. You should make constant effort to romance your partner. Wear something sexy for them. Call just to say I love you. Call them sweet names. Talk and listen to them. Be a shoulder they can lean on. Touch them. Touch is very important. Learn your lovers love language and romance them in that way. My husband loves to touch.

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I love it when he gets me small gifts like roses, socks and chocolates. Make it alive in bed as well. If you do these small gestures fuel your needs in bed. Respect them as well. Do the small things your sugar pie loves. If you can do those big romantic Hollywood gestures. Shout on the mountain top that you love them. Engrave your names in wood. Write I love you in the snow, take a picture and send it to them. Everyday has something romantic to show your lover.

“It’s the small things that count.”

Openness: Openness paves way for you to communicate with your loved one. Be free and open with them. Don’t keep secrets from them. Be authentic. Secrets are like a terminate hole. They eat you rotten inside and blow over massively. Don’t entertain other people in your marriage.

It’s between you and your partner. Be open to speak out your needs. If you like it this way let them know. If you keep silent it boils inside, you and they won’t be able to meet your needs. Don’t go on social media asking for help when it would be easier to speak to your loved one. Are there things that you are hiding from your partner? If there are, go tell them.

Cleanliness: Be clean. Be clean in your heart, mind and body. If you are clean inside, you will be clean outside. Take a bath every day. Spray some perfume and roll on, brush your teeth and hair, put on that beautiful dress that lays in your drawer. Make extra effort to look good for your husband.

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He will want you more when you do. Yes, even as a SAHM, you must look and smell good. Your home must be clean as well. Make your house smell welcoming for your husband when he gets home. He had a long day, he missed you and your home. Use these tips to make your house smell nice: https://mrschettylifestyle.co.za/fresh-smelling-house/

Trust: Do you trust your partner? If something were to happen to you today. Would you trust them to take care of you even when you are unable to? Trust is a big component in your marriage. Your lover must learn to depend on you and trust you. Trust their decision making as well.

The husband is the head of the house. You can advise him, but he makes the ultimate decision. As long as, you are not in harms way. Trust him. If he falls, he will come back to apologize, and he will learn to trust you as well. Then you can tell him I told you so. Lol. That gives you an upper hand for next time. ?

Us, me-time and family time: It’s good to make purposeful time for you and your husband. And for family time as well. Spending time with him helps you see why you fell in love with him in the first place. Allow for time as a family as well. Do the things you love together.

Cook, dance, listen to music, go on a picnic, date night and go to the gym together. Date each other from time to time. It’s good to take a break and have me-time. It gives you time to replenish yourself so that you can better replenish others.

The best Marriage Advice: First year of marriage.

Unity: You are one. Unite as a couple in decision making. Unite in what you say about him to other people. Whatever you do, do as one. If Your loved one would do the same thing you are doing, or say the same thing how would you feel? Unite in your finances too. Have the same friends too. Go out together. Don’t go out alone, it calls for temptation. Make good couple friends who encourage you wisely. Sometimes having many single friends makes you act like them. And they advise you in the singleness they know. Find a church you will both go to and like. Be loyal to your partner. Have one sexual partner.

“Birds of the same feather flock together.”  

Priorities: This is a hard pill to swallow. Your priorities changed the moment you got married. Your priority must be your family. Family in the sense of your husband. Your husband comes first before anything else. Priorities must also be set in your finances. Many people will argue with me but also when it comes to your kids, your husband comes first.

Parenting: Your children learn from you. However way you treat your husband they will treat him and you as well. You are setting a background for them when they get married. It was your husband and you before the children. Your children will grow up, start their own families and leave you and your husband. Children learn more by seeing than hearing. Respect your partner.

“Set a good example for your children in your marriage.”

Humility: Be humble enough to say sorry when you are wrong. Also be humble enough to admit when you are wrong. Do small things for your partner and he will do it as well. Be willing to make up when you make a mistake and move forward from it. Pick up the lessons learnt and move on.

Contentment: Be happy and content with what you have. Be content in your marriage. I keep a gratitude app for when I am not seeing the blessings I have. You are blessed. If you are content with what you have you will leave a happier life. Instagram and Facebook have ways of making you feel like what you have is not enough. Those are just pictures.

You have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. Be your own #couplegoals. You have someone who loves you and you love them. That is what matters. Do not compare yourself with others. You are special and unique just the way you are.

Prayer: Its important to pray for your marriage. There are lots of attacks against marriages these days. Pray for you, your husband and your family.

Marriage as a body. Read here for more on how a marriage works as a body:  https://mrschettylifestyle.co.za/marriage-as-a-body/

In conclusion: The best marriage advice I would give you is a marriage is not sugar and candy, it takes love, hard-work, input, patience, endurance and all these things stated above for it to work. Both of you must work hard daily to make a marriage work.

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Marriage as a body.

How a marriage works as a body.

A marriage is considered as a body of Christ which is the church. Here are scriptures on how a marriage works as a body.

1 Corinth 12:

“21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.

27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.”

The husband is the head

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The husbands duties include him being the provider or the breadwinner. He is the main source. He leads and directs his family. He shows his family unconditional love. And he sacrifices much for his family. He works hard to bring food for his family. The husband praises the wife. The husband must have full confidence in his wife.

1 Timothy 5:8
“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”

Ephesians 5:25-33

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church.”

Genesis 2:24

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

1 Corinthians 11:3
“But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife[a] is her husband,[b] and the head of Christ is God.”

Corinthians 13:4-5:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

Genesis 3:17

“He said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life.”

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“The role we have as wives is that of encouraging and helping our husbands. When we try to make it any more, or any less, that’s when we run into trouble. My mom used to teach a young married couples class, and I will never forget her most ‘valuable nugget’ of truth. She always told them that the husband is the head of the home, and the wife is the neck. The neck supports the head, and helps the head to fulfill its duties.”

The wife is the neck:

From the beginning and in many instances in the Bible women are a big influence in a man’s life. Adam listened to eve. Samson gave up his secret to Delilah. A head does not work on it own. It is controlled by the neck. The neck gives guidance, influence and control to the head. The head is useless without the neck.

The wife is wise and gives instruction. Because of her, her husband is respected. She is hard-working and thinks out of the box. She is blessed. She takes care of the house, runs her own business, and takes care of her husband and children. She is giving. A wife has the power to make her husband’s prayers to go unanswered.

Colossians 3:18-19
“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.”

Peter 3:7

“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”

Proverbs 31:

“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate” (Proverbs 31:10-31).

The heart is children:

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Children are precious, protected and loved. Just like the heart. It is the most fragile but yet most important part of the body. It is small but constantly beating. Parents go out of their way to protect, feed and love their children.

Psalm 8:2

“Through the praise of children and infants, you have established a stronghold against your enemies, to silence the foe and avenger.”

Hands and feet are extended family:

Hands and feet are merely advisors like extended family. But they can only advice so much, the head and neck make final decisions. They should not be given power over the neck and head. They are helping hands. And only turn in the direction the head and neck point. They must go in union with the head and neck.

Ephesians 4:2-3

“With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”

Colossians 3:14

“And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”

Ephesians 5:21

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

In conclusion, above all else, the greatest of these is love. Unconditional Love covers all wrong and is the glue that sees you through.

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25 reasons I love you

25 reasons I love you


I’m turning 25 on the 16th of February and it’s valentines day on the 14th of February. Here is a love letter to my husband. 25 reasons I love you.

1. I love your smile. It’s what drew me to you the first time we met. Smiling stranger!

2. I love your eyes. My husband has deep dark sexy eyes.

3. I love cuddling with you. You are my cuddle bear.

4. I love your fatherly caring heart. You love our children there’s no doubt about it. You are not afraid to show them that you love them.


5. You love me.

6. You are passionate.

7. You are hardworking. When you set your mind on something you do it.

8. You are smart and highly intelligent. You think on your toes and have a high IQ. Our son advanced too. You did mechanical engineering.

9. You are forgiving. You forgive and move forward.

10. You have a soft heart. Sniff, sniff. You care about causes, friends and family. You go out of your way for them.

11. You are unique and special.

12. Your taste in music is similar to mine. You love music like me. Plus you make amazing beats.

13. You are real, honest and straightforward. You say what you feel and you do what you feel. I can’t second guess that you love me because you show me everyday besides saying it.

Actions speak louder than words.


14. You provide for your family. You always make a way to make sure your family is safe, fed and happy.

15. You are multi-talented. You are handy and multi-skilled. You learn by watching and get it done.

16. Your laughter is sweet and contagious.

17. You are not afraid to show emotion.

18. You fight for what is right. Even if it means going against the tide.

19. You put me and your son first.

20. You are an understanding person.

21. Your old-fashioned type of love. It’s steady and solid. Nowadays it’s difficult to find genuine love, I find that in you.

22. You give everyone a fair chance.

23. I feel safe and secure with you.

24. Even through hard times, you find reasons to smile, make jokes and make me feel much better.

25. You are welcoming and friendly. You meet a stranger today and they always walk away laughing. Because you have a good heart.

Most of all, I love you, Lawrence Chetty.

Happy valentines day.

Forever and always. 

Natasha 


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7 Things I learned from my marriage.

7 Things I learned from my

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Communication is key:

You are two different people and sometimes things you say or do or react come out in a wrong sense to your partner. If you communicate clearly and help your partner understand your point of view it helps clear out many unnecessary arguments. My husband and I constantly call and text during the day even if it is just to say hi. This helps fuel our passion and love for each other.

It’s in the small things:

Being a SAHM, some days are rough. One day my son was going through a growth spurt and I was physically exhausted till he finally went to bed late in the evening. My husband works long hours. He knew we both had a rough day. He came home that evening with flowers and cupcakes for me. I smiled instantly. That little gesture meant a lot for me. It was a pat on the back. An assurance that I did good. And that he appreciates me.

You learn your partners likes and dislikes the hard way:

In marriage and every relationship, There are two forms of communication that is verbal and non verbal. My husband sometimes says things in passing that I would think he is joking but turns out he is actually serious. You learn by observation and listening not just hearing. My husband doesn’t like spaghetti. He says they look like worms ?. I love spaghetti. So once in a while I cook it. Since my husband is Indian he absolutely loves chilly . So I found out a way to add chilly when cooking the spaghetti and it turns out he likes it well at least he finishes his bowl of food.

Sacrifice, compromise and putting your partners needs before yours (selflessness) :

This doesn’t mean that you let your partner walk over you. If you consider his needs first and he considers your needs first both needs will be met at the end of the day. When it comes to bread, I love a specific type, my husband likes another. So when we go shopping we mix it up by taking turns buying the bread one likes. With a baby it’s hard to go out to eat. He is too small to sit on his own. So my husband usually let’s me eat first while he holds the baby and I hold the baby when I’m done.
Don’t quit the romance:

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In marriage, we usually forget the romance part. I stay home every day and sometimes would stay in pyjamas. My husband would come home and find me in them. This is a major put off. Even though I don’t go out much. I take a bath, dress up, comb my hair for my husband like I did when we were dating. I still must look good for him. Display your affection, Hold hands, kiss, hug, remember when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other? Don’t stop. I talked about non verbal communication, this is very important.

Have date nights:

Last week I learned something unique. I quickly called my husband and told him we will go for date night today. We have date nights on Fridays. We had R100 each to buy something for each other. It was fun looking around for something cheap but considerate to get him. We had to think about what we would both like, wrap it up and give each other at home. My husband was impressed with this and said it was fun. Spice up your date nights.

Most importantly Spoil your partner:

One evening my husband had come home completely drained. He is a hard worker. And each movement made his body squeak. I run a hot bath for him, threw in my bath booms and some essential oils. I took him to the bath and made him soak for a while. I could literally see his body relax. He was much happier and stronger afterwards. It’s now a note for him to soak in my bath booms when he is tired. Every weekend I make us an all out lovely breakfast. Bacon, toast, eggs, sausages, muffins, polony, hot chocolate for me and coffee for him. Sometimes he makes it. Instead of us spending bucks at a fancy restaurant for the same food. Hey whatever your partner likes make it a point to do.

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How I met my husband.

How I met my husband How I met my husband.

I met my husband grocery shopping.

This random morning, I woke up with a strong urge to go grocery shopping. This is unusual for me as I stay with my divorced father and we go shopping together.

Unfortunately he was working that day and I was home. So I got ready and dressed in these warm grey track pants and a black crop top with black pumps on my feet. 

I went to the China mall which is connected to a grocery shopping mall.

As I walked in, I could feel someone staring me down. I turned my head to the side and there was this Indian man staring at me. 

Now I am not a people person and I do not take kindly to people staring at me. But the way he smiled was intriguing. I quickly looked away. But my head unwillingly turned in his direction again.

This smiling stranger was unperturbed with my demeanour. I looked away and smiled to myself briskly walking into the China Mall and turned to lose him.

After a short while I walked into the local supermarket and sat down next to the doorway. Smiling stranger came by and spoke to the security. He did not see me sitting there. He walked past me into the supermarket.

When I saw him leave, impressed with myself, I pulled a trolley and began my shopping spree from the end of aisle one all through to aisle four. Suddenly smiling stranger found me and stood right in front of my trolley. Stopping it with his foot on the wheel.

‘DO I KNOW YOU?’ I asked with a frown on my face.

He said no and went on to introduce himself. He asked ever so sweetly if he could help me with my grocery shopping. Racking my head I agreed without first weighing my options:

a) I’m short, the aisles are really long and tall

b) I have no transport to get home

c) Some groceries are heavy

I enjoyed smiling strangers company.

He made me laugh and found it amusing that I had to follow my grocery tick list in this day and age. It felt as though I had known smiling stranger for a long time coming from this type of person who is quiet and awkward when I first meet you or I’m not comfortable with you.

We walked into the next shop to buy meat stuff. As we walked out he saw flowers and chocolate and asked me to choose some. I am a huge sucker for romance and in all my years no one ever got me flowers.

That was my secret wish. So that was a bonus for me. He was a gentleman and opened the door for me. I must say his car (bakkie) was dirty. 

He took me straight home. In the car he grew quiet and said he had a feeling he was not going to see me again. I shrugged my shoulders and said we will see.

He dropped me off at home without first carrying all my groceries to my front door. He gave me a hug goodbye and the rest is well the rest.

That is the story of how I met my husband. 

Marriage Proposal

 
Released2007
GenreDance/Electronic
 

‘I still hear your voice when you sleep next to me
I still feel your touch in my dreams
Forgive me my weakness, but I don’t know why
Without you it’s hard to survive

 
‘Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling
And every time we kiss I swear I could fly
Can’t you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last
Need you by my side’

 

This is the story of how my husband proposed. 

My then boyfriend had travelled to Capetown. As I am an introvert, he persuaded me to go out with a few friends of mine for a ladies night. Earlier that week, he sent me this song by Cascada to listen to. So I rounded up a few girlfriends of mine and we decided to go to North gate Shopping Centre.

Whilst there we sat down to eat something at Wimpy. Two of my friends kept getting up and disappearing for long stretches at a time. I reached a point where I was frustrated and called my then boyfriend saying i was going to leave now because of these friends of mine. My then boyfriend talked me into staying. 

After a while, all my friends wanted to go ice-skating. I had never been ice-skating and I heard from my sister that it was hard. She actually fell on her bum and it hurt for weeks. I was very reluctant to go ice-skating. But everyone had decided so I was forced to tag along. 

I was right. I am not a sporty person. Ice-skating is so hard. I held onto the dear railing the whole time I was there. Good music was playing in the background though. And we had a few good laughs.

We went around the ice-rank and the second time around this song began to play. The next few tracks where literally songs from my playlist on my phone.

At one end of the ring, one of my friends asked me to look sideways. My name was printed along with Will you marry me. 

 

I shouted well that’s my name.

My friend said that I am not the only Natasha. Then I shouted even louder that it has my surname too. Suddenly there was my then boyfriend. I was suspicious.

He was so nervous. I gave him a hug. I thought he was in Capetown. He went down on one knee and popped the question. I said yes and we hugged. I was in tears. Everyone around me was congratulating me. 

Afterwards we all went to Spur and had a lovely meal in celebration. My then boyfriend had come home earlier and gone straight to the ice rank. He organised the whole thing. And mentioned all the people who were ice-skating where employees.

My husband is very romantic. I finally had my dream proposal. He proposed with a black diamond ring. I love black and he saw so many pictures of black diamonds on my phone. 

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An important letter to someone special.

An important letter An important letter to someone special.

Love

Dear Lawrence

I write this letter to you to remind you of my love for you.

In your arms, I am safe and loved

There is no question about it

My heart beats in love with you

You make me smile

You are my sunshine

You support and encourage, uplift, comfort and cheer me

You cheer me on and hold my hand

You build me and give me a nudge when I am unsure of myself

You prepare for our future by setting things in place to build for tomorrow

You co-parent our son

You work hard for our family, this I am proud of

You flood me with your love

Making sure that I know and am certain of your love for me everyday

I am extremely grateful for you

I am grateful for your heart

Your heart that pours out unselfishly, giving, adorably, caring

When you smile my world is a-ok

I love how you are unique

How passionate you are

How certain you are of yourself no matter where we go

How you stand out and shine in a crowded place

How real you are, no matter who you are with you are Lawrence

I love your dimples

Your cute laughter

I love that you think quickly and have solutions when all hope is lost

I love that you never give up

You keep hoping, striving, fighting for what is right and worth it

I love that you are multi talented

I am grateful for your fatherly heart

And that you put your family first

I love that you have set priorities

I am grateful for every minute you set aside for us your family

It’s in the small things that you think I don’t notice
Like how you speak so proudly of me and your son to every person you meet

I love that you are a people person

I love your randomness that makes me burst into laughter

For the flowers and random gifts you love to get me

How you compliment me everyday

You tell me I am beautiful even when I know I don’t look so presentable

How you come home with a beautiful smile and a cheery heart

Cant wait to see me and your son

How you know just what to do when I had a gloomy day to make me feel better

You make sure we do not luck in anything or any way

You fulfill all your husband duties

You have shaken my whole world

Turned it upside down. An important letter. 

You have shown me the deepest real love

My heart blooms and blossoms when you near

Love for you takes over my whole being

Most of all I am happy, grateful to be your wife

May God continue to use and bless you

This song sums it up

Liam Payne n Rita Ora “For you”

Been waiting for a lifetime for you

Been breaking for a lifetime for you

Wasn’t looking for love ’til I found you

For love, ’til I found you

I love you

Now and Forever

Your Mrs Chetty. An important letter to someone special. 

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Home wreckers

Home wreckers.

This one goes out to the home wreckers. Yes, the ladies who feel entitled to another woman’s man. The hip flaunting, smile daunting, hair tossing flirt. High class but not high enough to find your own. Yet alone keep your own. Feel you are better than his own. Like the world should be under your feet. He must be yours no matter the cost. You want to break up a home to make it your house? You even have the audacity to flirt right in front of his own.

Home wrecker, he is a married man. The ring on his finger is not a decoration. The smile on his face, the strive in his step, the smell of rich perfume, his odor of love and taken care of. That is not an invitation for you. You want that, don’t you? You see how he gets gifts for his own and you are envious. Here’s a newsflash, home wrecker:

What’s not yours will never be yours.

He is with his own for a reason and he married her for a reason. Her heart is his. His heart is hers. Your flashy eyes, fake flirtatious smile, hair tossing moves will only attract users. Users who can smell your desperation a mile away and will use it for their own advantage.

Home wrecker, you think you are smarter than her, prettier than her, hotter than her, at the end of the day he goes home to her bed. That home maker you put down has what you don’t have and you will never have as long as you are home wrecker.

True Happiness.

happiness

What has she got that you don’t, you ask? Well a heart for one. She thinks she is better than you. Yes she is. Because she has something you don’t. And you want to destroy it because of this. It gives you less value and you will be disrespected. All you are is a home wrecker and that will never bring you peace or the happiness you so desperately seek.

A man can never be stolen unless he was never there, unless he wants to be stolen. That says much of a married man who has no audacity. That you want for you. What makes you sure he will be there for you too?

What goes around comes around.

what goes around

And yes, you are only there for the moment. For a good time. Till the next home wrecker comes along then he up and leaves you too.

Karma sticks twice.

Home is where the heart is. Home wrecker, his heart is home where her heart is. If you used to date him, you broke up. If you were meant for him he would not have married someone else. Just because you are not happy and have not moved on, doesn’t mean he isn’t. Learn your boundaries. Grow up! Leave the man in peace, he is not coming back to you.

Don’t stir the pot while it’s still hotly boiling, you will end up scared for life.

Don’t underestimate the power his own has. Note: home wrecker that I have used ‘his own’ in my article to point it out to you that she is his and his hers. I am not shooting bullets at you, I am stating facts and until you open your eyes will you be happy.

home wreckers

Reckless home wrecker, your deeds are openly seen and known. Don’t think you are too clever or playing your cards right. Everyone can smell that burning smell of that cheap perfume you spray called home wrecker. Believe me, the prayers hit right at you will soak you to the ground. You won’t come in between a bond. A ring is a circle, it has no ending. The curses you receive bury you in debt. The curse and debt of a broken heart in a broken home.

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