“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.”
I don’t know about you but for us 2019 is rough. We are going through our season. Our little one is going through leap 7 and teething. Some days he just wants to be held or close to me all day. He is getting heavier. My immune system is down. I’m fighting headaches, aches and pains. My husband is in fulltime stressing mode. Sometimes it gets overwhelming and we tend to point fingers. My husband points finger’s more at himself.
all, God is keeping us and providing just enough for the day. We have no idea
what tomorrow brings. We are learning to trust in Him and lean on Him. We put
our hope in Him. We make plans but they fall through. Our plans are not God’s
plans. He knows just what we need and how much we need.
I am here today, to let you know this.
We are in
the season of breaking down and losing. When what you need is a throw stone
away but for some reason you are not catching.
A season of
testing and grooming. I received a word at the beginning f the year that God is
doing something new. For something new to happen whatever old things that were
there must be cast away. Whether this means in finances, losing your job, car,
a loved one or a home, the old thing must be taken away.
You are not
alone. In the book of Job, (Job1:12) permission had to be requested from God.
Isaiah 14:27, Isaiah 43:2, Psalm 23,1 Peter 4:12-13, Job 23:10, John 16:33,
Why do we go through seasons?
season, we tend to question: Why me? What did I do? But this is usually not
your fault. Sometimes when God wants to move in our lives, He causes us to be
restless in our current. This causes a major twist or turn. If you look at Job
in the Bible, it’s nothing he did. It was merely a test. A sharpening of the
stone. The process of refining gold isn’t an easy one, you must go through the
fire to learn the skills of the new season.
When you can’t
handle it anymore, that’s when you should hold on tighter, because your
breakthrough is here. God gives us the strength and the tools to make it. “1
Corinthians 10:13…. He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
How does God provide through seasons? You may ask.
through that one friend who drops by unexpectedly with groceries. It may be an
old lost company who suddenly calls you with a job offer. It may be through a
prayer, a word of advice, a new cheaper and bigger house offer.
provides for future when we go through our season of plenty. We see this
through Joseph in Egypt: Genesis 41:30. We should save away for a rainy day. We
forget ourselves during times of plenty and overspend instead of saving. Now
that one is on us.
God wants to teach us to not rely on bread but rely on Him: Matthew 4:4,
Proverbs 3:5. We tend to place our trust in what we can see. God teaches us to
trust only Him. Our strength fails us, people fail us, work fails us, But God.
teaches us saving tactics the hard way. If you like to overspend like I do, a
season like this teaches me to save and that I can do without all the clutter
that I thought I needed.
What to do during these seasons.
have faith and hope in God. Don’t give up.
your season of plenty.
Smile and look
at the positive. I keep a gratitude journal for days like this. They remind me
of the days when God came through when I was feeling down in the past.
and striving for that lost opportunity.
Breathe. Just breathe, take a walk, sit in the park, change your scenery. Sometimes this helps you gain perspective.
Ask God to help.
Get down on your knees and pray. Pray during your season of plenty too. God
gives insight for things yet to come. Matthew 7:7-8.
people for help. God comes through other people to help you.
You must do
something, don’t just sit and cry. An action needs to be taken.
God works in ways we do not understand. And sometimes the least person you
expect is the one who comes through for you. Matthew 25:40, 45.
season of plenty, give to those in need. Luke 6:38.
Reminds me of
this song by Israel and New Breed, New Season:
“It’s a new
It’s a new day
anointing is flowing my way
It’s a season
of power and prosperity
It’s a new season coming to me.”
In conclusion, keep your head up during your season is to have faith. Save and give during your season of plenty. Have faith that it is only due for a season. Your sun will rise again. Never give up. Keep working hard.
I am Natasha Chetty, the woman behind the blog: MrsChettyLife. I am just a mother like you, winging it in this mom world. I enjoy discovering myself as a mother, woman and wife. After months of blogging, its time to reintroduce myself: MrsChettyLife rebranded. I am here to enrich the livelihood of moms through blogging about motherhood.
What is your name?
What is your blog about?
My blog is about helping young mothers simplify their motherhood journey. It is all about reaching out to mothers, connecting with them and sharing experiences. I would love to be a useful source to mothers in all stages of motherhood from pregnancy. Surviving mom hood (motherhood). Tips, mom hacks and tricks.
A mother’s lifestyle: organization, stay at home life, work at home life, random posts
Self-care and inspirational quotes for moms
Essential oils (natural living)
All about baby; teething, baby weaning, pregnancy, newborn, toddler life
What is your location?
I reside in Johannesburg, South Africa.
How old are you?
Coffee or tea?
Rooibos Tea please, does hot chocolate count? and lots of chocolates and cookies.
What do you do?
I am a stay at home mom leaning towards living naturally who blogs and loves photography.
What is your child’s name?
How old is he?
What is your status?
What is your religion?
What are your Interests?
What makes you different?
I am a stay at home mom. I am a first time mom. I am a millennial mom. I guess my experiences make me different. As well as my background, my interracial marriage, my mixed son and my outlook to life. I believe every mom is unique and different. And every person has a voice that needs to be heard. I believe each person is special.
I am an introvert. I’d rather spend my day curled up indoors with a hot chocolate and reading a book or watching a movie with my son.
What keeps you going?
Hope, faith and love keep me going. I hope for a good and
better tomorrow, I have faith that things will work out and I love my son, my
husband, my blog, myself and people. These things keep me going. Writing is my
I always loved to write and keep an online diary. With a
baby I can’t always write in a book, so I type on my phone or online journal. I
began this blog when my son was born to originally write letters to him. It turned
out to be a mom lifestyle blog.
I will mention more about this in a blog post later.
Who is your Target market / audience?
Moms, stay at home moms (sahm), first time moms (ftm), married couples looking to spice up their marital life, and natural living moms.
What are your goals?
-to write every week
-post on social media every week
-to advertise on social media
-to develop my photography skills
-to eventually monetize my blog
-to get my house in order and develop a good organization routine
-to develop and grow my marriage
-to be there for my baby and husband
-to sell my photos
-to learn all about essential oils and develop a natural living lifestyle.
What are your wants and needs?
a brand kit
a solid blogging system
a solid cleaning and home organization system
my work desk
What will readers expect from you?
a source of information
a post every week
I won’t overburden you with something I am selling.
Why do you blog?
I blog to keep myself sane. I am an overthinker, with
thoughts that keep me busy, they run in my head none stop. I get ideas at 3am
in the morning when I can’t sleep. I love to write. I keep a gratitude journal
to highlight one thing to be grateful for every day. I blog to keep my hands
and head busy. I blog to share my experiences and hopefully help someone who
knows less than I do in that certain area. I believe everyone has something
valuable to say, why not say it in a blog?
What is important to you?
First time moms
Writing and blogging
Organizing my house
What inspires you?
Other people’s blogs
I always look for something good in a situation
A good photograph
The cross tattoo on my wrist
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder
Accepting everyone as different and unique
What is your moto?
“It is only for a season.”
“Enjoy today, it will never come back.”
“Don’t give up!”
“You are doing good, mom.”
“Enriching the livelihood of moms by blogging about motherhood.”
What type of mom are you?
I am a loving, calm, all in, hands-on super mom who forgives herself when I make a mom fail and I cut myself some slack. No mom is perfect. I embrace the good and bad. I don’t know it all and I’m constantly researching and learning.
I was scrolling through my Facebook when I stumbled upon this piece where a lady began a thread where people could tell her something random about a person they love that makes them smile every time they think about it. I thought I would do something similar and write down the random things about the people and places I love that makes me smile.
My husband always kisses me goodbye. He leaves the house at 5am and makes it a point to always kiss me goodbye. I am always fast asleep. On some days he lets me know that he stares at me for a bit before he leaves. He sends evidence of pictures of me asleep on his phone.
The smile on my sons face whenever he sees me. If I go and take a bath without him, when I come out he flashes me this divine smile like I have been gone for days.
The look on my strict mother in-laws face the first time she saw her grandson. That just melted my heart.
My husband likes to randomly hug and kiss me. We can be in the middle of a big argument and he will just draw me close and hold me tight. It melts all the anger away.
My best friend Clarissa has blue eyes.
Her eyes change color according to her mood. Darker when she is angry, sparkly when she is happy or eats ice cream etc. I love that about her.
My husband has this genuine cute laughter, you don’t hear it often.
My husband again, always comes home with this huge smile on his face no matter what day he has had, happy to see me and his son.
I love puppies and they always make me smile.
I am a nature person and I look out for the sunset and beautiful natural areas like trees, water, animals, flowers, natural sculptures. Those make me at ease.
Book store and the library are my most favourite places in the world. My husband knows this and I tend to zone out when I go to one. My husband tends to distract me if he sees a book store.
My husband likes to take pictures of me when I am not concentrating. I always find a bulk of pictures that I don’t remember him taking.
I have a video of the first time my husband met my son. Watching it always makes me smile.
My mother loves her grandson and is so proud of him.
She always takes him away immediately I arrive. When asked she has this proud look on her face and says “This is my grandson.”
My brother looks like a strict I-Don’t-care type of person but when it comes to babies, they love him. He gets big smiles from babies in the bus.
When I have a bad day and my husband is aware of it. We always speak lot during the day. He comes home with roses, chocolate and juice because those are my favourite things.
My son is amazed by the ceiling fan. It’s the first thing he looks at when he wakes up.
The pure look of content bliss on my sons face when he feeds. Its like the most wondrous thing he has ever had.
My son finds it funny when I sneeze. He looks up at me and laughs his head off.
What are the things that other people do that make you smile?
What places do you love?
More from MrsChettyLife: https://mrschettylifestyle.co.za/things-i-want-my-son-to-know/
What were your achievements? What did you learn? Has it been quite rough for you?Who did you meet? What adventures did you create? What recipes did you try? Did you receive some new clothes? Did you develop a new hobby?
So much happened for me this year. Beginning with our marital registration, reception ceremony, the birth of our son, Nathaniel, moving in with my husband, starting our own company (that included getting our website up and social media accounts by myself) and becoming a SAHM. I have definitely grown and matured. We also joined a new church.
I began my blog on WordPress: mrschetty445694194.wordpress.com. I bought my domain mrschettylifestyle.com.
I learnt a little on SEO. I learnt to be strong. I learnt that motherly instinct is real. I learnt to take care of my husband and myself too. I sharpened my cooking skills. I went through the ups and downs of being a SAHM. I’m still learning how to budget. I grew closer to my mother and I understand her better. I also joined and connected with other moms on Facebook groups.
What a year it has been for me. I want to share on the gift of giving today. One thing my husband has taught me is giving. He is a very giving person. Be it in love, gifts, money, water, food etc. He is ever so willing to give. We have gone so many places and where he sees need he gives.
He was explaining to me the other day how a lady and her child where trying to buy something to eat. Her baby kept crying for things and she didn’t have the money to get them for him. She was literally counting coins to make enough for some bread. My husband stepped in and bought what the baby wanted plus her dinner.
My husband also loves to buy me random gifts, jewelry, flowers, clothes, when he sees it and he feels it will look good on me he buys it. We went to the mall to get some diapers for my son the other day.
My husband saw this lovely feeding table and put baby in it. The joy on my son’s face was unmistakable. He screamed and smiled and played in it. When we took him out his face fell. My husband ended buying this feeding table for Nathaniel.
We meet strangers asking for help and he always steps in.
There have been many stranded people with flat tires on the road and he stops to give them a toll a help push the car. Of course we are safe and help in safe areas.
It makes me sad that some people use giving as a way to cause harm on you or rob you. Lawrence, my husband has been held at gun point when he was trying to help a seemingly stranded person. We also get rude comments and or swears when we don’t have to give and we meet this beggar in the street.
This tells you that today’s day and age has changed and forgotten the true meaning of giving. Nowadays people feel entitled to receive something that is not their’s. We have people who rob you because they feel what you have worked hard for, is rightfully their own.
Others give because they want you to give them something in return. They see something they want from you, give you something so you can give them that thing.
Once we were walking in town, mom had on a gold chain. A man approached her and told her to sell it to him. Mom said no. This man told her that if she didn’t give it to them, they will take it from her.
He began to signal to his other friends that mom had a chain. We rushed quickly into a shop and hid the chain. We waited for a few minutes. Walked out of the shop in the other direction.
Giving is common this festive season.
Giving does not only and always include a gift. Give to a stranger in need. Help someone out. Give in form of time.
Spend time with your children. Invite that coworker who has no family to your family dinner. Help out at a shelter. Give love.
Give a listening ear to that mom who is struggling. Call in anonymously for an alcoholic neighbor who constantly hits his wife. Share your small or old clothes, even those that you don’t wear.
Pay for someone’s groceries or parking ticket. Hold the door open for someone in a wheelchair. Giving starts small with your family. Give yourself a break and cut yourself some slack.
Know of someone who is constantly picked on? Give that person a compliment. Pray for someone in need. Laugh with a stranger. Give in your blog post. Share on social media. Volunteer in an old age home. Give a hug to a weeping friend. Give to animals. Donate to a church. Help looking for keys someone lost.
Peter and John had nothing to give but said a prayer of healing to this lame man.
And he was healed. He was walking and leaping and praising God. That was a better gift to give. Give a good rating to that cashier who jumped the queue for you because she saw you struggling with your baby.
Share a complimentary handshake and word of good faith to the manager of that waiter who was patient with you while your toddler screamed. Say thank you to any small gesture.
Giving is an act of sharing whole heartedly without expecting anything back. MrsChettyLife
We have never gone a day hungry. Provision always comes through even at the 11th hour. If you are faithful with something small, more will be given to you.
In conclusion, don’t forget the value in giving. When you give don’t expect anything back. If you give you make room to receive a hundred fold. It’s more blessed to give than to receive.
I usually hang by type of clothing, shirts together, pants together.
Put soaks, mittens and small items in a mesh bag. Hang them in the pairs.
Put socks together facing the same side. Hold the bottom of the soaks together and roll them into a ball.
Hang everything upside down.
Try using a paste-type pretreatment for stains.
Soak stained clothes in some detergent and lukewarm water before washing.
Wash or soak stained clothes as soon as possible.
Hang and pack as soon as the clothes are dry.
Separate clothes that don’t fit or need mending.
Keep all washing ingredients in one room or the laundry room.
Don’t forget to empty out the pockets. I always find loose change in my husbands bottoms.
Don’t forget to turn the tap off when you are done with your laundry.
The best stain removers
Stains, stains, stains, welcome to motherhood. I have quickly learned that as a mother and wife, I will encounter all sorts of stubborn tough stains. Since I do the laundry, I have to make sure these stains come off. My husband works in construction so he comes home real nice and clean filthy sometimes. Baby food and baby poop are a major stain. Another culprit of strains are pets, pet pee etc. Or maybe you love an occasional glass of wine from time to time. A spill on the carpet from those babies are a hustle to clean.
Here is a list of the best stain removers for your benefit.
enzyme-packed Era detergent
Biokleen Laundry Liquid, Free & Clear
Melaleuca Ecosense PreSpot Stain Remover
Fels Naptha Laundry Bar and Stain Remover
Sunlight bar soap
tide stain remover
Puracy Natural Stain Remover
Chem-Dry Stain Removal
Lestoil Heavy Duty Multi-Purpose Cleaner
Dawn dish washing liquid
Omo washing powder
Folex stain remover
Bicarb (sodium bicarbonate also known as baking soda)
Spray n wash
Washing soda (sodium carbonate decahydrate)
Where to buy these stain removers
Your local grocery store
Be careful not to use just any detergent for baby clothes. But it is ok to use the family laundry detergent as long as s/he doesn’t react when you hold her or him against your clothes.
Thanksgiving is on 22nd November 2018. According to Wikipedia; It began as a day of giving thanks for the blessing of the harvest and of the preceding year. Prayers of thanks and special thanksgiving ceremonies are common among almost all religions after harvests and at other times. It is now celebrated in some parts of the world by having a lovely feast with family and friends. Share with me what traditional family recipes you have and make on thanksgiving day.
Secondly Black Friday
Black Friday is on the 23rd November, 2018 by the way.
Black Friday is an informal name for the day following Thanksgiving Day in the United States, the fourth Thursday of November, which has been regarded as the beginning of the country’s Christmas shopping season since 1952, although the term “Black Friday” did not become widely recognised or used until the early 2000s.
Dont forget the day after black Friday, some stores still have a left over of marked down specials.
Thirdly Cyber Monday
It is on the 26th November 2018. According to Wikipedia; Cyber Monday is a marketing term for the Monday after the Thanksgiving holiday in the United States and is recognised in most parts of the world. The term “Cyber Monday” was created by marketing companies to persuade people to shop online. The term was coined by Ellen Davis and Scott Silverman, and made its debut on November 28, 2005 in a Shop.org press release entitled:
‘Cyber Monday’ Quickly Becoming One of the Biggest Online Shopping Days of the Year”.
Make use of the pause. The end of the year is here. Drum roll.
Most people and companies had a big to do list at the beginning of the year. By now we have not done half of what was on our list. Where does time fly to. And I’m sure like me we are all panicking to get things done in these last few months. I would like to remind you while you are busy rushing around the importance of the pause.
Your rushing around might hit a pot hole and you will go flying to the other side of the town.
It might have been too busy for you and you still have lots to do. You are tired and can’t wait for the holidays. That fatigue is causing you to be grumpy and your children and spouse are suffering for it.
Even when you are rushing around to buy them gifts and prepare things for that function you thought was far away. Don’t forget to take care of you. Drink water, eat right, rest enough, smile, yell less and look at the good.
Your family still needs you sane now even when you are longing for that vacay. Stressing slows you down.
Take it one thing at a time. Over multi-tasking confuses you. You can’t do much with the things you haven’t done. Do the small tasks. I’d rather have a small win than a heap full of beginnings.
Accept the things you can’t change and be proud of the things you have already done. If you are unhappy about your current situation do something about it. Don’t just sit there and cry. Get up and do something.
Let’s for a moment write down all our achievements this year. Let’s take a breather and write this down. My list is below
Went through pregnancy.
Had a successful c section delivery.
Went through the newborn stage.
Opened and closed my blog three times.
I am still alive.
Pulled off my first house party
My baby is alive and healthy.
My house is finally getting into order.
I’m slowly getting into regime as a SAHM.
I left my job to be a SAHM
We opened a contracting company with my husband.
I manage and opened all social media accounts.
I am running 6 Facebook pages, 3 linked in pages, 1 pinterest account and 1 Instagram account.
We transitioning Nathaniel to solids successfully.
Nathaniel meets a lot of his milestones. We are currently crawling, sitting up and standing assisted at 6 months.
To wrap it up, hit reply and tell me of your achievements. I’m here to remind you that
Every beginning has an end and every end has a beginning.