I am Natasha Chetty, the woman behind the blog: MrsChettyLife. I am just a mother like you, winging it in this mom world. I enjoy discovering myself as a mother, woman and wife. After months of blogging, its time to reintroduce myself: MrsChettyLife rebranded. I am here to enrich the livelihood of moms through blogging about motherhood.
What is your name?
What is your blog about?
My blog is about helping young mothers simplify their motherhood journey. It is all about reaching out to mothers, connecting with them and sharing experiences. I would love to be a useful source to mothers in all stages of motherhood from pregnancy.
A mother’s lifestyle: organization, stay at home life, work at home life, random posts
Self-care and inspirational quotes for moms
Essential oils (natural living)
All about baby; teething, baby weaning, pregnancy, newborn, toddler life
What is your location?
I reside in Johannesburg, South Africa.
How old are you?
Coffee or tea?
Rooibos Tea please, does hot chocolate count? and lots of chocolates and cookies.
What do you do?
I am a stay at home mom leaning towards living naturally who blogs and loves photography.
What is your child’s name?
How old is he?
What is your status?
What is your religion?
What are your Interests?
What makes you different?
I am a stay at home mom. I am a first time mom. I am a millennial mom. I guess my experiences make me different. As well as my background, my interracial marriage, my mixed son and my outlook to life. I believe every mom is unique and different. And every person has a voice that needs to be heard. I believe each person is special.
I am an introvert. I’d rather spend my day curled up indoors with a hot chocolate and reading a book or watching a movie with my son.
What keeps you going?
Hope, faith and love keep me going. I hope for a good and
better tomorrow, I have faith that things will work out and I love my son, my
husband, my blog, myself and people. These things keep me going. Writing is my
I always loved to write and keep an online diary. With a
baby I can’t always write in a book, so I type on my phone or online journal. I
began this blog when my son was born to originally write letters to him. It turned
out to be a mom lifestyle blog.
“Enriching the livelihood of moms through blogging about motherhood.”
What are the colors and fonts for your blog?
Pink, white, black, blue and green.
What apps do you use for your blog?
I will mention more about this in a blog post later.
Who is your Target market / audience?
Moms, stay at home moms (sahm), first time moms (ftm), married couples looking to spice up their marital life, and natural living moms.
What are your goals?
-to write every week
-post on social media every week
-to advertise on social media
-to develop my photography skills
-to eventually monetize my blog
-to get my house in order and develop a good organization routine
-to develop and grow my marriage
-to be there for my baby and husband
-to sell my photos
-to learn all about essential oils and develop a natural living lifestyle.
What are your wants and needs?
a brand kit
a solid blogging system
a solid cleaning and home organization system
my work desk
What will readers expect from you?
a source of information
a post every week
I won’t overburden you with something I am selling.
Why do you blog?
I blog to keep myself sane. I am an overthinker, with
thoughts that keep me busy, they run in my head none stop. I get ideas at 3am
in the morning when I can’t sleep. I love to write. I keep a gratitude journal
to highlight one thing to be grateful for every day. I blog to keep my hands
and head busy. I blog to share my experiences and hopefully help someone who
knows less than I do in that certain area. I believe everyone has something
valuable to say, why not say it in a blog?
What is important to you?
First time moms
Writing and blogging
Organizing my house
What inspires you?
Other people’s blogs
I always look for something good in a situation
A good photograph
The cross tattoo on my wrist
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder
Accepting everyone as different and unique
What is your moto?
“It is only for a season.”
“Enjoy today, it will never come back.”
“Don’t give up!”
“You are doing good, mom.”
“Enriching the livelihood of moms by blogging about motherhood.”
What type of mom are you?
I am a loving, calm, all in, hands-on super mom who forgives herself when I make a mom fail and I cut myself some slack. No mom is perfect. I embrace the good and bad. I don’t know it all and I’m constantly researching and learning.
Essential oils that boost respiratory system are Eucalyptus and Peppermint Essential oil. Breathe easy with Eucalyptus and Peppermint Essential oil. The properties of Peppermint contain menthol that helps boost respiratory system and the decongestant properties in Eucalyptus boost it too.
Breathe easy with Eucalyptus
Radiata aka E. Radiata is an antiviral, antiseptic, antimicrobial
antibacterial, antifungal and decongestant properties. It derives from the
family called q1`Myrtaceae Commonly known as the myrtle family. They
are powerful healing oils that are antiseptic and are useful for the
respiratory and immune system. Other essential oils in this family are Tea
Tree, Eucalyptus (all types), Clove Bud, Cajeput, Niaouli, and
Eucalyptus essential oil carries well with coconut oil, olive oil, Shea butter, and cocoa butter.
Boost respiratory system Through Uses and benefits of Eucalyptus:
healthy immune system.
support and decongestant.
tired and aching muscles
purifies the air.
feet for supporting the immune system.
As a chest on
chest and back for decongesting.
Blends to boost respiratory system are:
Lemon, Lavender, Tea Tree for cleaning and cleansing.
Eucalyptus, Lemon, and Peppermint for energy.
Basil, Eucalyptus, and Epsom salt to purify your air making breathing easier
and removing blockages.
Lemongrass, and Eucalyptus get rid of dust particles.
For a steam
bath, you may add Lemon, Eucalyptus and Clove bud to clear congestion. You may
use over a bowl of hot water and cover with a towel as well.
To boost your
immune system, add Rosemary, Lemon, Cinnamon, Clove bud, Eucalyptus with
A great chest
rub includes Tea tree, Cedarwood, Eucalyptus, Lemon, Lavender, Peppermint,
Rosemary, Sweet orange, beeswax, Shea butter, and coconut oil.
Eucalyptus, Lemon and baking soda.
essential oils Lemon, Lavender, Tea tree, Thyme, Sweet orange, Rosemary,
Grapefruit and Eucalyptus.
Breathe easy with Peppermint Essential oil
Essential oil is known as Mentha Piperita. It has an ingredient called Menthol (menthol)
which has cooling properties. It is part of the mint family called Labiatae.
make it a go-to Essential oil
oil is fast-acting.
Practice Caution when using Peppermint
as it may cause allergic skin reactions.
Not to be
used on or around pregnant women (can be used in very small potions on pregnant
women with doctors’ advice) and children below 3 years of age.
Not to be
used on eyes, ears, and should not be swallowed.
with coconut oil.
Cleanses oral health
Calms muscle, joint pain, and
Energizing: gives a wake-up call.
Great for relieving itching
Boosts respiratory system
Great for traveling as it relieves
nausea, morning sickness, and motion sickness
Relieves short term diarrhea and
irritable bowel system
Helps calm menstrual pains
Aids with damaged skin
Repels mosquitoes, ants, rodents
Boosts the digestive system
Application of Peppermint Essential oil
oil can be added to your diffuser.
Can be mixed
with toothpaste or water for oral health (do not swallow).
A few drops
can be added to your shower for a wake-up call.
May be mixed
with a carrier oil and made into a vapor rub for the chest, back and behind the
for fresh breath: Spearmint, Lemon and Peppermint. These can be mixed together
into a mouthwash. Clove bud, Tea tree, and Peppermint help soothe toothaches. Other
essential oils good for oral health include Cinnamon, Cilantro, Coriander,
Fennel, Frankincense, Lime, Juniper berry and Helichrysum.
Playmobil movie review feedback from the Movie Premiere at Movies@Monte.
Fun Facts about the movie:
The Director Lino DiSalvo was the Head of Animation for movie ‘Frozen’. He is a Disney veteran who spent 17 years at Walt Disney Animation Studios.
The voices of Anya Taylor-Joy, Gabriel Bateman, Daniel Radcliffe, Jim Gaffigan, Meghan Trainor and Adam Lambert are the films stars.
Anya Taylor-Joy as Marla Gabriel Bateman as Charlie Ryan S. Hill as 6-year-old Charlie Jim Gaffigan as Del, the food truck driver. Daniel Radcliffe as Rex Dasher, the secret agent and Marla’s love interest. Meghan Trainor as the fairy-godmother Adam Lambert as the Emperor Maximus Kenan Thompson as the Bloodbones Wendi McLendon-Covey Lino DiSalvo as Robotitron Spike Spencer
Music is by Heitor Pereira.
The movie will be in cinemas on the 16th August, 2019.
There are a number of Playmobil amusement parks in certain countries that feature play areas and events. They are called FunParks and are Playmobil toys themed.
There is a CGI animated TV series inspired by Playmobil figures entitled Super 4.
Accoridng to Wikipedia: The signature Playmobil toy is a 7.5 cm (approximately 3 inches) tall (1:24 scale) human figure with a particular cherub-like smiling face, known as a “klicky”. A wide range of accessories, buildings and vehicles, as well as many sorts of animals, are also part of the Playmobil line.
When her younger brother Charlie suddenly disappears into the magical, animated universe of PLAYMOBIL®, Marla embarks on the adventure of a lifetime to bring him home. Setting off on an incredible journey through new and exciting themed worlds, Marla teams up with various strange and heroic companions, including: Del, a crazed food truck driver; Rex Dasher, a suave and fearless secret agent; a loyal and endearing robot; a hilarious fairy-godmother, and many others!
We were invited by SHANÈY and team at MomSays. We went to Movies@Monte and were greeted by friendly staff who gave us Playmobil hand tags and Playmobil toys. They had a curated list of invitees. We then walked into a room full of children and parents. A blue carpet lead to a photo booth where we took lovely pictures with an immediate Playmobil photo print.
We walked to a snack table, filled with delicious goodies. At 11:30am, we queued into the massive cinema. We were offered popcorn and cold drinks on the way.
At 12, the movie began with only 2 adverts, we watched the movie. There was singing and dancing. The movie is intriguing and fun.
Our take from the movie:
Celebrating the bond between sisterly and brotherly love. How responsibilities come in play and looking out for one another.
We also learnt that one should believe in themselves. Dream and never stop dreaming. Always have time for fun, imagination and play.
We are all heroes and can be heroes in our day to day lives by helping other people.
We also learnt the importance of working together. Every person is strong in their own might but stronger when we work together.
This was the first time my son was at the cinema for the movies and he fared pretty well. Much better than I expected. He loves TV and the gigantic screen intrigued him. He is 15 months now and followed through the movie. My son enjoyed the singing and dancing most.
I enjoyed mother and son time out of the house and we are extremely grateful to have been part of the experience.
There are so many things we do to live a healthier lifestyle. Going to the gym, eating healthier, Green plastic-free life. Nowadays going green is the ‘IT’ thing. You have read such a scary post about the toxins such as plastic are in many products we use in our day to day lives.
Ranging from shopping, cooking, makeup, fashion, cleaning and travel items, plastic is infused in a lot of things. If you are like me I got pretty freaked out and my head began to spin, it is pretty overwhelming. There are many products that contain cancer-causing global-warming creature-suffocating chemicals that affect our tomorrow’s. As a mother I began to worry for my child’s future. Plastics are a major pollutant on the earth.
The good news is every contribution a person makes is a much safer tomorrow. So don’t count yourself as insignificant. You are a manager in your home and a mini influencer among your family and friends. Every contribution makes a difference. Plus going green and cutting out single-use plastic is highly reducing the toxic chemicals that your family is exposed to. In honor of #plasticfreejuly, why not begin to go grow with these simple but significant changes in your home by going green plastic-free?
How to go green plastic-free:
Bulk buying of non perishable products: buying products in bulk reduces buying goods in single-use plastics.Buy meat, chicken etc. and meat products straight from the butchery like Nagiahs.
Purchase freshly baked goods like bread from your local bakery or grocery stores like spar and checkers. They are wrapped in paper. Better yet bake your own yummy goodies.
Another way to go green plastic-free is by reducing the use of plastics (plastic-free). We do this by buying from markets like fruit and veg or food lovers market. They sell fresh fruits and veggies that are not prepacked. It is as though they are pulled straight from the garden and sold. Avoid buying frozen foods.
Buying products in glass bottles like milk.
DIY your phone and tablet covers using biodegradable products.Reusing and recycling: using reusable coffee / tea mugs instead of disposable coffee cups, juice and soda bottles. Recycling old cotton t-shirts as your cleaning cloths: DIY glass purity bottles.
Making your own soap (DIY) and using soap bars, shampoo soap bars and dish washing soap bars. Or buy these from an eco-friendly shop.
Not forgetting these important solutions:
Using organic cotton bags instead of plastic bag for shopping. Don’t forget to carry them from your home to save you from buying them all the time.
Creating your own DIY compost heaps.
Make the switch from balloons to eco friendly decorations such as paper. You can make this a fun DIY moment to do with your children.Using stainless steel containers, pots, cutlery, plates, ice trays, bread bins, storage containers, sugar bowls and trays. Any plastic kitchen equipment can be switched to stainless steel.
Avoid using plastic straws, use paper or stainless steel straws.
Making your own make-up products, deodorant, travel products, air freshener, weed killers, insect balm, sunscreen, washing liquid with essential oils.
Incorporating bamboo spoons, dishes, toys, toothpicks to your household.
Switching to wooden / bamboo toilet brush and bottle cleaner handles and compostable bristles and combs or hair brushes.
Plastic free shoes and synthetic clothing, go for 100% cotton, wool, linen, bamboo clothing and hats.
Replace disposable razors with a razor with removable blades.
Make it fun for your children and educate them on the dangers of using plastic.
Practice gardening buy growing your own fruits and vegetables.
Look for a certified organic make up brand which is vegan, cruelty free, and uses eco-friendly packaging.
These last two points:
Use paper tape or ribbons, paper bags rather than wrapping paper and sell tape to wrap gifts.
Don’t forget to educate your friends and family. Better yet start your own green plastic-free movement. It takes time, patience, commitment and creativity to go completely green plastic-free.
Surround yourself with eco-friendly people.
Another way to go green plastic-free is to reduce plastic waste by reusing and recycling what you already have in your home.
A baby experiences love differently because a baby does not really understand words from the beginning. Have you ever seen an uncontrollable baby who just melts in the arms of a parent? My son does this too many times. The question is how do we show love to our baby in a language they understand?
Show love to your baby by:
Hugs and kisses: touch is a sole language for a baby. Touch sends signals to the brain that make them feel calm and feel good. That is a big way to show love to your baby. So hold them close to you. Trust me, the bigger they get the more independent they become and you will miss these profound memories and opportunities. My son now reprociates hugs and kisses. He will be in the middle of play and randomly come and give me a hug and kiss. My heart melts. The morning cuddles are also the best, special and sweet. Practice baby massage on them. It’s easy, relaxing and calming.
Listening and attending to their cues and cries: Have you ever interacted with someone who doesn’t speak your language? But you notice this person is hurt by their cries. This person reaches out and give you a hug or picks what fell on the floor and hands it to you. Better yet gives a helping hand when your hands are overflowing. Doesn’t it feel good to know that even though you don’t speak the same language. Responding to your babies cries and cues tells them that you care enough to soothe them. This builds trust. They begin to trust you, when something is wrong, they trust you will make it ok. Sometimes my son just cries and I must automatically know what he wants. Even though he is 14 months and can now communicate without crying. Babies giggles are so sweet, real and cute.
Play with them. Make them 😂 laugh. Laughter is the best medicine. I make a conscious decision to give my son a few minutes of undivided attention and play with them. Play peekaboo. Kick the ball. Drive his toy cars. He appreciates the attention and he smiles. Sing and dance with them. Take them outside and enjoy a walk and few minutes of fresh air. We like to lay down out in the yard on the grass.
Take care of them by catering for their basic needs: a humans basic needs are food, water, sleep and shelter. As long as these basic needs are met then you will have a happy chappy. I was informed in my prenatal classes that if a baby cries check if they are hungry or if the nappy is wet or if they are not uncomfortable (something is poking them). Of course a baby doesn’t need water till after a 8 months to a year old. Water is provided in breast milk.
Show them by
Speak kind words to them: a baby picks up on the tone of your voice. They know when you speak kindly and when you speak harshly to them. Set the standard. Your baby will one day immitate what you do. They will speak harshly to you because it is what you taught them. I saw this memo on Facebook, raise them kind. And remember one day they will have relationships too, whatever you tea h them now will affect them for many years to come. They are human beings too. I guess you wouldn’t like to be yelled at all the time. It matters to them too. Children are never too young to know who is nice and who is mean. That’s why they agree for some people to hold them and others not. A baby senses who you are by your ♥ heart. It will also be easier for them to learn to speak by you speaking to them.
Pay attention to them: my son doesn’t like it when I am on the phone too long( he steals my phone and runs away or he sits and picks his fingers on my phone) , or when I cook or do dishes, he doesn’t like it when I read or when my husband and I cuddle. He knows that when I do all these unnecessary things my attention is not on him. And he sure loves my attention. This is why I make an intentional undivided play specifically for him. My son will not always be this young. And these moments will never come again. Plus paying attention to your baby helps to avoid some unnecessary injuries. Parents develop a reflex that helps keeps children safe. Or to put it in way man’s terms mommy instinct.
Bath them. My son has always loved his baths. It is a direct way to calm and relax him. When he is fussy or has a sore tummy, a bath is the answer. He now looks forward to a bath because he knows it’s an opportunity to splash 💦 and play.
Discernment: I mentioned earlier that mommy instinct plays along. Before I had my son, when we were pregnant, I would always worry how I will take care of this little person. But mommy instinct came after I gave birth to him. It is also discernment. Mom can fortel the future. Picture this, you tell your baby so many times not to do that you will hurt yourself. Few minutes later that happens. I call that discernment.any times you just know that something is not right with your baby and you rush them to the hospital, only to find out you were right. Even if you aren’t better be safe than sorry.
These are other ways as well:
Pray for your baby: I always look up to prayer when I know its something I can’t handle and it’s out of my hands. Prayer gives good vibes and safety on your child for the future and for the present. There is power in prayer. And this is a good way to show love to your baby. If something is meaningful to you and you care about it, you pray for them.
Read with them and show interest in what they do: one thing I would love my son to do and learn from me is to read and write. Because this is something I love to do and I love my son. So combine the two things I love. Even when I’m dead and gone I would love my son to remember me through reading and writing. It’s the purpose of this blog. One day he will read everything I am writing to him here. And that’s what I would love my legacy to be. And reading helps you dream big.
Help them: another way to show love to your baby is helping them through difficult things. Through places, they can’t reach. Help by asking for help through prayer and at the doctors. Life always needs a helping hand. Grown-up people who have strained relationships with their parents complain about this one thing where we’re you when I needed you? So be there for your baby and help them.
Speaking to them and making soothing sounds: you are the first person a child learns to speak from. I tell my son’s stories, we have a conversation. He listens to my voice. There’s a scripture in the Bible that says my sheep know my voice. Speak to them, make soothing noises. When your baby was in your womb one thing that stood out to them is your voice and your heartbeat. Your voice reassuringimg to them. They love your voice and the funny quirks and sounds it makes. Plus you are teaching them to speak and converse. And it makes life so much easier when they can speak.
Show love to your baby by learning how they communicate to you.
How does a baby communicate with you:
Crying is the basic way of them communicating with you. They can’t speak so they cry.
Baby talk as they grow older babies begin what is called baby talk. You will learn the fancy words they use for certain things the more time you spend with them. 😉
Body language: reading a babies body language is one way they talk. When my son hurts himself he holds whatever thing he hurt and I know how to soothe him. And make sure he is OK. In my first aid class they said we should watch for warning signs when something is wrong: is your little one bleeding? vomiting? eyes rolling up? If there is rush to the emergency room. That all comes in body language. Some people say it’s also easy to teach a baby sign language, they use it before they can speak.
Tried and sure ways to earn an extra income as a SAHM. One of the big decision makers when considering being a SAHM is income (finance). It usually requires that you have to cut down on lots of things because you will be relying on one income. Another way could be for you to do these things online or with your kids. Use these tips to earn extra income as a SAHM.
How to save when living on one salary:
Pay off all debt before hand
Cutting down on luxuries
Cash back apps
Buy in bulk
Cheaper (shop brand) version
Make your own DIY
Buy Long lasting clothes
Buy from second hand shops (thrifting)
Reuse and Recycle
Use less (avoid careless use and spending)
Gardening – plant your own garden for veggies and other things you can grow in your back yard.
What can you do to earn extra income as a SAHM:
Freelancing: copywriting, social media management, web developing, writing, editing and proofreading etc
Survey taking: If you have the patience for surveys, you may do this. You may do small tasks, fill in questionnaires, play games for a price or a voucher. I found this a little slow because they required you to do so many tasks for a small price. You could do product testing.
Cash back apps: I am currently using SnapnScan, it is a South African based app. You book groceries that you are going to buy, scan your grocery slip and you get cash back off the items you booked.
Run errands with Uber or taxify or lyft: you may sign up for Uber, taxify or lyft. You may sign up as a delivery driver or errand runner.
Domestic house keeping and house or pet sitting
Piece work: if you are good at gardening, you may offer to clean someone’s yard for a price, take care of the children (baby sitting).
Make your own goods to sell on Shopify: candle making, essential oils, digital products, printables, jewellery making, soap making, anything that you are good at making and sell them online.
Second hand selling: eBay, Gumtree, Facebook marketplace. You may sell used closed or good on these websites. I find more Facebook marketplace to be reliable. We have sold many things on Facebook marketplace.
Pawn: if you really love an item and don’t want to part with it, but is not being used at the moment you may pawn the item. This means the pawn shop gives you money for your item and keep it for a certain period. When you need your item back you pay the money back with interest. This is one way you can earn an extra income as a SAHM.
Online tutor: I found that most online tutor apps need you to have a degree in any field. This allowed you to qualify as a tutor. A few did not require that you have a degree.
Blogging: affiliate marketing, Freelancing, influencer, brand ambassador, selling courses on your blog, selling printables.
Air bnb: you may rent out your home as an air bnb. Don’t forget about the risks of having strangers in your home.
Virtual Assistant: these include random tasks from admin work to social media, depending on the company who hires you.
Offering at home Car wash services to friends, neighbors and family.
Mechanic: if you are good with cars and have an eye for them. You may fix small things or do minor services.
Dog walking: if you are good with dogs, dog walking maybe a good idea.
Online travel agent: you can travel with your kids.
Work at home Business: you may consider offering your own work at home business or working remotely for companies.
Offer other services to earn Extra income as a SAHM.
Apps for online work that allow you to earn an extra income as a SAHM:
A few tips when dealing with online business:
Be patient with certain jobs. They maybe slower in payment but they are just your side gig. Some grow into a big business and you need to put in a little extra effort. Have a heart (passion) for what you are doing so that you will not be discouraged.
Passion is the one that fires up your engine, keeps you steady and going even when the light is not shining. Understand that all businesses have an up and down. Sometimes you get flowing clients other times not. That is the beauty of an extra income as a SAHM.
Try these above and see what works best for you. Always have an option C when your option B doesn’t work. Don’t give up. Keep your head high and keep striving. Join groups both online and offline and have a solid support team that will understand you, encourage and help you. It helps to have a good support team.
Be patient, be wise, be strong, be watchful. If something feels and looks too good to be true, it probably is. Look for other peoples reviews, the company contact details, years of operation and go to common sites to avoid scams. Do a good Google investigation for each company. Avoid going to secluded places.
If you must meet strangers please don’t go alone, always let someone (family member and close friends) know where you will be, turn on your location services for your close friends or family to know where you are, meet strangers in a busy and open areas like a police station or a shopping mall. The first place I mention is a police station, if the person runs away then you have been saved.
When you arrive at a meeting place check for exist strategies that you can easily duck and hide. If you feel unease about something, don’t do it. Trust your gut. Carry pepper spray if need be. Make a safe and secure check out process on your app.
Make sure to get a large deposit before you do any work for anyone. And please get the job done when you do. As much as you would hate being scammed, be trustworthy and reliable, don’t be a scammer.
Lastly but not the least, don’t forget to pray for your business / side hustle.
Final words: In conclusion: earn an extra income as a SAHM with these methods. Remember to be smart, stay safe and be wise. There are so many ways to earn extra income as a SAHM. You try alot of possibilities till you find what works best for you. Let me know in the comments what works for you as a SAHM.
Important routines for self-care as a mom. I received an overwhelming response from my post on self-care here: This inspired the following round up post on self-care routines for moms. Here are the very best tips for self-care routines for moms.
I have learned a lot from these mom bloggers and put self-care as my priority. Since I incorporated these routines, I feel uplifted and not lazy and slump. One mom commented that self-care for mom’s is like putting a gas mask on a plane, you are advised to put the gas mask on yourself first before you put it on your baby, if mom is not breathing, no one will. Enjoy reading:
39 Self Care Ideas for My 39th Birthday. Do you have a hard
time taking care of yourself? Is self care a totally foreign concept for you? I
know that I struggle with figuring out the best self care ideas to implement
that won’t cost too much money or time. To improve my year I decided to throw
myself a bit of a self care party! I’ve come up with a bunch of ideas for self
care and I’m excited to share them with you.
But I saw a post the other day on Facebook
which turned the traditional tongue-in-cheek saying, “Mama needs a drink” on
its head, and I wanted to address it. It leaned heavily on the extreme feminist
side as it talked about how mamas really need a pay check, paid healthcare,
childcare, etc., etc. It called for the general society to draw a line between
wants and needs. My response is basically this: much of what they term as
“wants” are generally seen as self-care, and self-care is needed.
8 Quick Self-Care Ideas You Can Do at Home. I have found so many amazing blogs
and websites with self-care ideas, but they tend to be kind of crazy like a Spa
Day. That requires a lot of planning in advance and sometimes I just need 3-5
minutes for me. Yes, I have hidden in the bathroom to take a couple of deep breaths
before, haven’t we all?!
It goes back to our daily routines and schedules. Work,
school, day-care, you name it. So what’s a girl to do? How does she take care
of herself? Well, these are some of the self-care techniques that I have
adopted since becoming a mom.
mama! I see you trying to be all things to all people. Trying to do everything
and beating yourself up when you fail. I see you neglecting yourself so you can
put everybody else first. I see you telling everybody, “No, really, I’m fine.”
I see you because I am you, I was you. But I have to tell you something. You can’t
keep going like this. You are only human, and you can only do so much until
your mind and body final say they’ve had enough. That nagging feeling, that
exhaustion, that irritation, that short temper? That’s mom burnout.
Life is busy, and my list could go on
and on of all the ways that I pour out into others. Most days I don’t even give
much thought to how what I am doing for others impacts me because I enjoy what
I do and it is fulfilling. That is until I find myself running on fumes.
Immediately, I start to notice that my conversation and tone are short, and my
patience is thin. All of this happens when I fail to take care of me in the
process of taking of everyone else. I needed to make taking care of me a
No matter what season of motherhood you’re currently in, we
can all agree that mom life is hard work. Its 2am feedings, and then another
one at 5am. It’s trying to keep your cool while your toddler has a complete
meltdown in the middle of the produce aisle. Motherhood is coming home after a
long day of work to cook and clean, when all you really want to do is curl up
on the couch with a big glass of wine. It’s juggling doctor appointments,
parent-teacher meetings, playdates, piano lessons, and soccer games. It’s
resisting the urge to slap someone when they question what you do all day as a
stay-at-home mom. We are so busy taking care of our families that we often
forget to take care of ourselves. I know I do.
You hear it all the time: being a mom is the most rewarding job there is. You are blessed with the ability to bear children who grow into wonderful creations of us that we love forever. And while that’s all true, no one seems to mention the exhaustion, the overwhelming moments, and the lack of self-care mothers endure daily. Too many times I’ve looked up to the sky and let out a huge sigh of frustration just to get through the rest of the night. I’m almost certain that I’m not alone. Being a mother is demanding, confusing, and stressful at times. It’s time we start carving out moments for ourselves (without feeling selfish about it) to take care of our mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing.
3 Ways to Overcome Home School Burnout. Home school
burnout is one of those subjects that no one wants to talk about. We avoid
talking about it out of embarrassment or shame. After all, a home school mom
chose to home educate her children, didn’t she? How could something that a mom
carefully discerned, thoughtfully researched and carefully planned cause
burnout? She is her own boss and she makes her own choices, doesn’t she? It is
not like being a doctor or lawyer or even a school teacher, or is it?
Some people – often people who just have too many words and
not enough things to use them on – will tell you that being a stay at home mom
is easy. But those of us that are, or have been, stay at home moms know that is
simply not the case. Sure, it’s a blessing that I don’t have to get myself and
a baby ready for work or day-care every day. And I can do laundry during the
day. And don’t get me wrong – at this stage in my life, I love being a stay at
home mom. It’s definitely the right choice for our family. BUT BEING AT HOME
WITH YOUR LITTLE ONES ALL DAY LONG IS NO JOKE.
WHAT SELF CARE REALLY LOOKS LIKE (HINT: IT’S NOT A VACATION
OR SPA!) Self-care is a popular buzzword in the mom community, and for good
reason! Being a mom is tough and exhausting, and you need to fill your cup in
order to be able to take care of your family. But self-care doesn’t have to be
big and elaborate; read on to see what self-care really looks like in your
“There’s too much time in the day,” said no one ever. There’s
so much to do with little time to get it done. There’s kids to watch, houses to
clean, when to figure out exercising, meal preparation, and work to be done! I
know you want to accomplish x,y, and z but instead you end up going to bed
wondering how you’ll get everything done with a jam-packed day filled to the
brim. Here’s how to make sure you get things done- without the mom guilt!
This episode of the Style Your Mind podcast called, Little
Luxuries got me thinking about ways I pamper myself. Some people think luxuries
have to be super expensive, but there are some things you can do to pamper
yourself that cost very little. For some people, luxuries may be days at the
spa, vacations or buying top of the line items. Those things may be great, but
not everyone can do that all the time. To me, luxuries are those things you do
for yourself that make you feel your best. They are the things that lift you
up. These things or rituals don’t even have to take up a lot of time.
Hey Guys, I hope you are well. This post is all about Self-Care. As women, we go through a lot. I mean – A LOT. Self-Care has become such an important topic and I want to share my point of view of the topic. As mothers, we make things look so easy, by almost ‘pretending’ to know exactly what we are doing when we really don’t have a clue. Think about it, we rush through in and out of the shower within 3 seconds, just in case, someone wants something. How mad is that? As well as loving others, it’s also important to love ourselves too.
Self-Care ideas don’t come easily and as first-time moms, we
all need it. No matter how strong or active you may be, it’s just hard to keep
up while you take care of your little one 24/7. Finding time for ourselves is
vital to living a happy and fulfilling life. For example, I love going for a
massage. But we also need a push for some motivation and find ways when to do
it. Motherhood is tough and the struggle is real.
Summer isn’t just for kids to relax and take a break from
the stresses of life. Moms need to take a breather and enjoy some slow moments
too. I know it can be hard when you’re managing a household and juggling little
ones who need to be fed and entertained. That’s why I’m sharing this self-care
summer bucket list for moms so you don’t pass the whole summer neglecting
yourself and end up a stressed out mess.
So what’s a broke time-constrained gal to do? It’s easy,
take 5 minutes EVERY DAY. I know what you’re thinking, “WHOA, EVERY DAY? Ain’t
nobody got time for that”. I get it. I work, I blog, I have a household and a
baby and dogs and husband andandand…” we all have our situations. But if we
build relaxing into our daily schedule, we don’t have to worry as much about
fitting in large-scale vacations, or over-indulging when opportunities to relax
actually come up. Being relaxed actually makes us calmer, more focused for the
necessities in our daily schedule and ready for the curve balls that life
throws at us. So here are 12 ways to build
relaxation into your daily schedule.
I soaked in the shower for a good fifteen minutes. Listening
to the sound of water hitting my back, and feeling a bit guilty. I felt a
little relief to have time to myself but couldn’t help but feel a little
ashamed. I stood there as the water continued to trickle, and tried to relax.
So, I’ve been thinking, what were some ways I coped with my busy, stressful week? Also, what were some strategies that I SHOULD have been using to reduce my stress, but didn’t? Since it’s now the weekend, and I’ve been able to take a deep, calming breath, I decided to make a list of 5 sure-fire ways to help you control stress.
Self-care is like the new it thing. Might as well be hot
yoga. Or spinning. It’s trendy. Like a top knot or skinny jeans or kale. We are
all so obsessed with making sure we are getting our self-care in that it is
just one more thing we moms are adding to our never ending to do lists. Well I
don’t know about you, but that seems like completely not the point. Here’s the
crux of the problem we are failing to define what things are actually self-care
and what things are simply treating ourselves.
Foot soaking should be an essential part of self-care!
Caring for our neglected feet cares for the rest of the body as well. One way I’ve recently started taking better care of my
feet, as well as my entire body, is through the practice of soaking them in
Epsom salt and essential oils. Not only does this show my feet some pampering
and love, but it is a relaxing, detoxifying evening ritual that decreases
stress and grounds my energy.
When you become a
mom your priorities change. Suddenly, you don’t go get your nails done like you
used to, or your hair. You don’t take long baths anymore because you’re
spending more of your time bathing kids. Whenever you get lost in the hustle
and bustle of motherhood, we tend to lose ourselves and forget that we had a
title before we were “Mom.” This is usually when depression kicks in. Some
mom’s feel selfish and bad about wanting to do things for themselves so that’s
why they never do. Or maybe it’s a financial thing. Or maybe it’s both. Here’s
the thing, in order to take care of your kids, you need to take care of you
Self-Care? hah! More like: Wash dishes. Fold the Laundry. Taxi the kids around. Solve sibling rivalry. Pick up toys. Rush to work. Rush home. Change hats. Wipe noses. Start dinner. Bath the kids. Find clean jammies. Wrestle them onto the kids. Get teeth brushed. Hair brushed. Kids into bed. Bedtime story. Snuggles. One more kiss. One more hug. No you can’t have water. No you can’t have a snack. Your knee will feel better when you fall asleep. Goodnight… I said GOODNIGHT.
The days are long, and they tell me the years are short.
Which of course I can already attest to. Even though mine are still so small, I
still look back and think the time has flown by. But still. Life is busy,
chaotic, and exhausting. Sound familiar? But alas… I must find a way. I need
exercise in my life. I need a gallon of water every day, 5 servings of fruits
and veggies, protein… yada yada.. I try. But exercise is one of those things
that every time I do it, I’m always glad I did. I mean seriously. Not once have
I ever regretted working out.
I always feel very busy. Honestly, I’m not that busy, but
when you are looking after a 16 month old all day, or work a 13 hour shift when
you’re not looking after your child, you just feel busy. I think what I really
mean is…my alone time has been far removed from my life. We have all talked
about not being able to pee alone, but that doesn’t even bother me. What I want
is good, quality alone time. Quiet room, TV off, no music playing, and no
interruptions. Alone time.
These self-care routines for moms are essential as well:
Today we are going to talk about how to engage in some
mental self-care. This post will be a shorter one, but don’t let the length be
an indicator of its importance! I see a lot of information about self-care strategies
come across my desk as a psychologist turned health coach/fitness instructor.
Many of them are physical – meaning they are generally focused on one of our
five senses. Some examples include listening to music, taking a bath,
lighting0020your favourite candle, painting your nails, etc. I think they are
all absolutely incredible acts of self-love. However, what I want to talk about
today is mental self-care.
Self-care tips: mind, body and soul. Hey ladies! Self-care includes taking care of your mind, body and soul. Last week I did something for my body by having my annual physical exam. This is the first time that I’ve been to the doctor in YEARS! Shame on me but I’m just glad that I finally made the appointment and went. I will be 40 years old next year and I want to make sure that I’m taking the necessary steps to be healthy. Part of being healthy is one’s ability to practice and sustain self-care. So I would like to propose five self-care practices that are budget friendly and can be implemented today.
Have you ever been standing strong for so long that you slowly forgot
how to breathe? Forgot who you were, what you liked,
what you needed? Gave yourself up until you were lost? And then one day, you
woke up gasping for air, wondering where you’d been for all these years? Do you
now look over your shoulder because you don’t recognize the person staring back
at you in the mirror? And then you stop looking altogether, because it’s too
hard to take in, to digest and to face?
13 Self-Care Tips for Busy Moms. Being a mom is exhausting.
But, being a mom is also a lot of fun and the best thing ever. As moms, we tend
to overlook ourselves. We’re so busy making sure the little’s are taken care
of, working and maintaining a home. I’ve put together a compilation of 13
self-care tips for busy moms. Self-care is so important and it took me a long
time to realize it. Once I did, I became a better mother, a better wife and a
better person to myself. I hope you find these tips helpful.
forget to implement these self-care routines for moms
How are you supposed practice self-care when you’re a
breastfeeding mom? It might seem impossible at times. Whether you are
breastfeeding, combo feeding, or exclusively pumping, it is a serious time
commitment. It can be a very draining part of motherhood, no pun intended!
Often mothers will let their meal get cold or not shower to be on top of feeds.
In this ever-evolving era, we need to customize ourselves
accordingly to live a better life. And in the search of this perfection and
flawlessness, we tend to tax and strain ourselves. Which definitely poses
harmful effect on our physical and mental health. This unfavourable situation
can be prevented with good self-care.
What is Self-Care? In short, self-care consists of taking
time for yourself to recharge and take a break from the pressures of life. It
may seem selfish to want to make ‘me time’ a priority but as my professor
explained to us it will enable you to be a better person for yourself and to
those around you.
The Self Care Checklist to be Healthy, Happy, &
Impactful. I know myself. I will not slow down unless I have a plan. So, in an
effort to put myself first, I created a self-care checklist to be healthy,
happy, and impactful. This list is tailored to a mom of small children, but I
believe that it can be tweaked for anyone at any stage of life.
Last year on Instagram a common theme was self-care and much
of my Instagram feed–and I’m sure yours–was filled with picturesque bubble
baths and face masks in every colour of the rainbow. While I am 100% on board
with these simple acts of self-care—you don’t have to ask me twice to enjoy a
glass of bubbly in a bath of bubbly—I wanted to shift my focus this year to
focus on self-care on a deeper level. As mothers, especially in early
motherhood, we tend to push all of our ailments and personal struggles to the
side and instead focus all of our energy on our babies and our families.
Cut yourself some slack with these tips on self-compassion
Refill your tank: 3 ways cultivate self-compassion on hard
days. You’re always messing things up.
You’ll never get things right.
You never seem to say the right thing.
You are ugly. You don’t belong to
be here. Most of us would never say these phrases to someone, but how often
have these ugly words replayed in your mind or even come out your mouth about
yourself? Sadly, I will admit I have been there.
Build Your Own Self-Care Kit for Unapologetic Me Time. If
you haven’t already built a self-care kit for yourself, it’s time. Your
self-care kit should be built around you and your needs, likes, and happiness.
You can use your kit daily, a few times a week, but gosh darn it make sure you
use it! You needn’t apologize for taking time to care for yourself. This is the
time to let loose, be free, and clear your head. You deserve it.
How to Make Time for Self-Care for Busy Moms. Self-care is
so important for moms to feel happy and refreshed. Here are tips on how to find
time in your busy day for yourself so you can be a better mother.
And because having a self-care routine is so much important
for us moms, let’s spend some “me time” on our skin. No matter what skin
quality you have, there are ways how to improve your skin health naturally, at
home, and without any harsh cosmetic procedures. Just a few small changes can
have a huge impact on the quality of your skin.
At 36, with a 6 year-old, a three-year old, and classrooms full of teenagers, I have forgotten that every day is a new occasion to look my best. Some days, I look at the beauty of the 20 year-olds and have to shake away twinges of envy. As I literally mop up the spilled milk, I cannot help think to myself, “Am I even worth the fuss? Who exactly am I here to impress?” And I answer with a resounding, “YES! YES! You are ABSOLUTELY worth the fuss!! You are here to impress YOURSELF! You need a self-care routine! Doll yourself up MAMA!!”
IS YOUR TANK RUNNING ON E? News flash ladies (and
gents if you’re reading), balance does not mean balancing “doing it all”. No
one can do it all without eventually suffering burnout which could be what
someone reading this is feeling right now. Having a balanced life means making
time for the things you HAVE TO do as well as the things you LIKE TO do. With
kids this can seem impossible but, with a little bit of groundwork, moms can
get it done.
Self-reflection is a great way to look at the big
picture not just what’s going on in the day-to-day. It can help you open your
mind and bring attention to areas in your life that you don’t always focus on.
Self-reflection gives you a chance to evaluate where you started to where you
are now. It can also help you determine what is important to you and what may
no longer be important in your life.
When I became a mom, especially as a Stay At Home Mom, I quickly learned that I have no time for myself. Self-care as a SAHM did not exist. Its either I was too busy taking care of baby, cleaning the house, cooking or taking care of my husband that self was pushed to the back door.
Self-care became a far-fetched dream that I once had before kids, marriage and SAHM life. I had an enlightening moment, I wrote about it in this post and I decided to write this concurring post. Above all else, self-care as a SAHM should be very important on your list.
“Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.”
What is self?
According to the online dictionary: “Self
is a person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others…”
What is self-care?
Self-care is the practice of taking deliberate action in order to preserve and improve our mental, emotional, physical health, well-being and happiness. Self-care should be practiced as often as possible.
Why is self-care
“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”.
Self-care is important because it improves our general well-being. It enhances our productivity, self-esteem, outlook to life and helps to build our immune system. Self-care is like ‘coffee in the morning’ that gives a boost, a wake-up call and encouraging a positive outlook to overcome each day’s challenges.
What does self-care
mean to me?
For me, it’s in the small things as a mom. Self-care
involves taking a lovely hot shower alone without disturbances, soaking in
essential oil baths especially in lavender essential oil, drinking hot
chocolate, watching a movie, getting a massage from my husband, writing in my
I also enjoy drinking a cold glass of fruit
juice, googling nonsense, getting my hair and nails done, shopping once in a
while, indulging in chocolate cake (I love chocolate cake), receiving flowers
from my husband (especially red roses), taking walks around the complex or at
the mall, looking at beautiful sunsets, taking pictures of nature and beautiful
sunsets and laying in the grass in the backyard at home etc.
“Clutter is not just physical stuff. Its old ideas, toxic relationships, and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self.” .
Why should you be practicing self-care as a SAHM?
The answer to this question is simple to be a less stressful, happier, more present mother, you need to practice self-care. Children especially young children sense and portray moms’ mood. In other words: if you are happier your child and your home will be a much happier place to live in.
You will stress less that will boost your immune system because stress has lots of unpleasant effects on the body. Most importantly you will be you and loving and celebrating who you are. When you practice self-care as a SAHM your perspective changes, your world is better, happier, self-rewarding and much stronger.
“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”
Elements of Self and ideas on practicing self-care as a SAHM:
When we look at self. Each element of self should be taken care of. Remember self-care works best by doing something you love to do when you enjoy doing it and not force or beat yourself down. Therefore, we look at the different aspects of self and things to do to practice self-care which are:
Emotional: Anti-stress adult coloring, forgiveness, kindness, practicing
talking and communication rather than yelling, anger management classes (can
also be found online), cry-it-out method and comedy.
“If you can find a reason to laugh every day, you’ll find that your mood will improve, your relationships with others will seem more meaningful and effortless, and life’s hurdles won’t seem so daunting.”
Dr. Cynthia Thaik
Environmental: organization, natural healthy living, repurposing, recycling, diffusing essential oils, using essential oils for cleaning (laundry, dishes), deep house cleaning, relaxing in nature (like a park) and decluttering.
Financial: saving, opening a home-based online business, buying in groceries bulk, buying yourself one expensive thing from time to time and couponing.
Personal: practicing hobbies and creativity (crafting, photography, swimming, dancing, phone games, writing, blogging, sewing, pottery, knitting, gardening, scrapbooking, art, journaling, baking, beading, gratitude and or bullet journaling), Mom quiet me-time, saying no when necessary, shopping alone, getting nails, make-up and hair done, enjoying a facial and or a massage, having a glass of relaxing drink, tea, coffee, personal grooming, watching TV series and a long hot relaxing essential oil bath with lit candles and soft music in the background.
Other elements of self include:
Physical: detoxing the body, eating healthy, drinking water, exercise, resting, taking a brisk or relaxing walk, yoga sessions, diffusing and purifying the air, switching off and taking a breather outside the house.
Professional (Work): planning, online home-based business, general business, working or studying part-time, taking an online course on Udemy and learning something new.
As well as these elements:
Psychological: reading, tuning out and cutting those bad voices, friends and negative people in your life, cutting yourself some slack, listening to music, practice self-positive affirmations, getting a cleaner for your home, part-time childcare, stop comparing yourself to others, ask for help from husband, family and friends, self-forgiveness, going for rehabilitation and stopping or cutting down on a bad habit.
Social: going out with friends, going to the movies, eating out, visiting friends and family and social phone calls.
Spiritual: attending religious meetings, reading religious books, investing in spiritual ornaments, practicing meditation, joining spiritual groups and prayer.
“Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.” Cecilia Tran.
In conclusion: Self-care as a SAHM means that you don’t forget to feed you, cloth you, heal you, clean you, build you, save you, find a point of release. That is to say that you are making yourself a better person, change you, cultivate, learn, mature you and fight for you.
Other people are simply a helping hand to your existence, but you do you. As a result of practicing self-care as a SAHM your perspective changes, your world is better, happier, self-rewarding and much stronger.
As part of my daily cleaning routine I have been pushing a practice to shower or bath when we just wake up every morning. We usually eat breakfast after the shower.
This wakes me up to carter to the day’s demands and my daily cleaning routine. Another reason for showering in the morning saves me a diaper, because then I don’t have to change my son’s dirty diaper, then waste the clean diaper after taking a shower or bath.
The first thing in my daily cleaning routine
is opening the windows in the bathroom. I open the curtains and blinds in the
bedroom, lounge and the small room to allow some light in. Because it’s winter,
I don’t want the house to get too cold for my son.
Our house is an average two-bedroom house. I place the mop in a bucket of warm water and add 5 drops of eucalyptus, 5 drops of lemon, 5 drops of lavender, 5 drops of lemongrass and 5 drops of tea tree.
I also soak the toilet bowl and the sink in the same mixture adding some baking soda. These 👆are my top five favorite essential oils at the moment. (lavender, tea tree, eucalyptus, lemon and lemongrass).
I go to the lounge, play some music or educational song cartoons like the ABC song for my son. I love to work with music playing in the background.
Playing music keeps me motivated and I do
things faster as my concentration is not on cleaning but dancing and having fun
while getting all icky germs killed.
The next thing in my daily cleaning routine
is to pick things up off the floor. I do this in all rooms all around the
house. I make the bed. I add a few drops of essential oil at the foot of the
My son follows me around the house pacing
up and down, I think that is the way he feels he is contributing. He also
imitates me as I clean.
Afterward, I wipe down my picture frames, bedside cabinet, windowsills, and headboard. I do a quick arrangement in my wardrobes, picking things that may have fallen.
Our bedrooms are carpeted. Sweeping the carpet in the master bedroom concludes the cleaning routine in the master bedroom.
The next is the small room, which is hardly
ever dirty. I simply put staff in order, wipe down the photo frames, windowsills
and sweep the carpet.
Next room is the toilet. I scrub the sink,
bathroom and shower tiles and floor. I wipe down the tiles on walls, windowsills,
I clean the toilet bowl, ensuring that I wipe down the bottom part of the toilet. The sink gets a scrub. I also try to make sure I hang bath towels outside for some fresh air.
I’m off to the lounge. In the lounge, I
dust the couches. Placing the scattered pillows neatly. I put Nathan’s toys
neatly. He has number foam carpets plus a pool full of toys in one corner of
the lounge. I always say ‘there is a child in the house. Everyone should know
I sweep the carpet and the floor. Using microfiber clothes to wipe down the tv, tv stand, picture frames and ornaments I have.
Next place to wipe is countertops in the
kitchen. I add baking soda, a few drops of dishwashing liquid and lemon
essential oil to the stove for soaking.
With lemon essential oil and vinegar, I
wipe ornaments, windowsills, outside the electronics (Kettle, toaster,
microwave, washing machine, etc.). I wipe the outside of the fridge. I then
scrub the stove.
Then I sweep the whole house except
bedrooms as I already did them. (I open the windows and keep the doors closed
in the bedrooms).
Afterward, I hand wash dishes. Then I mop the
whole house. As the mop has been soaking in that water I mentioned earlier.
The tiles come out sparkling and clean. Those essential oils are good tile cleaners and add good shine. I have flowers in most rooms of my house. my husband loves to buy me flowers. I love to spray or drop my essential oils on them for a refreshed smell in the room.
My finishing touch is my DIY spray with my
essential oils for a topping smell. I through the garbage from inside into the
big garbage bin outside.
And open the front door for some air as well. This concludes my daily cleaning session for the morning.
I do laundry weekly on Wednesdays or Thursdays. I like to add 5 to 7 drops lemon essential oil to get rid of stains on laundry and tea tree essential oil to kill bacteria and disinfect laundry to my washing powder. I must say baby food and poop stain easily.
I fold and pack the clothes away immediately
they are dry, later during the day. I use this opportunity to tidy up the
clothes and shoes in wardrobes.
I vacuum all the carpets and hard to reach
corners. I scrub the carpets with light water and my favorite essential oil
A garbage disposal service collects the garbage
bin weekly on Thursdays at 8 am. We have a cleaning service that cleans the
outside loan on Thursdays.
I clear out and clean the inside of the
fridge once a week with vinegar, lemon essential oil and tea tree essential oil
to disinfect and kill bacteria. I wipe walls, kitchen cabinets, light switches,
and doors once a week with my favorite essential oil blend.
I clean walls, windows and the glass
sliding door in the lounge twice a month.
This concludes my daily cleaning routine. What is your daily cleaning routine? Comment down 👇 below.
Please don’t forget to be cautious when
using essential oils and keep them away from children. I don’t need a carrier
oil as I am using these oils for cleaning.
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Cultivate that relationship with yourself. The most important relationship you can ever have is a relationship with yourself. I lay in bed at 12 to 1 am and I think. My mind is racing, jumping from topic to topic as I self reflect. I have not done this in a while. Life has been too busy.
I have been too busy being a good mom and a good wife I forgot about being me. Being Natasha. Yes, a mom and wife are part of my description but they are not only who I am. It is only a part of this gigantic puzzle called Natasha. Nowadays if you ask me who I am. I will simply tell you I am a mom and a wife.
this, a SAHM dedicated to her being a SAHM perfected to excellence.
Her kids are all grown now. Does she continue to be a SAHM? What does she do now? All those years were dedicated to the children and the home. What’s her self worth? Another instance could be you gave yourself and everything to a man in a relationship or marriage.
Your life was perfect. Till he up and leaves you for another, how dare he! or less fortunately he dies. Where does that leave you? Today, my mind ponders on relationships.
My mother is moving overseas. Sister is already living overseas. Father is moving to another town. My brother is moving on his own. I feel like a perfect puzzle piece being broken and strung across the world. Or parts of a body being cut off and joined to another and shipped off.
My family has always been close-knit. But with time differences, no personal interaction, new puzzle pieces, will we stand the test of time? We will video call and keep in communication. But sometimes you just crave for humanly interaction. Where you meet face to face and talk. Memories are made that way.
should you cultivate that relationship with yourself?
One thing relationships have taught me is that everything can change with the flip of a coin. Priorities, virtue, time, space and people change. I’m afraid to admit I lost one too many friends because she decided her boyfriend was better than me or because she decided I no longer belonged in her circle, or she could not use me for her own selfishness.
All the times and efforts we spent building and cultivating were useless because she now had a ‘Bae’ and ‘besty’ to fill her most precious time and needs. People change with a flip of the coin. Do not find your self-worth in other people. Cultivate that relationship with yourself.
You are enough. You and you make the perfect couple. When all else is gone or they are all grown for whatever reason, you have yourself to account to. You were there since your birth, in good health and bad health, good times, average and bad times. There were times when you were lonely and through your mistakes.
You had you and you will still have you till death do part. Cultivate that relationship with yourself. It is the most important relationship. Give yourself a break and enjoy your time.
Cultivate that relationship with yourself.
Hey, you won’t have it forever. Give parts of you to other people but not your whole self to a point where you don’t recognize who you are. Don’t find value in other people. Cherish and take exceptionally good care of you.
When you do this everything else falls into place. When that one up and leaves you know your value and self-worth. They won’t stop you from flourishing and growing. You are worth more than rubies. Rubies are one of the most fragile yet strong, delicate, rare and most expensive jewels.
Enjoy your relationships and give. But don’t lose yourself. Enjoy the most precious relationship with you and everything to do with you. Make yourself a better person. Cultivate that relationship with yourself. The best and only rewarding thing you can do is take care of you. Taking care of someone else is exhausting and most times go unnoticed and unappreciated.
who you are today.
You know who you are and what you have
done. How far you have come, the obstacles that you have faced and mountains
you failed and climbed, only you know you best. So do you right. Put this to an
end now. That person was not with you in your mother’s womb. That person was
not with you every single step of your life, especially during your down times.
Put them to an end.
Stop putting your self-worth in someone else’s hands apart from you and your God, no one else deserves it. Yet don’t put your needs above all else that others suffer. Cultivate the relationship with you. Build who you are so you can better build others. That is our purpose in life. Boom, I just hit a light bulb. Your purpose in life is you.
In conclusion, cultivate that relationship with you. A person cultivates a relationship with themselves by cutting people that suck the life out of you from your life and putting your self first. Just as every relationship takes time and patience, do that with yourself.
By grooming, cherishing and loving who you are. Feed yourself, drink plenty of water, cloth yourself, take necessary medication for healing, by practicing self-care you are cultivating yourself. You will know your worth.
When the arrows come and try to destroy your self relationship, they will be your cupid to make to fall more in love with yourself. When this happens your perspective changes. Your world is better, happier, self rewarding and much stronger. Give yourself credit, you stayed even in your darkest hour. That’s what matters the most.